Was doing okay then drank. I thought i could handle just having a few again and did. I didnât get crazy and black out or do anything stupid as usual. I deleted this app though. That was stupid. I ignored people reaching out to check up on me. I drank all day today and feel so physically sick. I threw up a lot. I feel like the world biggest ass hole. I so badly want to stay sober. Why canât i just stop?
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Addiction loves to isolate us⌠weâre much weaker alone. Stopping the drink is only part of sobriety. A bigger part is putting work into your sobriety everyday. We can feed our sobriety or feed our addiction. Now you know you canât just have a few, lesson learned. Iâm glad youâre back trying again. Never give up. Best wishes
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Ahh, the good old âjust a fewâ thought. It can be so persuasive canât it? I had to give myself a good talking to many times, reminding myself of my long history of failing to drink âjust a fewâ. And then the odd times I miraculously drink moderately, it was torture and a ticking timebomb to when I would get âproperlyâ drunk this time.
I have also deleted apps or left groups. But we understand and are here for you. It will click one day.
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Hi there, welcome back.
what are you doing to work on your recovery despite just not drinking? cos that is not enough for long time sobriety, wouldnât be for any alkie.
pick a few resources and stick with them. then a few more, then a few more. surround yourself with recovery and find out what you are drinking AT.
also, read as much as you can on here. there is so much to soak up and learn from those who have been where you are.
best of luck!
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You have to get one thing straight in your head. If youâve ever had a problem with alcohol, you are never going to be able to moderate. Thereâs no getting away from that fact, itâs just a fact. It wonât take you long to get back to drinking the way you used to.
You need the sober toolbox, and a desire for a sober life. You have to want a sober life, or youâll just be a dry drunk feeling like youâre missing out on something.
Whatever you do, donât delete the app again. In your early days of sobriety you really need others around you to support you. People that have walked your road, been in your shoes are right here.
Get some rest of you can, sleep off the drink and start afresh. We are here for you 
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Itâs done. You relapsed. Thatâs your road sign. Those yield signs on the road, those were your friends reaching out. You threw up, not only based on the quantity, but the quality. Your body doesnât need THAT bad juice. Thatâs why we throw up. Itâs our body rejecting the toxin
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That question gets asked a lot. I asked it a lot too.
You can stop for today. Keep your focus on not drinking today. Just these 24 hours. Go to sleep early if you can. Then tomorrow focus on tomorrow. But no need to worry about that now. Focus on right now.
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Part of my experience having Relapsed really recently has really bedn realizing that self forgiveness is a major part of moving forward.
In life we always make mistakes however the important thing is that you are acknowledging the mistake that you have made (being aware not in denial) because that is the knowledge to help you move forward. In life each challenge, each mistake, or bad choice is truly meant to teach us something so we can evolve. I just know the universe has my back will support me so matter what even if I fall. Just get back up, dust yourself off, and begin again. You can do it. I believe in you
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This sounds too familiar. Part of my problem was, when I reached out for help 8 years ago, not really listening to those whoâve been through this. I heard what they were saying, but didnât let it sink in. Also not listening to the inner voice that knew I agreed with them.
As you just did, I had to find out the hard way that I can never drink again. Not even once. It was a big lesson learned for sure. Be strong and donât let it progress again like I did to the point where it does a severe amount of damage.
Maybe take a step back and consider this. Which do you value more, your life or the drink? You can only choose one. Thatâs been kind of putting things in perspective for me. This stuff is a liar and a killer.
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I think youâll find an overwhelming amount of people here have struggled with the moderation debacle. I certainly went through it several times even after being sober for 7 months to a year multiple times. To reaffirm what others have said, sobriety is something you really have to want and then take it one day at a time. Thatâs really hard to handle early on because your mind just wants to get a bunch of days under your belt but if you live one day at a time the days start mounting up quickly! My sober date this time is January 4th. Some days I see my counter and canât believe how fast itâs gone thus far. I donât look at my counter a lot I just focus on today.
Itâs really critical to figure out what triggers your drinking and admit and address it head on. For me it was several things: stress, I always went to drink when I felt overwhelmed under the guise of just relaxing, pressure, even though no one goaded me to drink I learned people expected me to be the life of the party because I was a fun drunk, and straight up addiction, once I had one drink I would not stop until I had drank enough to pass out. I also started realizing drinking was changing me, when I would drink I started having thoughts that werenât real. I started hearing in my head things like âyour wife doesnât love you because sheâs not super affectionate right now, your kids donât care for you because youâre not their real dad,â so I started behaving passive aggressively towards them and they were confused and hurt. In sobriety I realize none of that was in fact true and my wife and kids are so much happier with me sober because Iâm free to love them and be the man they deserve. I wake up everyday and choose them and the rest of the good in my life over a drink that offered me nothing and threatened to take all that away from me. You need to find these things in your life that mean more than alcohol, and everyone here is here to support you in your journey!
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This brings to mind an old T.V. commercial for potato chips, where the slogan was: " No one can eat JUST ONE". Folks like us canât have JUST ONE drink.
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Oh, how many times have I deleted this app myself!?!? Too many. I regret that so bad. But it is what it is.
What REALLY matters is that you are back!! Congratulations on making that decision
YOU CAN DO IT!
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Here. Drank on Saturday. Didnât get drunk but still disappointed in myself. Reset my clock sunday morning
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Hey Roxy, Iâm glad to see you back 
So, what happened? what made you drink? Its important that you know and acknowledge the answers to this. Itâs the only way you can prepare yourself in advance when threatened with another relapse.
Roxy, make yourself accountable. You want to give up alcohol, so apply the tools and methods we have talked to you about. Check in with us when temptation looms over you, give us a chance to help you get past that threat. Attend a meeting. Do anything that isnât giving in to alcohol.
Youâve reset your sober clock, but are you ready to give up? We are here for you, and are on your side 
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Well done for coming back! Keep sticking to it, keep trying. You can do this!x
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Definitely not ready to give up. It was my husbands birthday. We went out. It was a big group of 12 of us and i let temptation take over. It was stupid. But i am definitely trying now. Iâm fine when Iâm home. I have no desire whatsoever to drink. Its when Iâm in a big social setting that Iâm tempted.
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Thank you 
Okay, so you know where your weak point is.
Youâre going to need to avoid social situations until you are strong enough to handle being in the same place as drinkers. If youâre really ready to do this, you have got to commit to it. Otherwise you will be on and off here every single time the others say they are going out. There is no law against you staying back, you are attending these things by choice. Youâre choosing to put your sobriety in jeopardy every time you give in to going to nights out, barbeques, etc. Etc. There is always going to be a reason Roxy.
Before you go out next time, do one thing for yourself. Read your journal, and read your posts here. if you still want to go out and drink after doing that, then youâre not as ready to quit as you think you are.
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You are 100% right. Iâm reading my journals now and they are crazy. I forget the feeling once i havenât messed up in a while. I need to read them more often. Thank you.
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