Congratulations Olivia.
I’m so freaking happy for you.
Are we all invited?
I’d love to see Finland.
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what!!! OMG Congratulations!!! felicidades!!!
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Congratulations!!!
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Congratulations Olivia, I’ve just come across your story and it brings me such joy as a PMO addict that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
I wish you all the very best happiness.
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Holy cannelloni amiga!!! What wonderful news. So happy for you! 
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Thank you everyone! We are happy for all congratulations 
A little culture lesson:
Finnish tradition is that both get an engagement ring and only the bride gets a wedding ring in the wedding ceremony. We went to the jeweller together to get rings. So there wasn’t “an American proposal”, him on one knee surprising me while a Mariachi band plays, fireworks go off and 500 doves ascend in a candle lit park 
We simply discussed the matter and he asked if I wanted to marry him. I returned the question. We went and bought rings shortly after that.
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I love the tradition of two engagement rings! My husband and I also just discussed and agreed we wanted to marry and then ordered rings and wore them before our ceremony. We took them off, gave them to the magistrate, and put them back on!
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Seeing this after being witness to your personal journey over the last two years is very inspiring. You deserve to be happy and fulfilled in life. I am beyond excited for you!
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So is the wedding ring that is only for the woman a fancier one (like a UK US engagement ring)?
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Yes, that’s my understanding. Surely if one can afford two fancy rings, why not 
My wedding ring is fancier than my engagement ring 
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TW: sexual abuse, porn, medical procedure
Ok, this one’s nasty and surprising.
I had a gastroscopy in the morning. Never had one before, pray to God I’ll never ever need one again. The procedure was uncomfortable but nothing, nothing compared to the increasing pain I have in my throat ATM. I can’t talk or swallow so I’m spitting in a cup. I’ve taken paracetamol and I hope it’ll work this time (I can’t take anything else because it might cause abdominal bleeding).
I’m miserable but also grateful. This is a reality check. I’m thinking of women who have endured forceful BJs to do porn, the porn I’ve watched in the past. It’s a fantasy where you get aroused by something you think is sexy. In reality, it must hurt like hell to be throat raped. I’m sad and shamed and rightfully so. There’s no running into fantasies anymore and pretending to take pleasure in someone’s suffering.
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Gastroscopy, part 2
I ended up going to an A&E/ER 12 hours after my procedure. My throat was in such pain that I couldn’t swallow or talk anymore. Paracetamol helped only a bit. After an hour of waiting, I was upgraded to a gurney in a hallway when I got nauseous and dizzy. There was an overflow of patients that night so it took 4 hours to get checked by a doctor. I was given better pain meds and taxied home around midnight. It’s scary when you’re sick, in great pain and living alone. Although it wasn’t ideal to spend many hours in the hospital, at least I was around people.
I’m better now. I slept and woke up pain free.
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I’m glad you are feeling better now Olivia it must have been a really scary evening for you.
Sending all my best wishes that you have a speedy recovery.
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So glad you got help and some relief, chica! You’re right, it is scary to deal with medical issues and pain like that alone - I can relate, having had a couple scares when Eric has been gone on long trips overseas. It’s also an important realization that what has been culturally cultivated to arouse a viewer is anything but what healthy sexual relationships look like for many, most. I won’t speak for all, but from personal experience it certainly isn’t. Hugs.
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Fishermen make the best husbands a woman could ever want for obvious reasons I am sure you are already aware of, but be sure to remind your fiance that the best catch he ever landed is…YOU!
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You speak the truth my friend lol
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2y 2m 30d
Looking back on 2022 I’m amazed. Another year sober although I did have some close calls. Also, it was SO difficult to tell my bf about my addiction when we were getting serious about our relationship but I have been blessed with an amazingly understanding man. I am nervous and excited about our love life and how it’s going to go but that’s something to worry about when we get there.
I’ve realised something that I didn’t believe before: I can’t build my self worth on others’ opinions. My Man tells me I’m lovely, cute, sexy and beautiful, over and over again. I’m flattered and it makes me feel good. Yet, it doesn’t always fully reach me and it’s not his fault. I’ve come to realise it has to do with what I think of myself. Ta dum tss! So I still have a journey ahead to nurture self love and acceptance. Since it’s important in the daily stuff I could imagine it’s important in the bedroom as well.
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2y 4m 1d
I have given my notice both to my boss and landlord. I will be moving out at the end of March. Wowza! My Man better be driving up here to get me and my stuff
Wedding planning is coming along nicely, well, at least the parts that I’m doing Don’t get wrong, Man is participating although we’re quite differently paced. Him working full time is just pathetic excuses Disclaimer: that was a sarcastic joke
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2y 5m 13d
My days in my current hometown are coming to an end. My Man will pick me up and I will finally move on 26th March. Most of my stuff is gone already.
Come April and I’ll be living in a new apartment, starting a new job and getting things ready for the wedding. So much to do, eh… I’ll try to enjoy it rather than stress about it LOL.
Sobrietywise… I’m nervous and excited. I’ve been abstinent for A VERY LONG TIME so it’s natural, I know. But still. Letting someone that close is a bit scary.
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