Hi all first time doing 1 of these groups ive tried to stop drinking numerous time but this time I want to succeed alchol abuse runs in my family an I want it to end with me i dont want my kids growing up thinking its normal for this life im just wondering what people do to stay motivated and busy its day five am normally OK the first month but after that it get really challenging any idea for apps ect or good hobbies to try id cook but my kids are fussy an wouldnāt eat it lol .
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What does AF mean ? An all alcohol is banned from my house also anyone who has been drinking an smells or trys fetching any of it in my house (family mainly) been doing chores an cooking this past week but I think i may start a dairy of my progress ive set a goal of if I last 1 year I will get my back tattoo redune a long way i know but just a fort 
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My new moto is i dont need alcohol to be fun an my true friends will stay only drank on Fridays an sometimes Wednesday but that was enough to ruin my life again been like this for 13 years blackouts,anger,cheating,staying out for days,drug use depression and bereavement but this is my year to change an im hoping this group will help me along as nowere is open now group wise now its going be a long road im sure 
were all in the same boat tho so no judgement from me x
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This is my first round of getting sober as well. It has been a success so far,
I agree hobbies and outlets are a great way to create a diversion to using or drinking. And your right j dont want my kids to think that drinking like a bottomless pit, is normal.
I wish you the best in your recovery and feel free to reach out as needed
Welcome to the community and well done on 5 days.
Hobbies and keeping busy are helpful, but what Iāve found to be the most helpful, is to address the underlying reasons that I felt the need to abuse alcohol.
Hereās a link to some resources that other people here have used to recover. Take a look and see if thereās anything youād like to try. Then try it!
Look forward to watching your progress.
Hi Jess
Congratulations on five days 
Welcome to this crazy fun group of people just trying to take it one day at a time and not pick up that first drink. Or DOC. Itās that first one that leads to trouble. Iāve tried to stop many many times. But last year I found this app and I got all the support I needed to make it a year sober. And it was 2020. 
I start my day on the ādaily gratitude threadā here. And I enjoy the āchecking in daily to maintain focus thread.ā And quite a few others.
Hope to see you around.
Hey Welcome! I love to cook too. I try and lean towards healthier side of cooking but ā¦I do slip into fatty foods sometimes. What helps me is not thinking of the days that lie ahead. I do my best to stay here and now. This forum is great too. Always someone here to talk to. Hang in there. It gets better and a little bit easier each day. Maybe cook with your kidsā¦you may have some budding chefsā¦
Do you exercise? Creating a work out regimen that consists of some yoga, strength training, and cardio has been very beneficial to me. It not only keeps your mind occupied, but it is one of those things that can very easily take your mind off of cravings.
Welcome 
My first few weeks I pretty much just worked and came home, trying to avoid any triggers. Netflix became a great distraction and I went through each room of the house completely reorganizing it and removing clutter. Getting out of the house and taking walks and just breathing in some fresh air and enjoying the scenery. Like you though, I am still looking into some hobbies but havenāt taken the initiative yet. Iām thinking of trying bowling again since the weather is cooler right now. That would also be something you could do with your kids. Depending on the age of your kids we had a good time indoor rock climbing once or twice a month.
Welcome! This place is a great first step. Read as much as you can, and be active!
Were in lockdown here at moment an by time ive done cleaning an home schooling its dark so cant go out im going try adult colouring or something an tbh my kids are hypo so bowls would be to slow for them its currently snowing here so we are going sledgeing on the weekend and then I will be going back to work (carer) make some money instead of spending it 
its going be a long few months x
I encourage you to work on your sobriety rather than distracting yourself from your alcoholism. Here are a couple of great threads full of ideas for how to do that!
Resources for our recovery (@anon28001181 already posted this link, so this is an upvote for it!)
and
2 years sober and what helped me to get there:
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I completely understand the lockdown making it harder. I wish my state would do something again, because the cases just keep rising. I wasnāt sober during our lockdown, so definitely stay strong 
friend. Maybe try ordering a really big puzzle. We ordered a 10,000 piece and that took about a month. Board games came in handy too. I donāt know if you like the app Candy Crush, but itās fun and thereās so many levels.
Hello 
Im trucker J nice to meet ya
Its great you want to break that cycle of alcohol abuse i know what you mean it runs in mine to sometimes we have to be the ones to do it or else no one will this disease has our familys trapped and they cant get out will be the light and show them it can be done. ! Thats good to know that youll be okay your first month after that i suggest coming here daily checking in reading working out meditation reading books and always staying on alert with everything wishing you the very best !!!
Its is going be hard with it being Friday today an it normally being the day I drink till I drop im just going watch telly get a bath an chill in bed hopefully the day goes fast its hard coz i normally drink with my naibour an shes currently got her music on full blast an i know sheās onit now ive come off social media so I cant receive any messages of friends to play out lol is it Saturday yet haha x
Thanks Laura I am doing thinking of getting some jigsaws my friends think because I dont drink everyday i dont have a problem so they donāt understand its annoying when ur trying better yourself think i just need to distance myself away from everyone for a while an concentrate on work an my kids an house for a few months till im strong enough socialise again this groups good tho everyoneās in the same boat an theres no judging i think i made a good chicoe in joint it tbh x
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Currently getting my nails done an make up by my daughter relaxing on this cold Friday evening cup of tea in hand watching emmerdale on catch up hope everyoneās haveing a chilled out night also x
I cut mostly all my friends loose and focused on myself and family. I read a lot and listen to particular things that interest me. Iām married now so I make sure to be attentive to my wife. This year Iām working on myself physically since last year I worked on my mental state of mind. I no longer get angry at anything any more and just let life unfold before my very eyes all the while enjoying every moment of it.
You see, Time is precious to me now. I used to think back at all the wasted Time and that itself just got me angry. I donāt care about that any more. I donāt look to the past or ahead into the future. I stay focused on the here and now. This is what I do now and the thought of drinking never even enters my mind any more.
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