Thank you for everyone who dared to comment. I understand it’s not an easy issue. Even I don’t know what to make of it. It’s hard to ask for help with emotional struggles bc I’m terrified that I’m not “seen”, I’m too much, too difficult for others.
Tis’ a lonely road
You know, Olivia, silence is death. When we remain silent we are 100% sure we won’t be seen. So thanks for opening up. It means a lot. I’m not saying we should blurt anything out for the whole world to see and hear. It’s super sensitive stuff so let’s tread carefully, Mind your step. But we do need to communicate and share. if we keep it all inside we’ll die. I will die. And I’m not ready to die yet. Thanks again. Big big hugs.
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Haven’t checked in here for while. Been busy with recovery and procrastination 
Some moments I’m hopeful, other times old fears come rushing in.
Absolutely! U need someone who respects the fire, but it is yours to kindle!
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I spent 2 weeks on self suspension from the forum. Not sure if it was long enough but I’m betting I’ll find my answer soon.
She’s back!! 
I love this! 
Dearest Eric, I have to say I was really bummed that I missed your zoom presence while I was away. I would have soooooo loved to be there
Glad to see you back friend.
Hi Liv,
Nice to see you. Anyways, before I returned to TS, I was lurking the site for quite a while. And when I read this post several months ago, I actually started practicing that with my own daughters.
They are 10 and 14. I definitely know that my 14 year old has some issues with depression and low self-worth. Maybe I can help her to feel a little better about herself.
So thank you.
And glad to see you back.
It was a set up by @Ravikamor
I was like a frightened turtle. You didn’t miss much.
Wait Liv you were gone?
I didn’t know felt like I just talked to you a few minutes ago? 
Your presence here is important, especially to people in recovery, I know you dealt with a lot of my shit and still do
He he he he 
Good to see you back 
Hi guys my names kenzie i wanted to find a place to chat and help support me on my journey to being porn free. I never thought it would be so hard but i would like to not watch it anymore. I want it out of my life and my relationship with my partner. They dont much mind it but i know it could cause problems down the road. So hi im here and im looking forward to chatting with you all 
Thank you @Mno @Ravikamor @KevinesKay @DarrenUK @Dazercat @Fury @Milele
@Rosehip22 Welcome to the forum!
Posted this on public threads a few days ago.
Hi TS Fam,
I’ve been staying away from the forum for some time. It is difficult to be back and write this. I’m hurt by some things I’ve seen occuring regularly on the forum. I’ve addressed people privately but wanted to make a public post too.
There have been topless pics recently and discussion about the no-topless-pics guideline, once again. I’m a porn addict so seeing a topless pic of a man or a woman is very triggering. Needing to deal with bare skin in my daily life and then having to face that on a sobriety forum too is too much for me to cope with. Not only are such images triggering but they also are breaching my sexual boundaries, which takes my mind and body right back into the time when I was sexually abused and raped. Understandably, that causes terror, fear, helplessness, pain and anxiety in me still today.
With the abundance of social media outlets available, I do not understand why it upsets you that you can’t post your half naked pictures or other sexist content on a forum that also has recovering sex and porn addicts. Even if you don’t agree with the no-topless-pics guideline, would you please at least respect those addicts whom it was designed to protect? We take our sobriety as seriously as you take yours. You’re not only disregarding a guideline but the people behind it.
I won’t be able grasp alcoholism like alcoholics do, but I can still do my best to respect your recovery and not post pics of alcohol, for example. I’m perplexed why I can’t have the same in return. Instead, some people are posting and making fun of triggers that I still struggle with immensely. I find that hurtful, undermining and unsupportive.
Furthermore, I’ve experienced that there are double standards regarding nudity and substance abuse on the forum. Some addict groups enjoy the protection of clear and justifiable guidelines whilst challenging and disregarding the same guidelines for others. For example, a pic of alcohol gets flagged and removed without any fuss whereas flagging and removing a topless pic usually creates an uproar. Then PMO addicts like me get backlash from people not understanding how it is even possible to be triggered by it. I get told I should be able to tolerate nudity since it’s natural. Well, so is alcohol and but you still don’t need to see it here. It is really not fair and makes me feel like my addiction is of less importance. I’m not an equal with others and my words mean nothing. That is frustrating.
I have muted, ignored, scrolled past, tried not paying any attention and been on self suspension to cool off but I have reached my limit now. I no longer feel safe and welcome to this forum and that makes me really really sad. My country has no support groups for my doc so this place is basically all I have. I can’t control anyone else’s behaviour, only mine, so I’m seriously considering leaving this place to protect my sobriety. Ironic, isn’t it?
Disclaimer: I have no admonitions towards the moderators. Our co-operation on the matter has been very good and they are doing an outstanding job.
