I just went from puzzled to giggilish.
Clues:
Dennis Rodman was always “hard in the paint”.
Elvis is “dead”. LMFAO!
I assume you mean it in this way…
Originating in basketball, hard in the paint is a slang expression for giving one’s full effort.
As for Elvis leaving the building, I can only assume you mean it in this way …
For instance, it might be used when someone makes a dramatic exit from an argument, to relieve tension among those who remain.
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LMAO… LMAO… They have those in Florida…
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Yes, I know…lived there for 6+ years. 
My mom and dad, ran a hotel in Daytona for many years. My daughter and I would go down there every summer from June till September them little things were vicious…
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That’ll be some guy who’s helped millions of people quit an addiction with his method being recognised and awarded.
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This ‘disease’ is not the same for everyone, we are individuals. We have different backgrounds, experiences, influences, support, information, tools, methods, brains… To say that every problem drinker on the planet will have exactly the same journey is, in my opinion, untrue and ridiculous. Unlike you, I have been fortunate enough to meet many people who have left alcohol behind for many years without having to hide from it. I do know my mind and my strengths and weaknesses and I do know the addict within. A month maybe a short sober journey, but I’ve had a lifetime getting to know me. Everyones journey is there own and like everyone, I will do what I know I can.
@Englishd Hey Derek,
It seems Team Unicorns is in the lead on this thread. Whether that’s a good thing, I’m not sure but it is what it is, LOL 
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Disease and journey are not the same thing. The disease is scientific, a physiological change in the way your brain functions. Journey is how you deal with it.
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Well said!!!
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@Schmemm Must be nice to so unique and have it all figured out 1 month in, you should write a book, I’d buy a copy.
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Damn sure I’m over 2 years and I still get bad days
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I can recognise myself in some posts here. I also recognise also that since I started my recovery 4 years ago of which I am almost 3 years sober now, I went and am still going through phases aka I learn. I started being so grateful but also excited that it was so damn easy to quit after endless trials, day one’s after another. I then thought, haaaa, I know it all so leave me alone, what are you talking about. At the moment I am in a stage of openness, accepting to each their own. I didn’t learn it the hard hard hard way, my hard was hard enough for me. Mental destruction was so prominent.
Idk what’s my point actually, sorry. Fact is, I can change my mind, I learn, hopefully.
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Edit. I think sometimes we want others that just start their journey to understand, see, get it, take my advice just like that, forgetting how much it took me, all the falling down. As if I ever listened to my mother of how to dos. I had to learn it myself.
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Helpful stuff, thank you
I can go back on my early posts and see the same type of thinking, it’s just part of the journey. A lot has changed in the past 2 years.
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Yes in hindsight it is so easy to see all the ways that might have made things easier, smoother etc. But like you say we have each made our own choices and hopefully learned from them!
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I think we all (or most) had that thinking in the beginning. It’s very similar to my thought pattern my first attempt at sobriety. I was cocky and complacent. Couple of relapses later I was thoroughly beat and then acknowledged I didn’t know shit. So I started listening to the people with sobriety and following their lead. Sure enough I found sobriety.
Getting sober isn’t easy, but the path is pretty simple.
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I think this is a really important point - what might seem unhelpful, patronising etc to someone is actually people speaking from a place of seeing their past behaviours or patterns being played out. I find it helpful to remember that the only reason people are responding in this way is because they actually do give a shit and would like to see people taking a different path to them.
Of course, none of us have the full context of each others’ lives from what is posted on the forum alone. So even if there are some things that feel familiar, it doesn’t mean our situations are the same. All any of us can do (and have done mostly, I think) is speak from our personal experience. And then we all have a choice of what we do with the experience of others 
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Just wondering what people’s views are on sarcastic putdowns and whether they’re emotional effect could have the potential to trigger relapse? Specifically in people in the early stages of sobriety…let’s say, 1 month 
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