Day 2 sober from Porn, Masturbation, Phone Sexting, Sexting, Dating App, Social Media and all other forms.
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All progress is good progress! My husband has been addicted to pornography and lust since he was 10 years old and is now over 2 years clean! It took him many relapses, countless lies, and plenty of near breakups for him to wake up.
In my opinion you need to fo a 90 day reset from social media and honestly the internet in general. Find new hobbies that can distract you from your urges to masturbate or look at porn. Look into the VidAngel app and website for movies/shows- you can completely block out nudity and sexual content. If you’re into audible, look into Your Brain On Porn. It’s an INCREDIBLE read.
We live in a highly sexualized society these days and nudity follows you EVERYWHERE. I believe in you! You got this! Also know that NSFW content does the same thing to the brain that hard-core pornography does so make sure you’re not consuming anything like that as well.
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Thank you @Barefootbabyx and I’m so happy you took a chance on your husband not many ladies would do this you are Superwoman and you’re husband is so lucky to have you in his recovery and for your advise it’s impossible to be cut off completely from the internet because of my business however this advise will do a lot good as it will shape my experience on the internet I don’t go where I’m not wanted
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Day 3 sober from Porn, Masturbation, Phone Sexting, Sexting, Dating App, Social Media and all other forms.
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Hey Mr Anonymous2022,
I’m going to link you another group, because I really think that not having group support is your biggest hinderence. Like a group with live conversations. Not just over text, where you can be… anonymous. Lol.
Could be the missing link. Could lead to many unexpected good things. 
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It wasn’t easy, I can tell you that much. Pornography literally hijacks the reward system in your brain and makes it incredibly difficult, sometimes impossible to recover from, ESPECIALLY since the internet literally shoves nsfw content and porn in your face 24/7. But I totally believe in you! If my husband can do it (and believe me, he had more issues like this than just watching porn), anyone can.
If you can’t stay off the internet completely, definitely just back off from social media. Keep it work only and then find other ways to spend your time. Doom scrolling and boredom lead to searching out other things to make your brain happy. It will be so hard at first but after the first two weeks it gets A LOT easier 
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I have learnt a lot from this post thank you so much
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Everything that happens to you is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose. - Sober Time’s message for September 29, 2025.
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Day 0 to Masturbation
Day 4 to Porn, Dating apps, social media
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Day 1 sober from Masturbation
Day 5 sober from Porn, Dating apps, social media, phone sexting, sexting
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I’m rooting for you!!!
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Thank you so much
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I’m having some craving a
I’m trusting my higher power so I don’t relapse it’s been hard
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When you have cravings, redirect yourself. Find something else to do.
I have now relapse twice in 36 hours, i did do that, i took a very long walk, came back home, even talk to a lady that night, came home kept my phone away then few hours i brought the phone to myself and that is how I relapse to fantasying over ladies on dating apps, datings sites reading erotic rubbish, phone sexting a lady, sexting a lady I shouldn’t have although I deleted the message but she might seen it cause she hasn’t sent me any message and I don’t blame her and been angry that I fell again
This addiction pollutes everything it touches have had to remove the ladies I like from my contact so that I do sexting or type rubbish when this addiction strikes
im Committed to recovery I pray this October will not been polluted by my addiction and it did and it’s fine I will keep going and praying
Day 0 from Porn, Masturbation, Dating apps, Phone sexting, sexting,
Day 5 from social media
Am I willing to do whatever it takes to stop masturbating? Do I really want to escape this masturbation? Why do I feel like I am missing out when I am not masturbating? And lastly, why do I think I will die if I don’t masturbating? Questions I ask my self time and again. May God Grant me the ability to answer these questions as honestly as I can.
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Notice how you didnt respond to me the two times I shared groups for you to join, that have men in it to keep you accountable, even though you previously said that you need accountability.
It makes me wonder how seriously you want to actually change this behaviour.
Also notice how instead you reply to ‘barefootbabyx’, a woman(zero disrespect intented towards her). To me, this looks like toxic validation seeking behaviour. Its in the way you use dating apps, or text women, its the same in this forum. I would advice that you dont lean on women to help you with this issue, as leaning on women is an entrenched part of your problem.
Instead, if you are really serious about getting better, reach out to men. Join one of the groups Ive suggested to you. Learn from men who have also gone through similar patterns of validation seeking from women, who have recognised how this toxically affects many aspects of their lives, who have gone on to recieve support from other men and greatly healed this damaged way of showing up.
Check out the NMMNG section of the second group I sent you, if you are truly commited to changing and trying something different fromthe ‘willpower’ method, which has been debunked time and time again.
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I’m so sorry Jed no I meant no disrespect I saw the message but glance through I didn’t know it was for me seriously I’m so sorry for ignoring you it was never the intention I do reply everybody irrespective of gender it was a pure out of sight
I will join those groups now thank you so much I appreciate
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