Well said. Sounds like a good plan.
I started to get traction when I realised those with compulsive disorders are always looking for something.
Searching for love, attention, approval, safety, reassurance, validation, peace.
Or looking to avoid, escape or numb pain.
This is what drives our connection with our poison.
Once I started asking myself what I really wanted, in the moment of craving, what do I really want? What hole, what void, what chasm inside myself am I trying to fill? What am I trying to replace, or achieve?
The landcsape from then on changed a lot, It’s a deeper journey of understanding myself now, rather than just white knuckling and trying to avoid thinking about porn.
Self care is also central to my recovery. Literally putting my arms around my self and taking good care, talking to myself like I would a loved one, a friend, a child or beloved pet.
I’d never want any of them to feel a shit as I did and go through the horrors I have, but I let it happen to myself without a thought. I have been utterly disconnected from my true self.
The sad truth is, for years I treated myself terribly, only now can I really dialogue with self and that provides a lot of ease, a lot of comfort and has gone a long way to avoiding mental tug-o-wars and guilt/shame cycles.
We all need to be our own best friend through this. We are the only one who has been there through it all, with ourselves, every step. And will continue to do so. This I find reassuring and I’m not feeling so lonely in this anymore.
and stay safe