Hahahaha Siand you are blazin!
I wish I could do that! One day… Maybe one day I also will be a hero. #lifegoalz
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While I was a bit of an old lady tonight this topic turned that around thanks!
Can I add I find it somewhat funny that an AA enthousiast has a profile picture in front of a PUB 
Well… My Nana is 83 and imma be honest liked her better when I was under the influence
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Omg yeah so he does weird very very weird something doesn’t feel overly right .xx
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I realise that you were just raising an ironic point here
Just like to say Mario that pubs are social places.
Just because we are alcoholics doesn’t mean we can’t visit them.
All we have to do is make peace with the fact that we don’t drink.
Pubs are not places to be scared of. Our relationship with ourselves is where the fear is. Trusting ourselves not to drink. Even when surrounded by it.
I go to the pub quite regularly. But I don’t drink.
So I have no fear of pubs.
Keep smiling buddy 
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That’s fine geoff
and you were right in your Assesment.
It is ironic and weird… If you have a phone you have bunch of pics. Why choose one at a pub 
I personally don’t think a pub is just a social thing.
IMO it is really setup with purpose to sell as much alcohol (biggest margin) as possible.
the walls aren’t dressed with orange juice signing 
and if you don’t drink there you are an exception.
has nothing to do with fear or being scared as you suggest don’t know why that came to mind?
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This varies depending on where you are. From what I’m told by my British contacts, and I’m sure @anon12657779 can tell you, in the UK it’s absolutely a social thing (not that they can’t be about alcohol too to an extent). Here in Canada, less so, it’s more about a place to drink. I’m intrigued by how culture is different everywhere you go.
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Has everything to do
If you feel comfortable and confident with yourself and your sobriety it shouldn’t matter where you are.
I mean I know I stayed away in my early days because I needed to not put myself in temptations way.
But I always knew that eventually I would be able to do whatever and go wherever because if I didn’t then I would be living in fear of my addiction for the rest of my life.
I don’t live in fear of my addiction, I know that I am an addict and have accepted what this means.
Now my life is mine again.
I live in a small village cira 1000 people. We have a pub, no Starbucks or Costa etc.
Normally when I’m in there I have a flavoured water because for some reason they have started to sell a range of flavoured waters since I got sober.
Imho, once we get confidence, we should be able to do anything and everything. Not hide away for the rest of our lives.
Are you ok Mario? If you don’t mind me asking?This last couple of days your posts have contained a level of anger?, Maybe not the right word but I hope you understand what I’m trying to say.
I think it depends on the person and what we want from the place, our intended use for it.
Pubs are obviously places to drink and if you’re out for a night out with the intention of getting wasted then yes it’s going to be different from the person who has organised to meet a friend and have a chat over coffee or Tea. ( My local has also started selling a range of teas.)
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I am fine.thank you for checking 
I allready acknowledged I wasn’t on my best behavior yesterday.
And I discussed it on here. The tough love topic explained that if you want some insight on why I was short fused a bit.
I respect the way you go about your sobriety and you inspire non the less but in this case Geoff you are going overboard in my opinion.
I do find it weird, the way your kinda implying that I am not okay with my sobriety or in fear of my addiction… Heck there’s still a collection of beautifull rums sitting here to be collected… Not once have I glanced at it.
I have been to concerts and such where alcohol is available and I had a great evening never the less. Also have been on a ride out with some buddy’s who smoke cannabis fine with that to.
I am firm in my sobriety.
My opinion on what a pub or a bar is just differs form yours and I didn’t bring up the topic but if you state your opinion I’ll give you my two cents on the matter.
It’s weird to me you diverting that to fear or being less sure of my sobriety.
Please note even in active use I wasn’t the type to go to a bar/pub and hang around alcohol fused convo.
So sober or not my opinion about bars stand they are build on drinking lots.
Mario, I’m not implying anything mate. No even assuming anything.
You are doing well in your sobriety! You are strong and I have said this before.
I think that it’s because I used the words you instead of we or whatever and in translation you think I’m talking about you. I’m not at all.
I understand what you say about about pubs being built around drinking, of course they are as they traditionally grew up around onsite breweries.
But all I was saying was that if one is confident and comfortable with oneself then it shouldn’t matter what one drinks or where one drinks it.
Again I’m sorry if you assumed I was talking about you I’ve always had the greatest respect for you because you are strong.
Let’s put it on the language barrier. I did take it personally since you replied to me and used the word you which in my understanding means me well hell I need to study the language again I guess. No just kidding geoff we’re good
you did make an explicit link between not a lot of sober folk being in a bar and fear or being unsure of sobriety.
In this last post you did not use those negs.
It makes a lot off difference imo.
Hell… Being sober is the bravest shit one can achieve when being an addict.
The same as people saying relapse is a part of recovery… That got me going the other day…
It is not imo and making decisions that support your sobriety don’t make you scared they make you balanced and sure about what you do or do not want.
I also avoid certain sober people cause they put me at risk hahaha let alone drunks telling me I’m no fun.
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Yeah I think we’ll leave it at that mate.
All I was trying to say is that one day we should be looking at leading a life where we are not scared of going anywhere.
Yes, obviously in our early days and until we do feel comfortable, which will be different for everyone, we should guard our sobriety firmly.
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Yeah, at least then the milk man can retire. He’s older than me. I’m the one that’s kept him going.
He had plans once as well.
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Yes he wanted to have a Long Life (milk) and travel.
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Bet the milk guys younger than this old fart Geo lol today i can go any were were there is booze and there isnt many places were there isnt any lol took my oldest son to a world boxing match think we were the only ones sober the beer was flowing like rivers lol
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We went to Monster Jam (big monster truck racing) a few weeks ago. At about 8:30 pm I wanted a cup of coffee. I swear that I walked around that whole stadium looking for a cup of freaking coffee!! Didn’t find one. But I must have walked by 100 beer stands. Prolly more. Lol
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It’s not an AA meeting bruh, they don’t just have coffee at every corner lol.
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Actually no Ray. You’re a spring chicken compared to him
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