Good morning! Loks like we are in the same time zone. I hope you will enjoy your day without a hangover and have a sober and peaceful evening at the end.
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Hey LuluJo. Same to you! Itās so wonderful to wake up fresh isnāt it? How is your sober time going
My heart fills with gratitude every day when I wake up sober. That feeling is what is keeping me going on this path lately and Iām so pleased to hear youāve found that feeling. Donāt get complacent and make sure you have in place strategies and a plan when bad times come - thatās the true test. 
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Good night everybody
Tomorrow another day being sober. Beautiful awesome lifeā¦ BTW this is not easy. Struggling every fucking night with myself and my brain. But winning the battleā¦
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Stay strong Sunshinegirl and focused on that goal. I am 31 days in and do recognise your struggles, have had some rough days myself. But i am feeling better and looking better. Keep the faith and stay strong x
Feeling really down today. Had a bad nightās sleep and Iām fearing I want to drink tonightā¦ I so often think that I proved myself I can stay sober for a few days. Why canāt I just have one night of drinking a bit? I donāt want to live my whole life without alcoholā¦
I know these thoughts are bad and destroying me. But Iām really really struggling every day.
Because chances are unacceptably high that it wonāt stay at āa bitā, nor stay at ājust one nightā. Thatās the only handhold alcohol needs to swallow you back up deeper than before. You have to be done with alcohol.
It can be overwhelming to think about never drinking alcohol again if youāre still in a place of missing alcohol.
Perhaps you can look forward down your path instead of backward - forward, discovering what you and your life look like sober, with curiosity, seeing which doors open to you. If you look backward to where you abandoned the booze at the side of the path, your steps forward will be blind and may even turn around.
Another approach is to make the decision of permanent sobriety one day at a time. Take the next step forward, choosing another day sober, focusing on that one step. No need to stare infinitely down the path and trip over something.
Sounded like you were interested in the book āThis Naked Mindā earlier. Did you end up getting into that at all?
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You are so right. Thank you for your words. And listening. This one day at a time helps me a lot. It is so overwhelming to think of abstinence in weeks or even months. Days are much betterā¦
Yes you are right. I need to buy the book. I bought the audio book the sober diaries and listening to it every day is a huge support for meā¦
Thanx again for listening
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I agree, itās a day by day challenge. Iām reading this naked mind for the second time right now. It really helps put alcohol into a new perspective . I am similar in making it a week or so then giving into to the one glass of wine which leads to the empty Bottle of wine. I feel Iām in a different place finally, day 3, but this time feels like freedom. I think thatās positive and Iām feeling good about whatās to come. This forum is amazing to share and support one another
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Iām on day 3 with you!
I remember freaking out one day and calling my sponsor, saying, āI know I canāt ever drink again and I donāt know how Iām going to do that, and itās hard to think about never having wine again, and I know I canāt, and what about my kidsā weddings? How do I not drink then?ā (They were two and four at the time.)
To which my sponsor promptly interrupted, "Stop it! Can you stop it for just a damn second and shut up? You donāt have to know any of those things All you have to know is that you wonāt today. Thatās it. Just decide that you wonāt drink today. "
Still working for me 223 days later.
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Echoing what everyone said. Just focus on not drinking today. Ignore the future. Who knows what it will bring. Just think about today. When I started, I had a " I canāt commit to never drinking again, but I know I need to not drink today" approach. The future was too overwhelming.
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Didnāt drink today. Feels good. Going to bed soon. Iām thankful for every day/night I kept strongā¦ This app helps me so much. Thank you everyone. Good night to all of you
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Screenshot this and putting it in my sober journal
I love your post. Very very helpful. Makes sooo much sense
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Try hitting a AA meeting and getting involved! Say youāre an alcoholic and you need help! You will NOT regret it!
Iām thinking about meetings. But Iām shy to really stand in front of peopleā¦ And Iām scared
Glad youāre staying strong!
No oneās going to make you stand in front of people or make you talk if you donāt want to. You can sit in a corner and if someone asks if you want to share you can just say āIād prefer to just listen today, thanksā and just participate as you are ready.
Last night I was so wrecked with anxiety I was going to cancel on going to a meeting, but I stuck to my guns and it was so worth it.
Your first meeting is probably going to be the most difficult, because itās unfamiliar. My anxiety around meetings is going down with every meeting I go to and Iām getting more and more out of each one.
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Thank you for your wise words. And Iām sorry you didnāt feel so good yesterday. But thumbs up that you kept strong and fought your way through. You are strong!
Another day is starting and Iām telling myself I will stay sober today. For me. For my life. For my kids. For my husband and for everything beautiful life is still bringing
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Another day is coming to an end and I feel strong. I had a meeting at the new school of my son so I was so happy to get out of the house at 7pm. Thatās usually the time where Iād think of a glass. This really helps to break the old cycle. Now Iām back and itās already 9pm. Of course a glass of alcohol crossed my mind. And the old me would get one immediately. But the new me is thinking of tomorrow which is my day off. And I want to do so many things like going for a run in the morning that I donāt want to do with a headache/ hangoverā¦ Weirdly temptation is there but getting out of the house tonight helped me a lotā¦
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