So it was brought to my attention that I should find som hobbies and keep my brain occupied. I have always just focused on church activities but it’s never really brought any lasting change. I need some ideas 
. I just wanna be normal. I’m thinking about getting a motorcycle!!!
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There are lots of ideas in this thread
For sure cooking, fitness, making stuff (crafts to DIY) are common ones I see people talking about.
Personally I got back into language study, reading, and a little bit of fitness.
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I think it comes down to what do you enjoy?
I know that can be a hard question to answer but think back to when you were younger when you had less responsibilities. What did you like to do?
As for “normal”. Its highly overrated. Be you and if you don’t know who that is yet (and this is coming from someone who hasn’t yet figured that out either) take some time to find out.
If you are anything like me the inner voice that tells you that has been drowned out by responsibilities and a head full of “shoulds”.
Take the time to find out what you want. The test will follow.
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Noone is normal, that would be so boring 
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Awesome to know I’m not alone!
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Definitely not!!
what does your not normal look like???
Normal is a setting on the washer, not something to aspire to! 
Being authentically you is going to look different than addict you.
This is a great time to learn who you are, even if it’s scary at times…even when it’s painful… the truth always has a way of comforting us in the end. Even if the smack to the face stings for a while.
Now that I think about it… the truth sounds super toxic.
True Self isn’t…
Just stick to listening to True Self. Use that as your compass through sobriety.
You’ll try things you love immediately and grow bored of, hate immediately but come around because someone you want to impress has an interest in it; you’ll find yourself frustrated because the things you loved no longer hold water, and the things you never gave two-hoots about suddenly appear fun.
Ride the wave! It’ll take you to True Self.
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Well said!!
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Yeah I’m new to sobriety. And I can tell ya finding things to occupy my mind makes it so hard. But I’m feeling optimistic this time around. I went three months with no support group. And now I’ll try it with one
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Yea, it’s tough sometimes. Being around people in recovery helps me a lot. Proud of you bro… keep pushing
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Appreciate it man, keep it up
Definitely scary and painful sometimes but it helps to know that someone else is dealing with the same situation. Thanks for the advice!
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Yeah what put it in perspective for me is Roman’s 7:19 in the bible. Not sure if you’re religious but to know that 2000 years ago people, even apostles were dealing with the same issues helped me a lot.
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Yea I do CR and attend church regularly. I know God helps me just hard to see until after the fact.
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Yeah I can’t begin to tell you how horrible it felt. I had my first therapy session ever the other day. And I swear the whole time I thought he was never there. It took 10 min for her to open me back up to him again. I just need to start going to church again and being more involved
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As the great songwriter Bruce Cockburn wrote “the trouble with normal is it only gets worse” 
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I haven’t missed church in a long time and it’s starting to drain me….. not sure if that right or wrong but it’s definitely where I am
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That’s interesting. I’ve hardly been, even while growing up. But lately I’ve been feeling like I need it. Maybe take a break? Maybe next Sunday still treat it as a church day, but pray on you’re own time and worship how you want
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