Evening check-in! 
Work was ok today, I got a lot of stuff done!
After work I did my workout at home; 2 x 12-minute tabata + 30 minute punch bag workout.
Now I’m relaxing on my sofa with the kitties, watching TV! 
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If you are scared to get sober, just now I was too… but EVERYTHING got better. - modsun
This guy is my inspiration. 684 days ago I watched a YT video of his and now I’m here. Thank you modsun
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Checking in on day 44!Hope everyone has a good weekend!
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Checking in on day 542. Not much to report. @Tragicfarinelli I love your list of Britishness 
when i catch myself doing the sorry thing I have to laugh, ive seen so many comedians send that up in their routines 
might i suggest adding: eating chips on a windy cold beach while protecting your food from seagulls and having a stick of rock for dessert 
have a fun Friday you fine folks…sober, of course 
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Checking in day 18, still not feeling great and my mood has been a bit shit today. Find myself thinking over stuff from the past that has upset me. For example a friend of mine who always seems to say stuff about me (usually about when I’ve been drinking) that is kind of humiliating in front of other people. Dunno why I’m thinking about this today and I know I’ve only myself to blame for doing stupid things when drunk. I just don’t understand why he has to bring it up in front of other people and can’t just say it to me if he has a problem with something. Some of it isn’t even anything I’ve done on purpose but he paints it as an aggressive act. For example we were playing a game, I was a bit drunk, others had also been drinking and I accidently elbowed this guy in the face. He wasn’t hurt or anything. Complete accident and I didn’t even realise it happened. Then literally 6 months later I’m with my friend and someone else and my friend said ‘yeah you elbowed him in the face’ in like a mocking tone. I don’t know maybe I’m over reacting or being sensitive but why bring this up now, it was obviously an accident. And he always bringing things up like this, often worse stuff than this like if I’ve got overly emotional or something when drunk - which is fine bring it up, talk to me about it if you’re unhappy with my behaviour, often times I am in the wrong - but why always do it in front of others like ‘oh you you did X’ when he’s never mentioned it to me before. And brings it up in a group with new people I’ve only just met. Anyway I don’t know why this is bothering me and I know it’s all my fault anyway cause if I didn’t get drunk and act out of character then there would be nothing to say in the first place. 
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Great to see you feeling so positive 
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Ehhh…don’t be so quick to take all the blame. This reminds me of my exes behavior and he was not a good person. He’d always do that in fights to change the subject and shift the attention away from him. His go to was “At least I never got 2 DWIs!”, like 4 years after my 2nd one! Once you can accept your past and leave it there, it won’t matter to you that other’s can’t. Just keep moving forward and he’ll run out of things to say
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Thank you. And yes that’s what I need to do, get some decent sober time under my belt so I can just distance myself from the drunk person who did these things in the first place. Although I think he has done it occasionally with things that have nothing to do with drinking, so maybe he’d just find new material 
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Checking in for a second time today with a chance to really scroll through all your posts this time. Was a tough hectic day at work today and even though the thought of “ man I could really use a f*#king drink right now” did cross my mind the actual super intense craving didn’t come with it this time . Which i am calling a win even though I’m well aware tomorrow could very well be full of cravings again. All I can do is take it ODAAT but it feels a bit easier seeing there are so many doing it with me here.
@Finn I’m sorry you are feeling so down right now. I am hoping your meeting with your psych nurse goes well and hopefully you can find other work soon to get back on your feet with 
@acromouse it’s good to hear you’ve slept well last night
@Raspberry I really hope you enjoy your dinner with your friends😊
@MrMoustache I know I’ve already told you but I’ll say it again anyways . It’s absolutely great that you are feeling better and getting to return home on Monday
@JeremyW Congrats on 13 days !! You must be feeling good about being about to reach your 2 week milestone 
@Betu Congrats on 15 days!!
@StacyAnn Congrats on 18 days and good job working through your cravings last night. Way to stay strong 
@EbenJansen way to go on 16 days!
@Peach666 welcome to the group and Congrats on your first 24 hours!! I can say from experience there are tons of helpful & supportive people here for you if you need it♥️
@CR84 way to go on your 12 days. You are doing great
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Evening check in. My day went completely sideways. Had to deal with the ex and him begging me to get him something knowing I’m clean. I was so infuriated and hurt. Luckily I was strong enough to put my foot down and move on. Threw some push-ups in this morning to get it out. 5 more years and I won’t have to talk to him ever again… but who’s counting lol (my youngest will be 18 in 5 yrs)🩷💜🩷
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Day 13. I’m so upset right now, my heart is beating fast and my anger is through the roof. The neighbor situation is unbearable. I’ve done everything I can think of - hang on, practice acceptance, believe that God wouldn’t give me anything I can’t handle, invest in white noise machines, write a (nicely worded) complaint to the leasing manager, but these people are the most inconsiderate, crazy, loud, clumsy people I’ve ever encountered. Almost 24/7 there is running, banging, all kinds of noise, so loud that it wakes up my wife (who is hard of hearing and wears hearing aids) from her sleep and startles our cat, so it’s not just me, because I know I am already sensitive to noise. I work from home and they are always home too so I never get a break. My home should be a place where I can have peace and quiet. WHY would God give this to me NOW. It’s torture. I’m going to lose my mind. I’m afraid I’m going to drink. I can’t live like this. We even talked about breaking our lease early (expensive) and moving. Does that sound insane? Yes. But what is the alternative? I will write another complaint tomorrow but honestly, since they’re not blaring music or smoking or something, I don’t see how it can be grounds for eviction. They were already given a warning after the first complaint and have not changed their behavior at all. I cannot live like this, much less try to stay sober. I’m losing my mind, I’m so upset.
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Good for you standing your ground!
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I am so sorry you’re having to go through this.
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@Pamela Have you said something to your friends that it is hurtful they keep being this stuff up. If so, they aren’t very good friends. If you have not, maybe you should have conversations about it with them.
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@Catmama23 I totally understand what you’re going thru and really feel for you I was 4 months sober when my building got out of control. My life was chaos that entire summer! I definitely suffered, but I did make it thru without a drink Have you tried earplugs yet? Those, along with my high velocity fan, is how I sleep. You should also research your city’s noise ordinance. Here’s mine, which is strictly enforced from 11pm-7am.
People get the cops called on them all the time…if you feel it’s come to that
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@james83 Way to go friend on steering clear of giving into the FOMO. You are going to have a much better day waking up sober and hitting the gym. I know that sometimes we romanticize our drinking days but we need to remind ourselves of the horrors associated with the addiction. ODAAT
@rosacando OH my! I’m sorry to hear about your furnace. Hopefully you were able to get it looked at today and it is a quick and easy fix. My biggest fear is dealing with a broken furnace on a super cold night. Stay safe and warm 
Oh just saw the update and glad it is working again 
@JULI1 so very sorry for the sad news an the loss of life.
@pamela Sorry you are still feel rough. I do hope you are able to make the meeting and keep a routine. I found it so necessary in the early days cause even if you don’t feel the urges now you don’t realize the guards coming down if that makes sense. Keep reminders around of why moderation wont work and why you want to be sober so at least you can use them to help you stay on track if you can’t make it to a meeting
Sounds like a friend dealing with insecurity and needing to bring out your stuff in order to make themselves feel better. A true friend would not make you feel less than or ashamed over old incidents especially when you are clearly working to better yourself. Sorry that he has done so.
@holysquid Oh sweet Mr Pops… hope he is now able to heal quicker and without discomfort.
@dilettante how are you doing Kiki. I know how frustrating it is to double / triple check everything cause you are fighting your mind and body. Hope you were able to get some good sleep and are doing much better now
@handoferis Grateful that you were able to take care of your tooth and not deal with nerve pain. Like that you are making small attainable goals. I find them to be little victories and a great boost for our mental health. Sorry to hear about your MIL and having to deal with her dementia. Hopefully you are able to get her the care she needs with professionals.
@aussie_tiger So lovely to hear that you are enjoying your trip to the US. Love your 2025 goals too – that Appalachian Trail – now that sounds exciting. Way to go with your 8 months of sobriety… you are doing amazingly well in your recovery and I am very happy for you
@minatasha Way to go with your 5 weeks. Sorry you are not doing well. You have a demanding emotional tasking job. Just staying sober is a huge win for the day. For the first few months I slept so much and played nonsense games on my phone just to get through the day without drinking. You are doing great. I know it may not feel that way but I want you to know that you are! Therapy might will be very helpful. We do need support and someone to help us work through our recovery.
@just_laura Oh wow – ex getting out of jail. Hopefully he had some things sorted out ahead of time and is not blowing in the wind when he gets out. Hopefully it doesn’t all land on your doorstep.
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@catmama23 glad to hear that the interview went well. Hope you hear back from them quickly 
Oh man I’m so very sorry to read about your inconsiderate neighbors. Sorry that the complaint has not been heard and properly addressed. I do like the suggestions Laura gave. Maybe a call to the cops is warranted at this point. Moving is not a crazy thought but I would think that your fees for breaking the lease would be waived if the building manager was unable to take care of noise problems.
I love it! Look at them chips Way to go friend – 110 days and going strong
@MrMoustache Great work on your 2 months no alcohol This is fantastic. I know you are missing home but agree that it is most important that you stay safe and are around those who can help you at the moment. Keep working your recovery Glad that you and your nurse have a solid plan and Monday is your return home. I am so grateful for the support you have around you. So great to hear that you are feeling stronger and more at ease. Our addictions really do mess up our chemical composition and getting our minds / bodies back to a stable setting can take time. ODAAT!
@tragicfarinelli Wow – that is some good paperwork – good stuff on finding the pension funds with $$. Wishing you luck with your weekend – you know we are here if you need us. LOL – your list was very extensive and so intriguing. I may check off a few of those items myself this weekend lol (maybe my time in over the years has rubbed off on me)
@finn Way to go with your 3 weeks. I am sorry that the depressive thinking is taking a front seat for you. You are not a loser. Taking care of your sobriety and mental health while living with your parents is self care. Things will work out in time but for now take this time to work on you (I know that is so much easier said than done). Hopefully you will be able to connect with your psych nurse soon So lovely to read that you are doing better. I do believe that sobriety can cause an identity crisis as we are in a way meeting ourselves for the first time and rewiring our brains and changing up behaviors / routines. It is a lot to take in and adjust to. We can’t do it alone
@raspberry Way to be alert of your addict brain and stay on top of it. Hope you enjoy your sober evening with friends Great to read that you had such a lovely evening. FOMO will come from time to time but I try to then think about all the chaos and ugly aftermath that comes if I did engage.
@littlemissL Sorry to hear that you aren’t feeling well – sending healing energy your way Hope the rest helped
@peach666 way to go with your 1 day milestone in the bag – keep it going strong glad you are practicing some self care too – very important in our recovery
@cr84 Awe thanks love – you are doing great with your 12+ days and I am so glad to be walking this path with you. Absolutely loved meeting your furbabies today. Has taken me all day to visit the check in thread but glad I can do so before going to bed. Love how busy it is here today I’m sorry to hear about your encounter with your ex. You are strong enough and you handled that like a BOSS
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@marit Sorry to hear about your cat – hope he /she is ok. Way to go on rewiring that brain and adding another sober night to your tally!
@zzz Oh I’m sorry you are so sick. I do hope you get some direction with the x-rays and are able to rest and recover quickly! Sending healing vibes your way
@soberella Sounds like a great plan for tomorrow. Do share your puzzle with us on the Share your jigsaw puzzle pics thread. Hope your muscles feel more relaxed and less sore tomorrow
Checking in on Friday evening…Day started off busy. Grateful that I was able to fit in a nap as I did not sleep well last night. Feeling exhausted and head is starting to hurt more so am going to wrap up here and try to meditate.
Wishing everyone a wonderful addiction free day / evening - sending you all so much love.
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Woke up half way through the night with a cramp attack in my calf. The worst. I’ve had this occasionally for decades and I’ll restart taking magnesium today. Well, other people have real problems. Things are going OK. Had a quiet personal weekend, ate well, went skating, should have done something more sociable. Now it’s off to work. let’s have as good a day as we all can friends. Sober and clean or nothing will come of it. Pic is another misty commute one. Love.
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