Congratulations on your streek and the upcoming wedding! Get proper sleep so you’re able to take it all in 
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Nice to hear back from you. Almost to 2 months. Great job.
Blessings
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Keep up the good work bro!!! 56 Days clean is awesome, keep on taking great steps forward!
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How do you know if youre addicted to porn?
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Same way as you can tell if you’re addicted to anything else.
- Can I stop using it (porn) at will?
- Does it interfere with relationships, work etc?
- How often do I think about it?
- How much does it cost me (time & money)?
- Has my life become unmanageable?
… and so on.
I would say that, generally speaking, if someone is using porn and wondering about addiction, then they most probably have a problem.
Another good reference material is the 40 questions for self diagnosis from SLAA (Sex and love addicts anonymous).
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Thanks I will have a look at that
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You’re welcome. I hope you find what you’re looking for. Don’t hesitate to ask us if there’s something on your mind!
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I would say it at least depends on what it stops you from doing. A lot of us are here because addiction is a ridiculously inconvenient way to live. Are you finding yourself struggling to do anything because of it?
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I wouldnt say so. I train hard. Run half marathons and obstacle courses. I go to work and work hard 10 hours a day but I also spend alot of time having sex and looking at porn.
Have you read Easy Peasy yet?
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Welcome ! I’m back at day 1 myself but it’s just a number. I’ve been healing a lot and learning a lot and I’m happy to keep making progress, and grateful that I get to make this journey with everyone here. I think about my talking sober friends every single day 
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How are you doing bro? Haven’t heard from you in a minute?
Three years after my wife dumped me, now I can clearly say that I’m addicted to porn and that I have to quit. I’m ashamed, which is funny in a way because my weed or alcohol addiction never put me to that amount of shame in the past, even though I did so many stupid things.
Just bought “Your brain on porn”…and, wow, just wow. Many things from my past and present suddenly make sense. I add a new sober time counter too 
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It takes courage and humility to admit you’re addicted, no matter what the DOC. Great that you’ve realised your porn addiction and I’m sorry you’ve had to add one more thing to your list. Fortunately, recovery can and will take you forward in all fronts eventually.
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Thank you Olivia! Yes, admitting is the first step as always. It’s not like I’ve never been addicted to anything else
I will continue to read, learn, and recover 
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“People say ‘pornography is not wrong with adults’ but the problem is that you never find it as an adult. I don’t know anybody who found it as an adult. You find it AS A CHILD, it’s everywhere!”
Terry Crews talks about his life journey very openly and down to earth. I recommend. Obviously, trigger warning is in place
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I LOVE this, thank you so much
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The mechanism of addiction, great summarizing animated video
Where did you guys start (to fix this)? Is there anyone here who has never told their significant other? Does it get easier once you have a few days clean?
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I started gradually by realising that I have a problem. I was in therapy because of depression at the time so I raised the issue with my therapist. I started looking for peer support and found this forum. I told some of my trusted friends, too. Somehow I sensed that’s what I needed to do and it was hugely important for my recovery. I kept grinding one day at a time for a couple years. Then I met my husband. I told him about my addiction after we had dated a couple of months and were getting serious. We’ve discussed it every now and then but I’ve never told him the ugliest details. He doesn’t need to know that much.
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