Maybe…
But maybe what you really need is to harden up and tell yourself - or more specifically that voice that says “it’s fine, just do it” - that you will do whatever it takes to stay healthy and grounded. (Healthy and grounded = sober. Every human being needs to be healthy and grounded. It just makes sense, and it’s true for all of us.)
You will do whatever it takes, any or all of these things:
- check in here daily Checking in daily to maintain focus #43
- attend groups, multiple times a day if you want to, because it’s a safe alcohol-free space and because you can make real friends www.AA.org or Resources for our recovery or Online meeting resources are good spaces to start
- cut out activities and people from your life that are associated with using; you need to change some things and it starts by having new places and different faces (often we find these in meetings, though it can be at other sober activities)
Ultimately it’s not really about having to justify it to other people. It’s actually about setting boundaries for yourself and sticking to them, one step at a time. 