Hi Stacey,
Before I comment, I just have a few questions if you don’t mind.
Did you relapse with weed? Or was it something else?
And where exactly did you get access to your DOC?
I relapsed with weed. I went to hang out with a friend and we ended up hanging out for a while. And I dont kno it was like autopilot was on. I just did it. I didnt even give myself any room to try resist. I just full blown went ahead. I know I shouldn’t have but I didnt care at the time.
Which country are you in again Stacey the UK or the US 
New Zealand 
Haha this is THE BEST. I often hear that voice in my head talking me out of contacting someone - saying it’s selfish and that I should have reached out to them when I was doing well, and all kinds of other things. The fact is, I have been helped the most by people in recovery who say something honestly when they are having a hard time, and the people who do that I have noticed tend to get solid recovery often soon after doing that. So great job you! Thank you so much - your message was just what I needed today
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You had moment of unclarity.
I get a lot of those too.
Some practical things that I’ve done to help prepare myself for those is
- Keep really good boundaries for myself.
In a case like yours, I would be careful who I hang around with. A friend like that would clearly be a boundary violation.
Those that do not love recovery will not help me do recovery.
I actually stole this from Reformers Unanimous. The original principle actually reads:
Those who do not love the Lord will not help me serve the Lord.
Pretty profound. We need to be very cautious who we hang around with because that have a huge negative infuence in our lives.
- Here’s a thread started by @CaptAZ decribing the impact that read time on TS has.
Check out the read times that other members have. Compare them to yours. And see if there might be an opportunity.
Thanks for sharing. Never give up, never.
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What is a read time?
Today was a beautiful sunny day. I laughed abit. I cried abit. And I’m checking in on day 2. I guess all I can do is be grateful its day two and not day one again. I have alot on my mind but I have so much to be grateful for. I need to stop forgetting that. I pray all you sober soldiers are doing well. All the loves 
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What time of day is it there?
11:38 pm
Where are you and what time is it?
Manchester, England 10.40 am
Oh your in New Zealand aren’t you
I sure am
You can PM me if you dont wanna spam this thread lol
I could have taken a job and moved to NZ to live a couple of months ago
What made you decide to not take it? What was it?
It was a carpentry/woodworking job, I would absolutely love to have taken it, they are still available. I didn’t want to leave my parents here in England and I would miss out on my four year old niece growing up.
The pay was $60,000 ---- $90,000 a year. Is that good?
I would think so yeah. About 30 000 - 45 000 Pounds? If I did it right.
Yet I just checked it’s pretty much half 