Uh yeah, that’s what it is.
Or maybe it’s no Fresh African Pickles.
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Hi @ImJustMe. Sorry about the confusion.
Fap is just a term that some use to refer to masturbation.
So some of us here are choosing to abstain from masturbation for 90 days.
Lol. @OnePercentBetter, congratulations on the 5 days. I suppose smartphones in the bathroom can be trigger. You know what you’re triggers are. Taking steps to manage the triggers is a good idea.
Still MB free for me. Let’s go another day!
I’m not a porn addict but the thought of gaining clarity and more energy sound very appealing…
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And no Fresh African Pickles for me! Lol.
Day 6-Have more time to do whats important to me:slight_smile:
Checking in doing well so far
Day 7 -My first clean week.So happy 
Got tempted while reading news and saw a topless photo of paris jackson but controlled myself from fapping.
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Good job guys. No MB for me as well. And @OnePercentBetter, congrats on staying strong. I know that searching through news articles can reveal some risque photos. I personally stopped surfing news sites like Yahoo because there can be so many triggering links for me. Personal decision for me. I’m better off spending my time doing other things.
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Day 8 -going good.
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Day 9-Good improvement in my mood:slight_smile:
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I’m definitely an alcoholic, but am I a FAP addict if I can’t imagine not fapping at least once a week?
Hey guys I am truly confused🤔 I have a question? what is wrong with FAP? at least 3 times a week.? I mean if you’re horny you’re horny. I don’t see what the big deal is.? Taking care of yourself.! I think it’s better than being with a prostitute or some skank on the street. I mean if you were in a relationship with a significant other you’d be having sex 3 times a week right? I’ve always been told that it was good to clean that waste out of your body. Now I don’t do it three times a week but I’m not horny no more, I’m a 55 year old! old lady. And now when I was younger now that’s another story😄 we won’t talk about that here!
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Thanks for the thought @lizak. I don’t believe that anyone here is saying that there is anything wrong with masturbation.
Sometimes, though, people may want to redirect their desires toward other things. Like any other activity, for example, watching TV or eating sweets or playing computer games or dating, sometimes it just helps some to take a break or fast from certain activities for awhile.
@OnePercentBetter started this thread to get support while he’s going through this reboot period.
Now here’s where it gets a little tricky. @Skuhl1986, you asked If someone can’t imagine not MB for at least once a week, does that make someone an addict? Well, no it does not. Many of us cannot imagine going a whole day without seeing, or hearing, or tasting, or sharing love between another person or even consuming alcohol. That doesn’t make someone addicted. I don’t want to give anyone the impression that there is anything intrinsically wrong with masturbation, period.
But I’m a sex, porn, and masturbation addict. And that puts me in a different category than others. In my experience, one necessary symptom of addiction is that it creates and fuels unmanageability in my life. Is it consuming much of my time? Is it negatively impacting my relationships? Am I spending all of my money and putting my financial well being in jeopardy? Am I putting myself at risk to catching an STD? Am I practicing criminal behaviors that violate and hurt others in addition to having me face prosecution? For me, all of these were true. And I made a choice to abstain from MB because it became a building block behavior for me. My fantasy life would give me less reward, and I turn to MB. Then I would MB to the unrealistic fantasies in my head, and I would gradually need more MB to give me the same high. So then I elevate to MB while viewing porn. I would later need more porn or more extreme types of porn to give me the same rush. Then, I would escalate to using prostitutes. You see, my sex addiction is degenerative. And if I don’t nip it in the bud right in my own mind, eyes, and heart. Well it’s a very slippery slope toward my destructive behaviors. @lizak, you can relate to this when I say that for me, it is truly a matter of life or death. I cannot control my addictive behaviors. The best I’ve found for me is to just surrender them to God. And my life is sooooo much better as a result.
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@KevinesKay, I never realized that this could be a problem, or understood it to be this way. But as you have clearly explained it I understand completely. I am so sorry for you! And if there’s any time you need, to talk. I will pray for you. But remember you can get through this. God stands beside you look to your higher power he will lead you, but remember we must always think him for the blessings he has bestowed us prior. You are a strong man I can tell this just in the communication in this nice letter that you have written to me. You can do this you just need faith and trust in yourself and never underestimate the strength that God has given you good luck in your journey and remember we are all here walking in the same path.
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