You need to tell your hubs your can’t have that bar stocked. We all had to avoid our DOC in the beginning before we found firm footing in sobriety.
You get through the urges by learning and understanding and fully accepting that drinking does not help you. Whatever you drink at/is the reason you drink for: alcohol will not help you with that reason. It doesn’t alleviate fear. It doesn’t soften hard life situations. It doesn’t XYZ. Not really. It impersonates aid, but that’s an illusion you are buying into and clinging onto with continuing to drink.
Be clear with yourself that alcohol does not help you with your problems.
Exchange the behaviour: pick two or three resources, a group a book a podcast, and give them an honest go. Mix and match until you find what works for you.
Resources for our recovery
Learn from those that walked the walk before you:
Your #1 tip for sobriety (over 2 years sober)
Stay accountable:
Checking in daily to maintain focus #54
Best of luck.