Sounds very much like you did the right thing. Maybe another time you all can have an alcohol free event 
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iām hoping so! that was the original plan (a movie night) but then one of them said they were going to bring a bottle of wine so i cancelled. it was the right choice because they brought a lot more alcohol and ended up buying drugs.
giving them one more chance to make sober plans. if they cant, iāll have to cut them off unfortunately but i know i need to put myself first!
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You 100% need to put yourself first. I am so glad you did š©·. Would it be possible to have an honest conversation with them about have you felt having to cancel, whether as a group or individually? Maybe they didnāt think it was as big a deal as it was. They may not have realised how important that movie night was for you.
It might be time to try meet other sober people if you havenāt already. I am very lucky in that I have a couple of friends who just donāt like alcohol, never have. I think I would like to meet some sober people in a new future though, people who have been through something similar.
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Yeah, iām going to have a chat with one of them now to let them know how serious i am about being sober. Iām so glad you have a couple of sober friends! my partner doesnāt drink except at christmas which is a big help for me, and iāve got friends who arenāt big drinkers and are more understanding of me wanting to go soberā¤ļø
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Thatās amazing, Iām really happy you have people in your life that arenāt big drinkers. It really makes a difference.
I hope you can get through to your movie night friends.
Iām off to sleep now, good night 
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Iām grateful I was hella sick last week because it was an excellent āavoidantā excuse to be anti social, stay in my PJs, and just let myself be sad and depressed by myself.
Even so, Iām grateful that this illness is mostly passed and I am up and about and being productive again. Iām focusing my sadness on little tasks, and tiny organizational projects around the house. Inevitably, I find more of Zeldaās belongings or what not, and Iām greatful I can give myself a moment to grieve and cry before either setting the items aside to donate or throw away.
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Iām grateful that this disease called alcoholism has helped me learn humility. I used to wonder why friends of mine couldnt achieve thing that could, or would give up when things got tough in one way or another.
Well, struggling against addiction has been a humbling experience and something it has served me well to learn.
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Iām grateful for my husband. Heās not a natural with housework, but he has been making a valiant effort whilst I canāt.
Iām grateful I managed a few hours work today, it was so nice interacting with my students.
Iām grateful for frozen home cooked mealsā¦go past me, present me thanks you!
Iām grateful to be alive, and sober, and on this wonderful site.
AFAF ODAAT
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Today i am grateful to be alive & sober. I wasnāt feeling to great this morning so i just took the day off. Self care! That lesson i learned the hard way last year. I am just grateful that you all are here. Even when im just reading all of your posts it is so inspiring 
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I am grateful for my partner to go through our medical and physical issues with. We both have chronic diseases and injuries and sometimes itās really hard. We never try to outdo each other, just hold space for each other to vent when needed and ask what else is needed.
I am grateful for my dog, he is the best thing in my life about 99% of the time.
I am grateful I finished this 1000 piece puzzle that took me 4 months. Proud that I stuck with it.
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Today Iām grateful that I had a productive day at work, even though my sleep was shit.
Iām grateful that Buddy 
and Alex 
get along okay. Putting two 11 year olds together could have been a disaster. I donāt see them curling up together anytime in the future, but they can sit on the same couch at the same time, beg for food together in the kitchen and thereās no growling or hissing. They seem to accept they live together and are making the best of it.
Iām grateful I have a home, and I want to hire a cleaning service to get my entire house real clean. I basically live on the 1st floor except for sleeping, so my upstairs has been a somewhat ignored. Due to my health, it can be difficult to do extensive cleaning, but I keep thinking I need to unclutter my desk upstairs before they come. Iād be so much happier when itās done, but for some reason, I canāt make the call.
I think Iām falling backwards where I donāt want to leave the house, and I had to reset my online shopping addiction today when I ordered Alex 2 new beds. Theyāre coming tomorrow, damn Amazon! 
Iām a work in progress 
Day 36, almost 37 
Enjoy your day! 
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I am so grateful for books. They allow me to travel when I donāt otherwise have the means. They teach me about different cultures, eras, people, places, phychologies. They teach me how to be a better, more patient person toward my fellow humans. They make me laugh, cry, dream, and they help me to remember. And they help me forget. ODAAT, my friends 
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Love to see this much gratitude on this thread. Too much, to catch up, acutally 
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I am grateful work entered a really fun phase, where I get to look at really awesome student projects. I love to see how different approaches to the same problem can be.
I am grateful for the job I have and that itās paying enough.
I am grateful nights are getting shorter and days become lighter.
I am grateful I found a good balance between adulting and indulging.
I am grateful for my coffee machine and some tasty oats for breakfast.
Grateful to just be today. 
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I am grateful to wake up before my alarm again at 7. Maybe I wake up from my neighbourās alarm, I donāt know
I woke up from a realistic dream where I had a job interview and got hired. A new job is a reoccurring thought in my head, so not surprised I dream about it.
I am grateful for being sober 66 days. Iām being occupied these days so I donāt think about alcohol at all.
I am grateful for the relationship with my son. Itās his birthday today and he is in another country. Before he left I asked him what he wanted for his birthday and he said he wanted a voice message of me singing āhappy birtdayā in a nasal voice. So I did just that. Hope he likes it.
Grateful for having the time to write my gratitudeās and have coffee in the morning before todayās circus starts 
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Grateful forā¦.
Another day sober
Paracetamol
Wall pilates
Reading
Mediation
Super grateful for this thread and the community here. Grateful to read everyoneās gratitude Have a beautiful day you lovely bunch 
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Grateful for not having a hangover, though I feel like having one 
Grateful for coffee and can go to work to keep myself to busy from feeling tired.
Grateful to have dinner in a Italian restaurant tonight with my family 
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You ok lovely??
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I feel actually the same as you. Currently Iām not ready for gratitude. However that sounds, itās the truth. Iām forcing it and maybe Iām not even telling the truth, just going through the motions. The heart knows the difference and feels betrayed, so my gratitude check in ends today for a while.
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Buenos dias soberinos,
I am so very greatful forā¦
My sobriety!
I sat at a swimup bar drinking coffee and i didnt yurn for a drink or envy those drinking
This amazing adventure
The sunshine and the rain really reminding me how greatful i am for the sun
Safely white water rafted our first timeā¦gracias Carlos
Rafting down the river and feeling like im in jumanji or avatar
Saw 2 two toed sloths in the wildā¦theyre so cute!
All the amazing tour guides
Yo comprendo espanol
This amazing coffee
A chillax travel day van, boat, van
Music
This community and sober podcasts helping me while im away from aa mtgs
Hubbys a good travel partner
Folks watching lil boscosito
Pura vida mis amigos
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Well my intent was not to drag anyone out of anything, thatās for certain. It just didnāt feel right for me.
Obviously that resonated with you as well, but please ensure you do pros and cons as this may be a thing that you ultimately find does more good for you than bad.
In my head I draw parallels with this particular subject and religion, of which I am not a huge supporter of. No horror stories myself but Iāll say that Iāve had poor experiences with it and I choose spirituality type thinking over religious.
Anyway, I hope that was the right choice for you.
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