Now I’m looking up the difference between Swedish pancakes and American pancakes. Now I’m very hungry! 
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No, I’m not sure. I’ve thought about stuff to join but the issue is there just isn’t anything nearby. The nearest city is 1.5 hours drive. The nearest town is 30mins and it’s a college town so most of the “activities” I’m aware of are bar crawls.
So I just don’t know. Seems like anything social will involve booze. It’s semi rural, hunting, meeting up in parking lots to drink Bud Light before meeting in another parking lot to drink more Bud Light… going to church… Is about all I can think of.
I may go to the lake tomorrow to see if the swimming beach is open yet but still. That’s kind of boring to do alone.
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I’m 2 weeks sober today. Delighted with the 2
Weeks. I’m feeling a lot better and each day I can see more small improvements. Taking it one day at a time
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American pancakes are thick and fluffy, eaten with maple syrup and or butter fro what I know.
Swedish pancakes is thin and mostly eaten with sugar or jam.
We do as always with everything, some cross cooking and combine things without any rules, as long as it’s good.
I usually have my Swedish pancakes with Maple syrup. (I don’t eat butter, the texture and the flavor is strange to me) 
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Todays been a good day so far. I had a weekend hike planned with my 2 closest friends but it’s ended up snowing where we planned to go. I was a bit disappointed but even so it’s been a good time to hang out together playing games and chatting. We’ll get dinner going soon. I’m surprised at myself for not having much anxiety today but am happy for that and going with it. Anyways I’m glad so far my weekend is going well despite my change of plans.
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Oh yeah! 
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Hey all, checking in on day 1399. I hope everybody has a good one!
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Day 7. What a week. Probably more lows than highs but still feeling positive.
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I love how I can chat about pancakes with European folks at 4 am, sober …you are never alone unless you choose to be! 
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Actually, and honestly, I feel it’s what’s behind that. It’s some sort of defense and coping mechanism. Something caused it. Or many things. Well, nothing a good therapist can’t handle. And which you can address. I think therapy is a good idea. Success.
Great weather here btw.
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When I still was using, I quit and ran away from any therapy and therapist. Left the last one without paying the last sessions. Never made a secret of it when I tried again sober. Nobody was bothered.
Most important IMHO is you find a therapist that clicks with you. More important than any actual therapy they give. Oh, and stay sober of course.
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Are you contacting your kids as well and initiating contact? I don’t know the whole story around this, but just wondering if you are trying to contact them and meeting no response?
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Hi
On the back of my divorce my kids. (23 and 18) blame me for not giving their mum a chance after she had an affair. So have pretty much sided with her and cut me and most of my family out. I have tried to keep in contact, offers to meet up or visit me here but no takers. They do know where I am when it’s birthdays. And Christmas. But I think I’ve not received a Christmas, birthday or father’s day card in over four years? All of it is sadly not something I can blame on drinking and nor can they as I wasn’t drinking at the time
It’s mainly down to I didn’t want to stay with their.mum and their mum actually has alot more money than me (inherited)
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Hard one, sorry to hear. All I can say is that it can be really hard on a kids mind to translate adult actions and if it’s not explained explicitly then it leaves a whole space for their own narrative to fill in gaps. Who knows what they REALLY thought around that time. I would honestly say don’t give in, keep sending the supportive messages and cards and being there. You will need to do this with no thoughts of reciprocation (which I can imagine is really horrible for you, sorry). But you send out what you want to attract. Maybe one day they are ready to fill in all those blanks. I know they are adults, but really inside and around family units the brain can be a child still, a really hurt child.
If you can, resolve to be the relentless dad. You love them. Sending good wishes. I know this is hurtful to you.
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Thanks. I find it hard as I’m so close to my parents and see so much of my new partners family and mine are just invisible. It’s time none of us get back
Anywayw have a fab day
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That looks Soo nice, now I have another thing to try 
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So true. This forum is amazing in that way (and many others)
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I was good at begging
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Day 99 AF
Nothing new. Be well.
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