Checking in. I haven’t posted in a while because I had a lot of work and got really exhausted. My surgery that was scheduled for tomorrow got postponed today by two months, because I got sick. It seems that I will never get through that, it just keeps floating ahead of me forever. Two months feels like eternity now and it won’t even be sure then, because I can get sick again or anything else can happen. I’m so tired of the constant waiting, and starting over the examinations, because I can’t yet really find joy in everyday life, it just feels so pointless.
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Thank you Davina I appreciate your spreading the positive energy! Have a wonderful day!
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Checking in on day 532 alcohol free.
I hope you’ve all had a super & sober weekend.
Hugs n’ kisses to all of you 
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@icebear 
Was wondering a little bit. Good to hear from you 
@acromouse Awe 
I’m jelly over the Cirque du Soleil! I was obsessed with that when I was a kid and I’ve never had the chance to see it. Hope you had a blast!
@GOKU2019 Crazy dream, man! It was so weird bc seconds after I read the fireworks part, my neighbor shot off a whole bunch of them 
Not sure why 
It’s 4pm.
@Noshame Morning workouts are tough at first. It’s really just getting past the first couple weeks. It helps me to plan and think about my workout as I’m falling asleep, kinda psyching myself up. This won’t sound right but, the key to beating that morning fatigue is movement. Get your blood flowing. Don’t immediately go sit on the couch, look at your phone, or turn on the tv. The sooner you start moving, the sooner you’ll get that energy. Idk if you have to go to work after but when I first started, I’d force myself to get it done with the reward of a nap after 
Eventually I didn’t even need one. Determination and consistency will turn this into a habit you look forward to. Good luck 
@JazzyS Thanks! I didn’t try super hard pushing the stud thru. I probably could squeeze a smaller one in but I really didn’t want to feel anymore pain last night 
I am better today 
Unusual afternoon check in.
So we had this 100 person luncheon today that started at noon. Me and one other were scheduled at 8:30 bc they were coming to set up/decorate at 9am, everyone else at 11:30. Boss put me on in case they needed any rearranging as my coworker is 65. Well…no one showed up until 10:45! There wasn’t anything for us to get ready! By the time it started, I was so tired 
I couldn’t fall asleep again last night and maybe got 4 hours. Luckily I woke up virtually pain free, so that was nice 
Shockingly though, our boss let the 2 of us leave after we served dessert so I was out by 2!
It’s been nice having this rare, extra time to myself before having to drive to pick up my daughter. Got to catch up here and I’ll be able to make it to the petstore for catfood before it closes, which is good bc otherwise I might get eaten tonight 
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Day 28.
Getting closer to that month mark. Happy to be back at work today (family business, mostly home based 
). Something to take the mind off so many things going on at home - designing new home build within an unrealistic budget, raising 2.5 yr old, pregnant wife etc. overall life is amazing right now though, which is something I wouldn’t have said 29 days ago.
I feel like when you have lots going on and problems to solve, and you go and do something else to take your mind off it, your brain is subconsciously figuring out how to solve those problems. You come back with new ideas on how to solve your problems.
Drinking takes your mind and your subconscious mind off everything and doesn’t solve a gat dam thing. I’m thinking this is why hobbies, exercising etc is so important and helps maintain balance. Your brain is getting different juices and pulling different levels during these activities.
Have a great day and week everyone.
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@joyce19 So grateful you stuck it out and did not buy any wine. Glad you were able to have good conversations with your son. Keep up the strong efforts friend – you are doing great 
@lotusflower Sending you many good vibes for your first day back at work.
@wahtisnormal I am so sorry my friend. I can imagine how lonely you feel but please know you are loved and you are not Alone. 
Are you able to join meet ups or other groups in your area – I have learned that it is still possible to make good connections even now. Sending you loads of love Zoe! 
@tomek Oh man that sucks! I am sorry that you got sick and that your surgery had to be moved out. Very frustrating indeed. I know it feels like a long time away, it will go by quickly my friend (I know that is hard to imagine). I have hope that all will go well and you will finally get it then. Trying to give you positive hope 
@just_laura lovely to see that you are feeling better today and fairly pain free! I don’t blame you on not trying to add pain. I swear I let a few holes close up and do the same thing to try to reopen them only to let them tighten up again. Not sure why I go through the cycle.
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So I know bc is because but I was wondering if it was BC and you traveled back in time. Haha
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So early! 830 bc is obnoxiously early 
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Congratulations to everyone on another day! Hope all is well.
Today is Day 116. Back at home, been getting things situated for the rest of the week and now relaxing in the recliner, watching ‘Take My Tumor’. Not a whole bunch going on.
Also wanted to apologize to everyone for my post with me and my boys shirts off.
#ODAAT Have a good day y’all.
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Psh, it felt like that long ago 
I’m dead right now 
It’s funny, I don’t use alot of abbreviations, but always use bc (and idk and thru). Saves space
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Yes I am replying to myself…i like busy weekend but my God I am overstimulated. Had the first tiny niggle in a while to have a sip of beer. Been a long time since the thpught ever even entered my mind, so I wanted to post that shit right away.
I can dig all I like and Im sure theres other emotional stuff but never underestimate the vulnerability of an overstimulated mom. Xo.
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Yes to this and your allowing yourself TIME to not be in the mental space of constantly trying to solve. Things have a way of working themselves out (not to say it doesnt take work, effort or planning…but even with all these things in place), shit js going to work out how its going to work out and when we’re not so fixated in our brain on the way we tjink it should be or has to be, somehow we make due with how things turn out. Best to you & congrats on your days! One month is right around the corner 
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Checking In
Does anyone have any advice on how to stop overthinking about dilemmas that haven’t happened yet and probably won’t?
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Haha bro this was my life!! My wife was and still is instrumental in quieting my brain when I get on a roll with overthinking and “what ifs”
I guess it’s taken a lot of work but it boiled down to:
If I can do something about the problem/potential problem, then I shouldn’t worry, because I have control.
If I can’t do something about the problem/potential problem, then I shouldn’t worry, because it isn’t up to me.
I also follow Murphy’s law - what can go wrong, will go wrong, and out of all the things that can go wrong, the worst thing will go wrong. And breaking this law will lead to consequences. It’s something like that.
Edit: I forgot to mention that by following this law, you consciously focus on doing things right and proper to begin with, so if something goes wrong, you can be confident you did the best you could given the circumstances.
Then I’ve also added, not to worry about things until they happen. This includes not letting myself be upset in a time of happiness because something bad could happen to the good thing. Just enjoy it while it’s here, then if something bad happens, deal with it then.
I used to be an emotionaland anxious wreck and some days I am still a little, but it’s taken a few solid years of reprogramming and constant mindfulness.
See council or doctor if problems persist 
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It’s funny bc I just read this article a couple hours ago and overthinking is #1.
I used to always get stuck in these downward spirals of what ifs and negative outcomes. Initially, I learned acceptance in order to leave my past behind me. For the future, mindfulness. It’s really just retraining your brain into living in the moment. Realizing the future is completely out of your control and there’s no possible way of knowing what will happen next (unless you’re psychic I guess🔮). When you catch yourself wandering down that path, bring it back to reality. Find a real life distraction to focus on. Keep at it consistently and soon it’ll come naturally.
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There are some that help me,
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Mostly it are things that will never happen or are not there yet, why let it spoil your day today (got myself that suggestion yesterday)
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Serenity prayer, mostly it are things you can’t control so why bother now
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Call sponsor/fellow/spouse and vent it out
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Take a moment a day to write those thought of overthinking down, trying to implement that one myself. Not easy, but they say when done daily it should diminish the overthinking to the timeframe you pick-up pen and paper.
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Day 8
No Alcohol
No Tobacco
Wake up before alarm knock, Attended Online AA meeting.
Getting ready to go work
Go bless everyone:)
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Checking in day 1038. Haven’t been around much, as I haven’t really felt like I had much to offer. Hope everyone is doing well.
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Congrats on 8 days. Keep up your hard work. I am a believer in AA. MAY YOU FIND STRENGTH IN THE MEETINGS.
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