Just a question, would u love hearing a gay man was thinking about u when he masturbated?
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The golden rule is dumb. Treat people the way they want to be treated, not the way you want to be treated. The golden rule is just another form of projection
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I’m all for women dressing as they want 
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Stereotypes are da bomb. Man only think with his dick right 
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Frankly, I don’t understand this debate. I am an alcoholic and a weed adict. I get triggered when people are drinking or smoking. Does that give me the right to judge them? And ask them to stop drinking because “I get triggered”? HUGE NO. Instead I have to control myself and avoid situtuations if necessary. Just my opinion.
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This is a safezone for addicts though. We don’t post pics of beer or drugs, we’re not even allowed to do so. Why then is it such a big problem to stop posting pictures that are triggering to pmo addicts?
No I would not.
And I’m certainly not advocating that someone follow this “Golden Rule”. It certainly didn’t work for me for many years. But I was just trying to offer an explanation why someone would say such a thing and refer to it as a compliment.
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As I mentioned in my previous post, I wouldn’t agree with that man’s behavior. I’m just trying to offer an explanation why he would do it. Such a person has a warped perception of reality.
I have to be honest with you. I have not met many men that have been able to demonstrate sexual stability 100% of the time. We are all human.
This is the core of it right here. What is it, to be human? Is human fundamentally animal? Is human fundamentally rational? Is human about grace and kindness? Is human about balance?
What is it, to be human?
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Thanks for your answer. For me, I would be equally perturbed by a man or a lesbian making random masturbation comments. I am genuinely confused why a man would like it. Like, from any woman?
And when u said “it doesn’t sound far-fetched” it sounded like u were agreeing with this way of thinking.
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I had a former co-worker tell me that, I don’t think he was joking either.
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I like to think of it now as a discussion to how we can understand one another.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with wanting to understand. Especially if that understanding leads me to more compassion and less judgement and criticism.
As Patrick Carnes wrote in “A Gentle Path through the 12 Steps,”
I commit to reality at all costs, knowing that’s where I’ll find ultimate serenity.
I don’t want to change others, but I do want to understand them.
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You’re raising an amazing point.
Because if a woman’s did this to me, it would feel good. I was wondering if someone was going to bring that up. And you did.
I’m not sure if I can answer why. Why would if a woman said something like that to a man, it would feel good to him? But I know that a lot of men would find that pleasurable. Although, there are others that wouldn’t.
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I have to go now. But I’ll be back later.
But I’m loving this discussion.
Thanks
Seriously? Any woman? Even one u didn’t find attractive? Even if u were in a relationship already? Even a totally random person? I can only speak for myself, but I only enjoy such talk with someone I am already with or literally on the verge of getting together with. And honestly, I get much too self-conscious to enjoy it really.
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It’s meant to be a safezone. And I think that those people could be walking on eggshells because they refuse to adapt to other addictions. That’s just speculation though.
100% stable is the exact opposite of thinking only with his dick. I never claimed men are 100% stable. I know I’m not. I do know that it’s fucked up to tell someone you’re jerking off to them unless you have that kind of relationship with someone.
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When are you gonna start your cult André? You’d be good at it 