Throwing some big love and hugs your way… you are on my mind because i care, you matter to me just because you are you 
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Hello, I’m alive.
I’m trying so hard to cling to life, my thoughts are so dark and I’ve reached a point where it’s scary, but I’m trying here I really am.
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Thank you!
You and everyone here are doing your best to help me, I’m trying to survive eventhough it’s really rough but I’m trying finding the will to live is so hard.
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Lets turn your year milestone around…rather than thinking you failed…you achieved a full year and that is amazing so you know you can do it
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Thank you.
Eventhough I don’t feel like it’s an achievement anymore.
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Of course it is and its yours to keep
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Thank you for your positivity
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I am so glad to hear this! I agree with Starlight. That year is yours to keep. What a triumph! If we didn’t have setbacks in our journey, none of would be here on this app. I have had years of sobriety, only to toss it away with one single sip. Take one day at a time again and see how many days you stack up. Work to make each day healthy for your body and mind. Give yourself little rewards now and then for your work because you deserve good things. I’m on day 15 myself, and instead of thinking of all those days lost from before, I am focusing on how those past days are strengthening my resolve to do better this time. At least I am trying to. It takes a lot of work, but I am convinced I deserve nice things too.
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I’m trying too, I can’t seem to accept that I can have nice things. I still feel like I have failed. My dark thoughts can’t seem to go away and it makes everything hard to cope with even achievements
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What you do is you choose to accept them, its a choice my friend
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It’s currently hard starlight, I’m trying so hard to deal with what I am facing but I’m trying
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I get it. Consider this though. Maybe we have a very binary view of success and failure. Failure can be a huge disappointment. It can be crushing. It can knock us down HARD. But it doesn’t have to always mean that something is over. It could mean that a single attempt has proven ineffective over time, and a change of tactic, a new plan or perspective, is needed. It might be a failure of one thing that opens up to the success of something different…and better. Try to shift your focus away from the fail and towards how your previous plan failed you. Choose one thing you can start doing differently right away to show yourself change is possible. Then come up with a new strategy to keep you on a path that you want. Then take it one day at a time with a focus forward. Any focus backward is to remind yourself of strategies and tools that didn’t work so that you don’t repeat them or pick them up again.
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That’s a different way to look at it I guess. A new perspective and I can try to adapt it to my situation, I am trying with everything I have to keep fighting the current place I’m in.
Eventhough I keep being told that I’m being selfish and weak for even thinking of SH and ending everything, but it’s not as easy as people think it is, it’s a lot of work and energy and I don’t have those right now, I don’t have the mental strength to deal with this but I’m trying.
It’s not a fail. It’s not a fight. It’s time to pivot. You can do this. You came here. You reached out. You’re considering our affirming voices. Those are so many steps forward already. You’re already doing great things.
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I am trying, with a few people really trying their best and going out of their way to help me out the least I can do is to keep fighting.
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Hey mate, I can understand the trans life. I’m running that rollercoaster myself and figuring out my sexuality.
Ultimately I felt somewhat similar to you in that I felt like a failure and didn’t deserve nice things or to be treated well.
I never treated myself well in the process either. Attempted suicide, drug and alcohol, porn, BDSM, and the list continues…
I’m open minded.
Here if you’d like to chat.
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Being a closeted Trans in a country where we are illegal is enough to drive someone mad, but when you are being who you are and expect people to treat you for being your true self but they only for your assigned gender.
I’m so very sorry you are going through a rough time too, we are here for each other we should support each other.
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Get sober and your trauma will heal to an extent
Hey! It’s been a couple days. How are you doing?
Hey,
I’m alive, I’m still fighting my demons but I’m here, been feeling all negative and this entire weekend I have been just sleeping it off or more like passing out from crying too much, I have not hurt myself after Wednesday though the urge is there but I’ve been physically too weak to do anything, thank you for checking up on me.
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