Friday work morning check-in. Very tough day today, one of the hardest weeks Iāve had in months as a working parent. been up since 2 AM. Daughter needed a diaper change, and lots of cuddles, and my wife and I didnāt get back to sleep. Iāve been working my ass off without adequate recovery, and not sleeping much this week. My wife said she could make dinner tonight, which should be a nice break for me, because itās been on me the last few nights after work this week.
I know I will get through this little rough patch, I just need it to happen so badly ASAP.
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Maybe you should try to find something to distract yourself. Movies, books, music, hobbies , anything which you enjoy. Any form of physical exercise helps a lot.
I am on day 12, and keeping myself busy has helped me a lot. I have tried to give up drinking, and relapsed several times. I also suffer from BPD and CPTSD, which makes it very tough to deal with normal day to day situations. I know I cannot do this unless I have a plan to deal with my emotions.
I hope things get better for you and you feel better soon. Hang in there, dear friend. It is worth it.
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Thank you so much, big virtual hugs back my friend 
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Thank you Jasmine 
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Checking in. My friend is going crazy again. He doesnāt have any diagnose, but heās clearly bipolar and/or borderline. For the past three days heās been in a blissful state, full of love and compassion and rejecting all substances. But today he has abandoned all his principles, heās full of hate and he says ārock n roll, go smoke weed, drink booze and enjoy of life!ā Itās so draining trying to be his friend because I never know what is his mood when he wakes up. I tried to answer to him with kind words, but he just went bananas and started to call me a loser etc. and I should smoke weed because then Iām real according to him. I havenāt answered to his insults. Heās so draining that I have to cut all communications with him. Heās clearly in pain, but I have to think myself and my sobriety foremost. I canāt help him, he need professional help, but he refuses. So sad. I wish him all the best.
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Day 1020
Morning!! Its 1030 here and ive already got the living room & bedroom floors vaccumed, kitchen floor & bathroom floor swept and mopped, and dishes done. I had a teacher/parent conference zoom mtg this morning and that went well. Now my son has an appt at 11 and then we can relax until we have to go get his snowpants. All n all its been a good day so far. No complaints here lol Hope everyone is enjoying their friday addiction free.
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I do hope you get some rest soon. I know how exhausting it is to keep going on little sleep and I canāt imagine adding the care of a toddler to the mix. It will get easier 
. Just remember that drinking will not help any and wonāt give you any relief. ODAAT 
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Unfortunately you canāt help those who refuse help. You do need to look out for yourself first. Donāt see this as selfish but self preservation. Iām sorry that your friend is going through this but we canāt help someone who thinks they are good and refuse it.
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You cannot do anything for your friend. He is hurting but he will have to find his own way home. All you can do is be there for him, when he needs you. He will need you. Do not try to tell him what to do, or stop him. It will not work. Just be there. He knows what is right and what is wrong but he has to make the choice himself.
I suffer from BPD. Dealing with people and relationships is very difficult. The best way to help is to just be there to listen without judgement.
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Thank you for the wise words @JazzyS and @BrownGecko. Youāre absolutely right. It just makes me sad because when he is in his good moods, heās a really kind and compassionate fellow. But when his mood changes, he goes straight to the other extreme which is really sad to experience, heās like a totally different person. He has even said himself that whatās wrong with him, but he canāt see when heās raging and calling me and others by names etc. Our relationship is really draining and right now I have to protect myself from him because my own mental health and sobriety is priority number one.
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Thanks @JazzyS you are very kind 
I went for a run. Ran all the emotions out of me and feeling a lot better now.
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Happy Friday!
Checkin in. Sober and no hangover. No classes tonight but still work to be done. I have to screen a bunch of t-shirts for an upcoming promotion i have.
MAKE it an awesome day my friends!
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Day 68
Quick check in before bed. Hoping I havenāt catched a flu, Iām little achey.
Wishing everyone a wonderful sober weekend. 
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Checking in!
I am lucky enough to have a very supportive family and do not have to worry about being around alcohol as they know I still have a hard time controlling myself when itās available.
We had a sober Thanksgiving and it was the best Thanksgiving in a long time!
No waking up worrying about what I said or did-
everything seemed so much more authentic that felt really good.
Sending love and support!
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Hey beautiful people 
Checking in Day 13
Feeling a bit low today but know it will pass.
Hope everyone else is surviving the day 
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Day 9. Holidays are coming this is a hard time of year for me, as they are for alot of people i think. Have a great day eveyone
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Checking in! 
I havenāt checked in in a few days, but things are going fine! Busy days at work! Iām still abstaining from any self destructive behavior! (No booze, cigarettes as well as controlling my ED - hitting 2 weeks today)
As of today Iām off 2 weeks! Thatās also a first one for me, usually I only take one week at the time.
Tomorrow I have the charity concert I mentioned some days ago, where Iāll be helping as a volunteer. Theyāve scheduled me for 4 hours at the food stand + all the setup beforehand. At least Iām not at the booze standā¦ 
Peanut is doing fine! No more wounds at the moment, they have all healed and nothing new has appeared, fingers crossed! 
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Day 1. Sigh. Here I am again humbly restarting my timer.
I traded 35 days of sobriety for 5 days of binge drinking, lying and hiding it. Enough is enough.
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Love it!!! Thatās awesomeā¦hope you can rest now
@Raspberry sending healing vibes. Hope you are able to rest and let your body help
@grayce1 oh thatās lovely. Glad to hear of your sober Thanksgiving
@JP123 big hugs!!! Tomorrow is 2 weeks. .hope that streak brings a smile to your face . Sending comforting hugs
@ladybug1974 we are here for you and with you ā¦ this time of year is hard but can be made easier with support ODAAT
@Jesile so happy to hear that no new woundsā¦hope that Peanut keeps healing and stays wound free
@james83 sorry that you relapsed and had a 5 day bender. Grateful to see you back at it and doing day 1. 
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Quick afternoon check inā¦had two marketplace appointments today. One lady told me she was unable to come 20 min after her scheduled time and the other one in the guys showed up 1.5 hrs late. Just grateful that the pool table sold so thatās one more thing gone. Really testing my patience and trying not to get worked up with peopleās inconsideration.
Back home and in bedā¦ enjoying the snow from a warm indoor setting.
Wishing everyone a wonderful addiction free day - sending you all so much love
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Day 524. Second check jn. Ridiculous evening. Felt like a whiskey for my nerves abd frustration but going to bed insteadā¦ the past two days have been awfully stressfulā¦with some visitorsā¦and after a walk tomoro a.m things will settle down again i hope
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