This can be quite a conundrum. I guess all I can say is own your sobriety no matter how many days you have. Be open and proud about what is happening with you right now. I’ve had the experience that once people see this they are supportive of you and will try to be sensitive to your choices. Some of them are very awkward at this never having to go through it themselves. This can be both endearing and frustrating. Ultimately if you are worried that there will be too many triggers just politely bow out. Don’t make excuses, tell them exactly why. Own this decision you’ve made and don’t hide it away. This disease we have is not as taboo as it has been. I’ve been surprised at how supportive people have been to me at events such as this. Ultimately it’s your decision. Only you know where you’re at right now and you probably already have a pretty good idea of how people are going to react. Don’t set yourself up for failure but don’t close yourself off either. We are social creatures and require the company of others for a healthy life. If we allow this disease to shut us away from those we love who do not suffer from it then the disease has won. Listen to your higher power and you’ll be fine. If you’re not ready that’s perfectly ok and shows that your beginning to know and trust yourself. Good luck whatever you choose.
I get what you mean… I’ve been there before and it’s caused me to relapse in the past. And this go round of not drinking, it caused me to feel resentment and jealousy. I also am horribly anxious, so parties for me aren’t fun without alcohol… generally.
My advice is to either let people you’re closest to who are going to the parties know that you’re going to be sober and might need a little extra encouragement. Or else if you feel like you might relapse due to going… perhaps it might be best to sit those gatherings out unfortunately.
Something I did too was write a list in my notes in my phone of some of the shitty things I’ve done, or that have happened, how I feel, etc. And I’d take a look at it when I needed a reminder why it’s not healthy for me to drink.
Wish you the best in whichever you choose… going or sitting the events out. This group will always be here for support if you’re having a tough go 
I feel that way too.
I sually say “I don’t feel like a drink”, or “I’m not drinking today”, I’ve even tried saying “I’m doing a cleanse” lol, and “oh please don’t ask me again, I’m trying really hard to not drink this weekend/today”, and “I’m doing dry July” is another one ive used.
Thanks everyone! I appreciate the comments/sentiments. I guess the one good thing is that everyone that will be at both events know about my new sobriety, so I don’t think it’ll be them pressuring me. I just wonder how my willpower will be. Hopefully being around people who know will help and they will make sure I don’t fall for it.
So don’t think about it. Your “willpower” is as strong as you want it to be!
And don’t use words like “hopefully”!
Be that sober, non drinker with conviction man! It’s your life, take control!
Seconding all the great things that have been said above. Making sure you have something you really like to drink is kind of crucial for me, so I feel like I’m rewarding myself with something I like that also won’t make me feel terrible the next day physically & mentally. Remember when it gets tough that you are caring for yourself. Because it might feel like you’re denying pleasure but it’s the other way around!
All of this!
If you don’t want to go, don’t. You can celebrate with people separately if you feel that they would really miss your presence.
If you want to go - go with your plan, and enjoy it! If you’re not enjoying it, leave (this is why making your own travel arrangements is important). Other people will just pop in to say hi and then go. You will notice this while you’re sober. If you’re the first to go, who cares! Did you ever care about all the other people leaving the party before you? Did you even notice?!
It is totally normal to feel nervous about doing something new. But don’t let that be an excuse to throw away those 46 days! Think how great it will be to wake up the morning after, hangover free and a head full of memories 
I was listening to a podcast about sobriety awhile back that suggested “playing the video” or visualizing how the scenario will play out if you do drink at the party.
You drink.get drunk. Say or do things that you wish you hadn’t. Feel like absolute garbage the next day (physically, emotionally-guilty)
Predictably we drink to access and the end result is similar. So change the initial part of the video and dont drink the first drink. This visualization exercise has helped me more than once because the feeling of guilt and hangovers were always happening. I dont want to feel like that ever again. Oct 5 2019 was the last time I drank
Your sobriety comes first. 46 days is awesome, you got some solid ‘sober miles’ behind you. Don’t give that up.
Now if you’re okay with leaving the parties instead of drinking, that is you promise yourself you will literally leave immediately when your sobriety is at risk, you should probably go out and see some people and get a socialization under your belt.
If you don’t want people to notice, order tonic and a lime. If it’s a hosted party, ‘provide’ the host with extra soda water/tonic for mixers. But bring a ton of it, and use it to mix yourself kiddy cocktails. Make sure you always have one in your hand and no one will ask to get you a drink.
If you want people to know, you may be surprised how accepting they are. And those who aren’t tend to be making a fool of themselves, not of you.
My two cents 
if your not confident then dont go , in my early sobriety i took a sober buddy from my home group for support wish you well
Good job! If you want to go, think about how you can go without putting too much pressure on yourself. In cases like this, I have stopped in early before lots of people are around, shared well wishes and indicated that I have another commitment at (state time). That way I can still show support, have a window of time to leave and a reason to decline beverages if offered. But you know yourself best. If you are feeling like you aren’t ready, listen to that and explore what you are afraid of. Use this feeling and experience as a learning.
Hey Scott how are you feeling, what’s your plan for this weekend?
Well, first party is a no-go. Wife had 3 teeth pulled yesterday and is still feeling the effects, so we’ll have to wait for the next party. Other than that, I’m feeling pretty good. Got my 50 days in today, so that’s a huge plus. Thanks for asking how I’m feeling. I appreciate it.
Be careful bro, I thought I was ready to mingle after 90 days it was tough,your friends won’t understand your journey, people will still b offer you drinks and some will make unintentional crazy remarks, but for the most part people won’t really notice unless you say something, just have your alternative drinks and don’t feel bad if you have to remove yourself from the situation from time to time or just leave, whatever you do don’t jeopardize your sobriety to fit in, you got this
Unfortunatelly if youre afraid of a relapse, the best thing for you will be not to go. There will be other parties that you will be able to attend, the people will this be there, once youre not afraid of relapsing again you should hold your own party and invite people over 
Fun personal fact, I didnt hang out with anyone or left my house for a while… when I finally hung out with someone who drinks it didn’t even bother me. You will get there
This is the best suggestion. Bring a sober friend. It will help keep you grounded.
I was thinking about this - isn’t it interesting how we think of maintaining our sobriety as an invalid or embarrassing reason to avoid a social gathering, but for other things we just cancel without worrying at all.
Hope your wife is on the mend and massive congrats with 50 days!
This is really helpful advice. While I think back on those moments things went badly when I drank, I never thought to write them down to remind myself why I am making this decision. Maybe it would help me, because sometimes I romanticize the experience of drinking, and then I miss it.
Keeping those reasons to be sober fresh in your mind is very helpful!
Yay! For 50 days!