People like you are winners! You can do this!
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Hey Anita, I can relate to that rejection - it seems like a common thread among us. Thank you for sharing.
Hereās a video you can check about another woman who faced rejection and got out of sex addictions:
Anita_Jean, you are not alone and there is hope for you!!
God loves you and accepts you!
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thank you so much for your motivation and boosting my confidenceā¦
Having confidence in ourselves we can beat any addiction.
We will do it and show that we are stronger than the addiction.
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Dude! Well done! I am on day 1 of sobriety. Last night and today I kept myself from giving in. Prayer really helps and being focused. Itās my number 1 goal in my life to stay sexually sober! Keep up the sobriety man, youāre doing great!
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I have had a tough 24 hours
Two online porn sights.
One chat line. Spent 100 dollars
Feel
Terrible
Wish I believed in God
More.
Listen. Recovery is not easy. Itās a struggle and an uphill climb. You may not believe in God, but I do. I believe that God allows us to experience the worst pains the world can give us, so we can appreciate the goodness and wonder that the world has to offer. Without the bad, the good is meaningless.
What would be more sweet to you? Fruit and Vegetables you bought at a store, or the ones you worked hard to grow in a garden? We find joy in the struggle of life.
How could we understand eternal joy that God offers, if we donāt go through the opposing struggle to appreciate it?
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So, you want to believe in God. So do I. I donāt know what your obstacle is, but Iāll share mine. I grew up in the church. Iāve always considered myself Christian, still do. My problem is that church was always a source of judgement and shame for me. All it did was remind me of how broken I was. So, Iāve decided to believe in a God, some kind of higher power, if people ask I call it Jesus. I do believe itās a God of love. As far as all the rules and technicalities go, I have no idea. Iāve decided not to worry about it for now. Problems for future Mike, as I like to say. I understand if that sounds blasphemous to some, but the God who would condemn me for that blasphemy would condemn me for a dozen or more other things Iāve done too, put it on my tab.
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Where do u get a dumb phone
Hi everyone, i am a recovering porn, masturbation, and sex addict. I am only a few days back on track after a slip. But im greatful for the few days.
Its nice to know im not alone in this.
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Hey Todd. Youāre in the right place at least. Whatās been your recovery plan? Do you have one?
Iāve found that going in to battle without a sword or shield is asking for a relapse.
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Your very right. However i kinda jumped in. Dont have s total plan. Ive joined this site and another. Been trying to follow the 12 step . Im on 2.
Dont have alot of f2f opportunity around me on these addictions, so ive been trying to use online to seek support, advice, helpā¦
Ive found some phone in meetings, and this forum.
Thanks for the acknowledgment!
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Absolutely. We are pretty active on this forum. Search the threads and learn from the hivemind. Write us your own thread of your story so we can help you out. We got to stick together!
Hi Guys, I hit 5 days sober from porn. Keep me in your prayers tonight. I wanna beat this thing one day at a time! Iām going for day 02 of no masturbation. Only God can help me, He knows how addicted I am and He knows how weak I am, but there is always a way of escape, but I have to be humble enough to find it and search for the way of escape in each temptation, whether it be shoving my laptop in the boot of the car, or pumping some weights, doing pushups or taking a cold shower. Or getting out of my warm duvet covers and getting on my knees on a cold floor, there is always a way! I have to want it! As long as I want something else, no victory! I can even pray āGod, you see I want evil! Help me to want good!ā Listen to this womans testimony of how she found the way of escape at the last minute:
Been tough lately. Each day I cancel a subscription to a lien site. After work I enlist again. I waste all night in it. Then cancel. Each day I repeat the process.
Hey @Adam1, thanks for sharing. I think many of us have been where you are now, stuck in a routine of acting out that we have but canāt break free from. I recommend upsetting your routine to try breaking free. Just for tonight, find something else to do that will prevent you from signing up again. Just tonight! Donāt worry about tomorrow, you can deal with that when it comes. If you must be on your phone or computer tonight, please come here instead of going to your typical sites. Read what the AAs and NAs are posting, their experience is the same as ours and thereās a lot of wisdom to be had.
Hope you have a great day.
@adam1, I am here in a similar situation. I swore off porn in early July and did great for about a month. I recently have slipped back into a about a once a week relapse. I am trying not to beat myself up too much but I also donāt want to be complacent. I felt so much better during that 30 days and want to get that feeling back.
I can attest that changing routines definitely helps. I also have been attending SA meetings.
For me there are definite triggers and situations that I need to avoid. I think I can identify them but I have not yet developed plans to adequately deal with them.
I believe recovery is a process. Like has been said before, we didnāt get this way overnight and we will not change overnight. I think the important thing is recognizing this is an addiction and dealing with it like other addictions.
The fellowship on this site is a big help, so keep coming back and working on recovery. You are not alone.
I am Aragorn. We will destroy the ring, Frodo!
@Adam1 like had been said, change your routine, when you get off work do something instead of going home and getting on the computer like going for a walk go to the gym window shopping, anywhere that will keep you in public so you canāt sign up again.
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I have 53 days today! My standard is strict but I still get triggered.
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Although alcohol is my major issue, I am a porn / sex addict as well. One step at a time I guess.
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