Joining now
It’s saying I have to pay?
Allen Carr refers to any method that involves making a sacrifice as a willpower method. This brainwashed belief that PMO provided something of value pointed to a bigger problem within me than my behavior. Have you read this yet?
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Hey dude, I in no way mean that I take it personally, all good. I just notice and want to point out to you what could be a pattern related to your addiction, as the asdictions you mention are going to be affecting every interaction with women. Im talking from personal experience.
Yes, the second group I sent you is something like $50 a month, for 4 2hr sessions each month. I actually consider this such immense value, and ask you to consider if $50 a month feels like an investment you wsnt to mske in your self in order to start getting to the root issues causing your porn addiction, and ways that you show up around women that hinder healthy relationship.
The first group I sent you (I think on your other post) I believe has free weekly calls. But I feel that you could benfit from the structure offered in the second group, at least to begin with.
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Day 0 to masturbation, sexting
Day 2 to dating apps, social media, porn
Sorry to hear about your relapses.
It sounds like you are really stuck in the cycle of addiction, it’s got its claws in you and it’s not letting go.
I noticed in one of your recent posts you said you always relapse after 3 days (or words to that effect). I wonder if you’re 1 - trying to think about the big picture too much, rather than taking it day by day, and 2 - setting yourself up to fail by telling yourself you can’t possibly be sober for more than X number of days.
Believe me, it’s a shit place you’re in at the moment, I understand that completely. I remember when I was stuck in active addiction, unable to stop myself from masturbating, white knuckling a few days before relapsing. I thought it would be impossible to go more than a week or two without masturbating.
Do you know what happens if you don’t masturbate for an extended period of time? Nothing bad happens. You’re not gonna die if you don’t masturbate. You are not missing out. Sure you get urges, but you don’t have to act on them.
What helped me has been going to a good therapist who understands sex addiction, reading recovery material and educating myself on my addiction, reading and connecting with people on here, and joining SAA - going to meetings regularly, more recently getting a sponsor and working the steps (but as a baseline, just going to the meetings regularly was invaluable).
All that stuff above is making a conscious decision and commitment to change. Some scarier or more effort than others, but all I’ve found to be worthwhile.
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Thank you
I’m really in a dark hole right now and I will overcome
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Day. 1 sober from Masturbation
Day 3 sober from Porn and all its form
Day 2 sober from masturbation
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Congrats on day two. The desire is there for you, you keep trying. Don’t give up! 
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Thanks I will keep going
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Day 3 sober from Masturbation
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Day 4 sober from Masturbation
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Congrats on day four! You’re doing great!
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Incredible!!! Great job!
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Thanks so much
I appreciate
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Day 5 sober from Masturbation
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Congrats 
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Thank you Jettie
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