Hello and welcome
With over 36,500 topics on the forum (and over 1 million posts!) at the time of writing, and numbers on the forum growing all the time it can be hard to know where to start. This topic has been put together to help with that.
We are people from all over the world who are working out how to do life sober - from alcohol, other drugs, sex and love addictions, self harm… We all have different stories and are at different places in our journey but we are all here today, and that’s what matters!
First and foremost, please take a few minutes to familiarise yourself with the forum rules and guidelines:
Remember that the forum, and therefore anything you post except in private messages (or certain categories like the lounge - more on this later!) is available for anyone on the internet to find. Bear this in mind with your username, profile information and any other details you wish to post. Find out more about the forum at https://talkingsober.com/about
Your Talking Sober active moderators are @CaptAZ @CNevarezN @Eke @Lionfish @Lisa07 @Mno @Sassyrocks and me, @siand. Our role here is to help keep things running smoothly, keep the forum tidy and review flags, etc. If you see something that you think is not in the spirit of the forum guidelines, please flag it! To contact us directly, send a private message to @moderators.
Click on the arrows for more information on the following subjects, including links to other useful posts:
Keeping the forum tidy
With nearly 2,000 active members using the forum each month and numbers going up all the time, keeping the forum tidy helps everyone find and make the most of the support that’s here. There are a few things you can do to help!
- Use the search bar in the top right before you create a new topic - you might find someone has recently asked the same question as you. Joining active conversations is a brilliant way of building a network here quickly, as well as getting the benefit of the information that has already been offered.
- When you do create a new topic, use the categories and think about adding a tag. This helps people find other conversations and community they relate to, as well as avoiding subjects they may find triggering or traumatic.
- Lots of people like to use the forum as a type of journal, checking in regularly to keep track of their progress and get support along the way. Please keep any journal type posts to one topic, rather than creating new check in posts every day.
- Those with Regular status (trust level 3) can add tags and categorise topics to other people’s posts, this is encouraged.
Posting while under the influence - Seeking Help cateogry
Posting while under the influence or while actively using is against forum rules. Moderators and members with ‘Regular’ status can move these posts to the Seeking Help category, or you can opt-in to this category if you would like to support those struggling with active addiction. These posts will not show up on the main forum.
More about the moderators
The moderator team are volunteers and members here too, seeking and receiving help in our own journeys through sobriety. We do not read all posts and rely on the community to help keep things ticking along. Helpful info for new members
Trust levels and 'the lounge'
When you join the forum, the functionality available to you is limited. The more you participate, the more you are able to do here. Note that the easiest way to increase your trust level is to read lots, which is also likely to be pretty useful for your sobriety! When you achieve Regular status (Trust Level 3) you get access to the lounge which is a category that is not visible on the main forum.
Respecting personal boundaries
The connections we forge here, often while we are at our most vulnerable, can feel incredibly close. This is of course one of the amazing things about the forum, the support that we all give and receive, but it does occasionally lead to emotional entanglements that may not break the rules but can be difficult to deal with. We are all adults and free to make our own choices, but it is something to be aware of when entering into conversations, particularly via private message. Respecting personal boundaries in recovery
The frequently asked questions thread has a collection of some really useful topics that pretty much all of us have asked or thought about at one time or another. Some of the posts are quite old but there is some great content there. Frequently asked questions about sobriety for newcomers
Check out the replies in this topic for links to some other active threads and join the conversation. Use the search bar in the top right to have a look through if you’re after something more specific.
One of the best pieces of advice I see here (and give) often is to read, read and read some more. You might be surprised at how much you can relate to someone on the face of it very different from you, or you might find just the answer you’re looking for.
Keep checking in and reach out whenever you need to