They said i cant have a separate case open and my little ones dads account will be the primary…
And that they will send a letter with a final determination…
So…i hope it goes ok.
End of day 844
Money stress and depression but im sober
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844 Days! That’s amazing and so are you! Hoping things will get better/ ease up soon!
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Sending good luck vibes. Hope you hear good news soon 
Sorry friend. You are staying sober through it all and I know hats times don’t make that easy so be proud of yourself and your strength. 
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Thanks ladies!
Im just worried about the food assistance case being combined. If its on the card with his name, he wants to use/sell (
) the money on it “as he sees fit”
And I think any and all food purchases should be for the household necessities.
For instance last month he got $290 and spent over $100 at the corner store for candy, chips, and individual drinks…
When a couple of big bags of chips and one or two candies, and even a splurge gallon of koolaid/tea/juice could have been bought at the grocery store for less than half that. 
I dont want my kids to not have enough nutritious meals because he wanted to go to the corner store 3,4,5 times a day…
And yes i feel like i sound controlling. But it is the way i feel. Ive always been the one who had to keep things going. I dont think he ever really grew up in that sense
And then what about when we cant see eye to eye?
Gah
… ramblimg overthinking me
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Snow would definitely add a level of difficulty
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These are very valid concerns and you don’t seem controlling to me.
I too would be just as worried. Really hope that they don’t bundle the two of you together. I really hope they heard your case and will make a ruling accordingly.
Big hugs to you. Hope you can shut off those thoughts and get some sleep 
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Day 132
Wonderful sober weekend everyone. 
It’s saturday morning here and I’m waking up with second cup of tea and a cat in my lap. Don’t know if it’s anti depressants finally kicking, sobriety or other changes in my life but I feel the darkest cloud is gone. I am filled with new kind of energy, I want to do things even after work days. Before I tried to just survive and do the bare minimum that had to be done.
Last year was awful, I went through burn out and I’m still trying to recover from that. “Thanks” to burn out I notice I get tired more easily, like returning to work after couple weeks of vacation sucked my energy for week and a half. But I do bounce back eventually, I just need to be patient.
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It’s not controlling at all. Valid concerns and fears. Keep pleading your case as much as possible. What he’s doing is irresponsible and negligent. But it may be the way it is, and it will be him that you have to deal with and not the “system”
I’m sorry 
. I don’t know why he won’t just give it all to you. You take care of everything else. I will keep my fingers crossed for the best.
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Good morning all 
@Raspberry must be great to experience this new kind of energy and productivity! I know burnout is very hard (my burnout was a couple of yrs ago and still affects me), but it can also teach you the real values of where to put your energy.
@CR84 migraines are awful. I hope you feel much better now! 
@Pamela I often feel the same! No motivation to do anything social or other stuff. Weird huh? Maybe its because we’re not that far along yet, and we are not completely used to living sober and changing our way of life? It’s interesting to think about and I am wondering if I can change that mindset or if it will happen ‘along the way’.
Checking in today feeling hungover without any drinking. Have a headache and feel tired even though I slept well. Probably because my week was way too busy… Going to get myself out of bed now and get a coffee. After that need to take care of the horses as I have another appointment in the afternoon. I just want to do nothing today… And I also have a weekend shift, so tomorrow I need to work. Going to try to balance it out by keeping the evenings to myself and chilling. I can’t wait for a time where I feel I have the energy again to plan stuff without it draining me.
Have a great day/evening/night everyone!
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Day #5:
Good morning everyone. Day #5 for me today, and almost approaching that one week milestone. I’m feeling fairly refreshed this morning; my sleeping pattern is improving as my body gradually begins to heal. However, some say that it can take a while to fully feel the benefits of no alcohol when it comes to your sleeping pattern - i.e. Not waking up in the middle of the night or it taking a while to shut off; I’m the total opposite… As soon as my head hits the pillow, I’m out like a light & could virtually sleep through an impending war 
I had my last drink on Monday, so this is the first full weekend I’m experiencing again without alcohol. I won’t lie, a good friend of mine owns a pub/bar and I’d often go for the karaoke on a Friday/Saturday night. It was always an inclusive atmosphere (with or without alcohol), and I have made some good friends from those evenings out. My partner is working nightshift for the next 4 evenings, so I was planning on going along and maybe just having a Coke or a non-alcoholic drink. However, I’m reconsidering my choices. I’m not entirely sure how I’d feel or if it would act as a trigger this early into the process, and spending loads of money at this moment in time isn’t something I should be doing too much of as I’m still in the process of finding a new job after being let go from my last post.
Nevertheless, I went for a nice 3 mile walk yesterday afternoon and then settled down in front of the TV with a pizza. This morning, I’m intending on going to the local Parkrun as I’m only 5-6 runs away from reaching the milestone of 50 Parkruns. Got a bit of grocery shopping to do, a sh*t-ton of ironing (call me crazy, but it’s always been a chore that I find rather therapeutic…) & then instead of going out, spending money & putting myself into a potentially vulnerable situation, I might just have a quiet evening in front of the TV. Nevertheless, whatever I decide to do, one thing remains constant - ODAAT. Have a great day everyone!
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It has been uncomfortable but valuable lesson. I know it will take time to heal and this year I’m working on finding balance between work and personal life.
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Please share your medals as well. I am not an outdoor runner/biker, so doing virtual challenges is great. I can log the distance from spin classes… and hell a good spin class gives you some miles.
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Day 36 check-in
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@Lighter I am sorry to hear insomnia is bothering you. It just messes your brain up. Online meetings help me when I am experiencing a lot of anxiety. I hope you get to enjoy the brilliant weather
@AEGFletcher Exposure to people and places that might trigger you, especially those where you used to use, is a tricky thing. Most people will advise to give yourself time. As long as I was not sure how I would react I avoided them. With time the idea did not bother me any more and so I usually would not be triggered. Take the time you need.
@Marit It takes time for your body and mind to rebalance and heal. Give yourself time, be patient, invest in nice self care routines.
@Raspberry So glad to hear you are feeling so much better 
@Scorpn You are not controlling. You are taking care of your family. This should be his priority too. I am sorry you are in a situation where the other person is having trouble behaving like an adult.
@Mno Once again, so many thanks 
That picture made me so happy I put it on the lock screen of my ipad 
Very glad to hear you had such a wonderful day with beautiful weather.
@s_unrelax Congrats on your week! Great job. Good to hear you started your day with a meeting. Take care of yourself.
@sober26 Congrats on your first month! 
That’s a great achievement. Do something nice for yourself to celebrate. You deserve it.
@MrFantastik Wait until you discover the multi-caches and those with puzzles and stuff. Also the night ones are great fun. Glad to hear you all had so much fun
@zzz Once again thanks for your gifs. I always enjoy them and look forward to them 
437 sugar
301 UPF
175 gluten/dairy
Woke up late and just made it to my morning meeting before the shares. It’s Saturday so I slept in a bit. It’s a freezing and beautiful weather outside today. I am going to take care of my it tools and my plants, do some chores, exercise, and finally get to the new episode of my favourite anime show The Apothecary Diaries.
Today’s picture is one my mum send me from Uluru on her trip in Australia.
Peace and love always 
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Checking in 1 solid Month no alcohol!!! Feeling great
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Congrats! Keep it up
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Checking in on Day 37.
Happy Saturday everyone. I don’t go in to work until 9 but have been awake since 4:30. Going to brave getting out of my warm bed soon to take the dog out and get my ass on the treadmill for a bit because I’ve been slacking lately. Between working almost 50 hours a week and my family some days it’s challenging to be motivated to do anything that is actually for me. It’s definitely something I need to work on. Scrolled through so many great posts here and it’s great to see all the days are stacking up everywhere. To all of you who are fighting the winter colds and flus I hope you get better soon. Here’s to another sober day and making good choices
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Hey all, checking in on day 1693. I hope everybody has a good one!
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Day 30
I feel hungover. Thankfully it’s not that and just the flu aftermath. Still having a headache, sore muscles, tired and low in energy despite all the hours of sleep I had this week.
I have two diner appointments this weekend plus tons of shit to do. Hopefully tomorrow will be better 
I am yearning for spring and summer, totally fed up with this cold weather!
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