So sorry for your loss Laner.
She sounds like a truly amazing human, this planet needs more people like her.
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Oh i am SO sorry for your loss my friend. She sounded like a strong, kind, and compassionate woman. Sending u strength and healing as you go through this difficult time.
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Can i ever relate to ur post about working out. If it wasnt for situations out of my control forcing me to not be able to work out, id be there everyday. I think its that “all or nothing” thinking that alot of addicts or alcoholics experience. But ur right, the body needs rest to recover, especially if u push urself hard during ur work outs. Hppe u have a restful day friend!
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Congratulations on 30 days!!! Great job!!!
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So sorry for your loss Laner. What a gift this lady has been for you. And what a beautiful tribute you made here. Much love 
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Checking in 4 years sober today!
Four years ago, i was a mess. Working from home during the pandemic did me no favors. It was just more hours in the day for me to drink. After a horribly drunken vacation week at the beach, which i scarcely remember, i decided enough was enough. I’d been to rehab, counseling, AA, even psych wards and jail, in the past, but this time, i was ready to really make a change. It hasn’t always been easy, but it’s definitely been worth it. Im so grateful to be sober and for this community.
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WOW!!! Congratulations on 4 years of sobriety!!! Amazing work 
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What a beautiful tribute to her memory, she will always be with you in the lessons she gave you and her guiding hand and acceptance into her heart. Sending my condolences on your loss. You gained so much having had her in your life and I’m sure it was the same for her.
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I’m sorry for your loss. Loosing such an important person is hard. May she always be in your heart.
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I am so sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in your memories. Sending hugs.
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4 years is amazing!
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@allswell congrats on 3 weeks 
@Saa welcome to the checking-in thread 
congrats on 2 days
@JennyH good to read from you welcome back congrats on 4 days
@Juli1 you are braver than me for doing it at all 
sorry it sucked though feel better soon 🩵
@Kris congrats on 4 months
@JazzyS thank you 
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@Lighter it really is 
@rikkofl congrats on 2 weeks
@HakeemOsman congrats on 30 days
@ASP welcome back
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@Laner I’m so sorry for your loss 
@Shel75 congrats on 4 years 
1506 days no alcohol.
971 days no cocaine.
2 days no vape.
1 day no binge-eating.
My car passed it’s MOT (annual safety checks) yesterday, so that was a relief.
Had to listen to my dad lecturing me about my size as usual, and trying to tell me what I should eat, and continuing to do so after I asked him to stop. I wasn’t with him for a huge amount of time whilst waiting to pay for my MOT, but it was long enough. (He’s obese himself and him and my step-family all live off takeaways for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, so the hypocrisy is ridiculous 
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I forgot to take my morning meds when I fed the cats at 2am, so I have spent most of the day feeling not quite right and wondering why, until I realised at 10am and took them then.
I’ve been doing some meditations while I waited for my meds to settle in. I feel a bit better now.
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It’s a good question and not one that I have a comprehensive answer to.
I was away from home, in the sun and traditionally, I associate that with drinking. I was stressed from work and somewhere it was difficult to access support. I made the decision to drink in the belief it would make me feel better.
It was regrettable and something that I will work on not happen again.
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A relapse is not a happy event and I know it is. I’ve had a couple too. It helped me to look back to it as you are doing right now. What made me do it and how can I avoid doing it again?
Learning something out of it makes the relapse less bad, at least for me. I had a big relapse after 5 years sober because I thought I was “cured” and could handle it again. Tried moderation, well that wasn’t it. So quit again and learned moderation was a no go.
This above is a good thing to discover too! Now you know you are extra fulnerable in those situations. I for example ate no pizza for a long time because I couldn’t eat it without red wine. When I had more sober days it was no issue anymore. You will find your way too 
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Checking in with 95 days sober!
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Thank you for the lovely welcome back. I feel like a bit of a fraud as I have had a major push to be sober but I want to use this time to work on my plan so I don’t make the same mistakes over and over.
I found out at the weekend that I was pregnant. A huge shock! I am 43 with a 15 and 13 year old. I didn’t think it would be possible but here we are. My age makes this very risky and I am struggling to process it all, but I think it is all going to have to be one day at a time. My gallbladder operation was scheduled for next week so has been cancelled which is quite frustrating.
Anyway, Day 5. Thank you all for reading
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Ah Jenny hi 
Congratulations to you!! Sorry about the surgery; that seems to have been going on for ages!?
Nice to see you back!
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I know, mainly my fault as I kept delaying the tests to avoid it, well that backfired 
Nice to be back again
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298 days
Checking in in the morning as I forgot to last night. Back is feeling better, not 100% yet but I’m going to try a light workout and get it moving a bit.
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