Dear brother. You helped me in my relapse. Count on y prayers and support
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Thank you for sharing with me. I know that is such a manipulating disease. but I donāt know what to doā¦
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I hope you are doing well with your sobreity, I trust in you. we are on the right path but the only problem is constant relapsesā¦
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Over all never give up and start fighting againg asking for help to a Higher Power or to God if you prefer.
You are more than your relapse. You are not your relapse as they told me here in this blessed forum
Yes, Such a disease. Just need to stand up again. Thank you so much my dear friend.
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Well, start by not giving up. Next, dedicate time to your recovery. Something we talk about at meetings here is that if you spend half as much time on recovery as you did on watching porn, recovery will be a breeze.
We make excuses not to do the work. Gotta pick yourself up and put in the time man.
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I can relate/resonate with making excuses and making rationalizations/justifications with my addictions. Becoming complacent and then winding up relapsing. Being willing to make my recovery as essential as my addictions in my life. Stepping out of my comfort zone to progress in life. Which is definitely easier said than done, but I went out of my comfort zone to pursue my addictions. I can implement that into my recovery. If that makes any sense or is it nonsense?
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Thanks for the advices. But I think it is just about how to use it effectively.
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Moderation/regulation not becoming to excessive and letting it interfere with other aspects in daily living. I rather just stay sober/remain sober. Maintaining/sustaining my recovery is essential, because when I donāt I slip. An acronym from some people Iāve learned about slip. Sobriety Lost Its Priority. Difficult life circumstances are inevitable, and itās about maintaining recovery/tranquility while persevering lifeās highs and lows. Itās about living for today not yesterday nor tomorrow because it isnāt here yet.
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Awesome read! Really gets to the root of the problem. āIn the shadows of the netā is another one he wrote dealing mainly with internet pornography.
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Agree whole heartedly. For a while there recovery was just something I did on days when I had meetings, the other days business as usual. I had to learn that I AM WORTHY of feeling good, I DESERVE to feel good about myself. My sponsor told me the other day when I was getting down on myself āyou deserve to feel good, havenāt you been feeling bad long enough?ā I gave myself permission to treat myself as I would want others to treat me. Haha
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I didnāt know that title!! I have to read it!!! One thing I really like of Patrik Carnes is that he really loves the addicts. He doesnāt judge us he wants to help out of love
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SLAA seems very interesting I donāt know if it is here in Spain. I only made contacs here with SA. What will be the main difference among them? Anyways I love any program based in 12 steps
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@SmokeyMirror good reflection about shame. I am agree, I have to admit I am a perfectionist and I can not stand my failures and that is not healthy and is not realistic.
I need humility, Lord help me to be humble
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Humility is healing. Humility is about remaining right sized. I remember seeing a saying a while ago stay humble before you stumble. Saw a t shirt that said stay humble and then another t shirt that said I get enough exercise by pushing my luck both of those graphic tees are true/comical simultaneously! I remember life circumstances when I didnāt stay humble and pushed my luck I got owned hardcore lol! I can implement those sayings with some addictions. Iām struggling to remain sober with. Recovery is a rough road, but worth in the long run/end of existence.
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SLAA is the only group in my area, I think SLAA and SA have a difference in opinion on sexual orientation but Iām not sure. Do research on the groups and find one or more that you think will work for you, all groups will have online meeting or phone meetings which can supplement in person meetings.
Sadly I relapsed again I watched porn in my cell phone and I masturbate once. I feel like crap
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Donāt give up, I know itās hard to resist the aftermath cravings but just go into public or a place where you will be able to suppress them. I believe in you.
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Hello all, Iām new to this site and have had the struggles of pornography for many years. I really look forward to us helping each other and appreciate all of what I was able to see on this post. Iām sad that others have the same struggles that I have but happy that we can help each other. I am honestly rooting for everyone here. Itās a new day for me and I will use the advice given in here. Thank you all for sharing. I genuinely mean it.
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Hello @Betterdaybyday, I hope you doing well. Thank you for your good wishes.
even Just thinking about being sober is such a phenomenon that gives your mind the power to take action. I mean, you can do it, but I have made it realised by @DungeonMaster that having a blocker on your phone is just such a thing that will prevent you from watching just for a few days. Ä°t is all up to you. As a matter of fact, when I read the book that @Bomdhil suggested me I have come up with a new idea to add my plans. It was just not to isolate myself from others. Because we are actually being so judgemental that we even donāt realise where we are. As Gary wilson said āā you cannot ask a fish about waterāā. I think as we are porn addicts we need to be more careful and more attentive while sticking to our sobriety. I am not someone to motivate you, but I know our addiction is so tricky. The people on this forum will really support you encourage you. Be hopeful about that and know that porn is a fatal disease and soul exploiting monster. Thank you
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