Im 4 days sober today back in july i relapsed after a little over a year , while it never got as bad as it did back then it was getting close i was drinking almost everyday again. I knew i had to quit again bc friday night my mother inlaw passed away after 2 years of dealing with liver failure so here i am again getting sober and trying to be there for my husband who is very much not sober
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Welcome to the forum @Emmershall sorry to hear about your mother in law, try to spend plenty of time reading around the different threads and don’t be afraid to reach out for help
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Welcome back, today is the first day of the rest of our lives! Let’s make the most of it
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Hi ! Welcome back. I had three years sober…then had some wine, then it took me two years to stop again.
None of us can go back to social drinking. We tend to just pick up our drinking where left off sadly.
U can do this !
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Welcome and so sorry for your loss. Sobriety is the best course of action for you. This is the best place to get the resources needed to remain on your sober journey. Glad you found us.
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Sorry for your loss plenty of programs out there so maybe try one they will help ,helped me stay sober wish you well
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Welcome aboard @Emmershall 
Sorry to hear about your Mother in Law 
Glad you’re here beginning your journey with us…
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Thank yall 
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Welcome @Emmershall and I’m sorry to hear about your mother-in-law’s passing, and your husband’s struggles. Paths to sobriety are challenging, we have all been there 
, but to have to face it yourself and also to live with the challenges of other people’s drinking is difficult, so difficult.
You are not alone. There is lots of wisdom and encouragement here on Talking Sober, in people’s shares and in the threads (this one I find helpful: Resources for our recovery). Keep connected, keep reaching out, keep learning and practicing and remember, you are learning, like we all are 
Welcome to TS!
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Hi @Emmershall , welcome to the family! I’m so sorry to hear about your mum in law. 
Hi Emily! Welcome to the forum!! My deepest condolences for the passing of ur mother in law. Thats so very sad 
I hope u find this place helpful and welcoming. Its been an amazing support for me over the years and i hope it will be for u too.
Thank you this is hard im very depressed i get even more depressed when i dont drink so im feeling pretty bad
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Be gentle with yourself. Do the kind of care you would do for a friend who was feeling like that: maybe a bath with some epsom salts, maybe some ice cream, maybe some rom-com movies; be gentle and caring with yourself for the moment.
Every hour, every day you don’t drink is a win.
When you wake up tomorrow check out the schedule of online meetings for the day. There’s a list of online meeting options here: Online meeting resources - browse the list and look for a meeting you can join. When you get there, you can just listen. Most meetings are free. It’s helpful to not be alone, to have some other people who understand.
Take care and stay connected. You belong, and you are not alone, and you don’t have to be alone.
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Here’s another link for online meetings - there’s a button at the top (“Filters”) and you can filter for different days of the week, different members / participants (for example, if you’re looking for a women’s meeting):
First, I’m sorry to hear about your loss. Not quite the same, but my confirmation sponsor who was a good friend to me passed away some time ago of multiple organ failure and we had both quit drinking, but it was too late for her, I think. After that experience, I was more determined than ever to quit.
Relapses happen, and it takes a lot of determination to get back on that horse, especially after a year. And you’re back on that path of making a better life. You can do this. One day at a time, as trite as it may sound. I’m rooting for you!
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I’m sorry for your loss. Hang in there. Is your depression a feeling of missing out, since your husband is still drinking? Is it a general depression, a sadness about everything, even things that you once enjoyed? Either way, eventually, this feeling will subside as you build up more clean time and develop healthy tactics for making the most of your sobriety. You have a little over a year under your belt. You can do this.
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