Your humility and realism are beautiful. I hope you hold those virtues close to your heart throughout your recovery journey- they will be great allies.
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Check out Lionrock it has really helped me on my road to sobriety. It is an amazing recovery group and the people there are really supportive.
I start at day one now am at 120 days this weekend
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And every week I see mental health Dr too I got few mental iusses need work on
There are some good online counseling apps like Sibly. I think there’s a free trial. Might help to talk to someone . Hang in there!
Yes, and so do you. I learned from being in counseling a long time ago that you can’t be an effective carer if you don’t take care of yourself too. Getting sober & taking care of you will open up so many opportunities. I’m almost one month sober, I’ve more energy, my mind is clearer, I’m calmer, I’m exercising, have taken up new hobbies & I’m happier in myself. I love waking up sober.
Investing time in myself has helped me & I know it’s only a short period but I feel like my relationship are improving, I’m finding it easier to spend time with the ones I love & I’m able to listen more & be more active in conversations because I’m not drunk, hungover or thinking so much about drink. Yes it’s early days but I can do it, you can do it. It’s totally worth it. You & your family are worth it too.
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You deserve better. Welcome to the forum
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You deserve better you can make it through the struggle, ask for help people are willing to give insight and suggestions to help you maintain your sobriety. Read and post here often when things get rough, your not alone were all here dealing with similar troubles some bad some worse we are all in the same boat🤲
The fact that you’re here and willing to try means a lot! It means that you love and care about yourself enough to make some changes and to start making decisions that are in your own best interests 
its hard at first, but it does get easier. Give yourself time, take things just one day at a time and be nice to yourself, for you are embarking on an incredible journey that will have many ups and downs, but they’re all worth it! Just remember, say NO to the drink that matters - the FIRST drink! Then there won’t be a second, third or fourth. And if you start thinking that having a drink will be a good idea or “fun” - play the tape ALL the way through! Remember why you’ve decided to be sober. Don’t glamorize it, because it will only bring regret and disappointment. Be honest with yourself and be determined. You have the courage and confidence within to succeed but you have to believe it first! You deserve to be feel good and to be happy. You deserve a wonderful life filled with love and happiness. Being sober can help you realise this.
All the best x
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You deserve better, you deserve the best version of yourself and the addict inside of you is feeding off your soul. Let go of the past and come to the present, walk with all of us in sobriety it is a great journey full of challenges but its well worth it, I’m glad you’ve begun to accept you need a change, the time is here to change. Stick around do some reading, join your local AA/NA meeting, get involved 
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You can do this…well done for starting.
Take day by day and things will get easier.
Ive been struggling since june 1st did 11 days then on and off it usually started with a weekend binge ,ive finally got going with a detox comes to my home every morning to do stats and give me meds to help through the first week ,and im going to start going to meetings when im feeling better probably next week ,ive been drinking spirits for about the last 5 years and i want to change just feel i dont want to go on like this anymore its just breaking the habit thats going to be hard ,hopefully this time i will do it ,no more lying to myself telling myself only a friday a wee treat that just starts me on a bender ,no alcohol for me just trying to keep busy and positive
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I am now on day 5! Feeling a little better and still feel guilty for how much I drank. It’s a day by day mind battle right now. I need to figure out how to forgive myself. But I’m going to hang in there. I can’t wait to hit the 10 day mark.
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Welcome! This is a good forum to talk and get advise. Seek out all resources available to you and find what works for you
Im sorry that ur struggling… I’m mentally struggling myself , I stopped using July 14 and I have the worst restless leg syndrome, cravings and insomnia . Please tell me it gets better !! I’m trying to stick with it 
hope ur day gets better too.
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Welcome to the forum, it gets better.
I take magnesium supplements and they have helped with the insomnia and restless leg syndrome.
It is magnesium biglycinate. If you decide to try it, I started off with about 200 mg for the first few nights then tapered up to 600 mg at bedtime. It can cause loose stool if you take too much at the begining.
Stick around, read as much as you can here.
It took some time but eventually the cravings passed and then somehow the obsession to use was lifted. I never thought it was possible after 33 years in active addiction but it is. Just don’t look back.
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Hey @Jonieg and @Erijade welcome to the forum! As you can see this is a wonderful and supportive community of people who just get it 
Posting this link which is full of useful info and links to other threads, you might have found some of them already:
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Thanks for welcoming me, I’m happy to be here with so many positive people !
Thanks soooooo much for the tips !! I wanted to reply to everyone sooner but bc I was new it said I had to wait 20 hrs to reply again. I’m gona try that stuff u recommended … and thanks for telling me it gets better… I’m in a bad way right now. I flushed the rest of my subs so all I’m leaning on is some gabapentin for the RLS. I was up all last night just kicking the bed sheets in cold sweat … I hope tonight is better .
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Just hang on tight.
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