That doesn’t sound very supportive. I suppose as a huge volunteer effort it makes sense that there are lots of different approaches to 12 step. And I think in a lot of groups, at least from what I read here, there is a social element. With social media, WhatsApp and the internet in general maybe there are more opportunities to connect outside of meetings now? It probably still varies from group to group!
Of course there are other options available, not just 12 step, in person and over video call. You may have seen this before but am linking to it here anyway as its a really useful list:
I started going to Recovery Dharma last year and it suits me. There are still quite a lot of online meetings but my local group is doing in person meetings again now which is nice. We have a group WhatsApp chat and a few of us are going for a meal after the meeting tonight. There are a couple of people I connect with outside of the meeting, mostly on WhatsApp. But if I wanted to arrange to meet up with anyone individually I reckon there are people who would be open to that too.