Amen to that!
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Another day living in the light of freedom - feel like such a burden has been lifted of my shoulders. Have to be very careful I don’t get complacent. PMO is worthless and full of lies and promises illusory gains which it can’t deliver. Hope you are all in good form!
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Day 57 free. Gotta do a better job at not being so distracted/ easily distracted at work. I know it’s the dopamine addiction but I need to try to map out a plan so I’m offline more. No temptation or cravings but I don’t like having to be constantly distracted…
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let me tell you something. Be careful of traps in social media. My buddy sent me a funny video on tik tok, i click on it, my natural ‘muscle memory’ is to look at the thumbnail and scroll down, it took 5 seconds to find something inappropriate. It wasn’t porn, but the outfit was clearly to show off her body, I CLICKED OFF THAT SO FAST AND SAID TO MYSELF, “DAY 58!!!” It’s Poison/Bleach everywhere, please be careful bros!
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Way to go! This is a good lesson for all of us. Porn is going to be out there. It’s a part of the world in which we live, but practicing good techniques like bouncing the eyes is a good way to prepare to beat it BEFORE it gets the chance to plant in our minds and corrupt.
Very proud of you my friend! 
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Yes, it’s hinted at everywhere! Nice one for kicking that temptation out of your way! Had a healthy day today. Feel like I’m breathing fresh air for the first time in ages - not the suffocating stench of porn OR innuendo that surrounds us.
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So true. Your paper tiger analogy in many ways. Porn will cross our paths very frequently because its marketed everywhere around us today. Best to recognise it behind its window dressing, call it out and not pick it up…don’t give it the power it craves!
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Bro i am getting to 365 and beyond. I’m so determined but i know it’s going to be everywhere for sure. For me, though i have a good resolve, i need not be overconfident and putting myself in the ‘one click away’ situations. Just getting on tik tok is a major trigger, i ended up deleting the text and just sending him laughing emoji’s. i never actually watched the video, he doesn’t need to know why. My muscle memory will not allow me to be normal, so i would rather just be smart and not feed that ‘little monster’. He’s caged up and has no hold on me.
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Tik tok, Facebook, online news etc can open up a world of temptation for me too. There’s always some kinda link to porn in some shape or form. Like you say the muscle memory is very strong. With you 100% in all of this. I don’t want to go there. Its not worth the lifetime of regret. You are doing really well!
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Hi all, sorry for my language English isn’t my first. I’m 36 years old been using internet porn for so long I can’t remember and before that porn cds and vhs. Think I was 9 first time. Been feeling that I wanted to quit since 2007 but have always ended with a excuse that it’s not so dangerous and it’s healthy etc. And the spiraling down. I now feel I need to change my life. I have had problems with socializing, ed, not being able to cum, low self esteem thoughts of ending it all. Reading up on the dopamine system and the brain I think that all of the 20s something self help books I’ve read and all the therapy hours has just been an bandaid. And porn beeing the actual underlying problem. Haven’t looked at porn since before the New Years but two times to the tv show naked attraction, last time this week so I’m counting from that day. 1 day and 5 hours in.
Have a great day all!
Chris
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Hi and welcome. Its a struggle definitely but a number of guys here have found freedom. Freedom from porn, masterbation and org seeking behaviour is like a caged bird being set free and realising the joy of real life. It’s like feeling a new breeze on your face which you haven’t felt since childhood before you entered into the snare if porn. One of my friends here calls it the paper tiger - it offers you nothing and can’t harm you if you don’t pick it up! There is no benefit in it…its like drinking bleech or craving poison which will destroy you and everything you care about!
I recommend easy peezy as a vital e-book. It will open your eyes to the lies porn has been telling us. Read it all and follow it’s steps.
God bless!
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Welcome Chris. Glad you could join us!
Like you I got exposed at age 9 10 years old at my dad’s house. Till this day that’s still the worse stuff I’d ever seen. It almost destroyed my marriage. I’ve tried everything to break free but I would always relapse. The above site helped me 100% break free. You’ll see. Half way thru, it was over. We’re here for you, everyday going forward.
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Welcome to the fire, Chris!
We all come from different walks of life, but we all have similar stories. We turned to porn for comfort and only got pain and addiction, but finding each other; forming connections, being accountable; these are all things that help each of us progress and finally be free of the darkness.
Welcome to the group! Come, sit by our fire , share your daily experiences, and find strength in the brotherhood.
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Thanks everybody! It feels good to read your posts and to have this space for sharing. It makes me feel less of an lonely strange freak.
I actually seeing a sexologist, been going there for intimacy issues and connecting with women. How ever I haven’t spoken to him about this it’s like I haven’t been honest with myself about porn. But now I’m a little afraid he will tell me it’s not that dangerous and that it’s a normal thing too do. Atm I really don’t want to consume porn ever again but if he is questioning me I don’t know if I will see that as a way out and go back to it.
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I’m not speaking for all professionals. But it does disturb me that many of them trivialize or even encourage porn use.
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By the way, one of the best things you can do to improve intimacy issues and connect with women is to quit porn.
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Well brothers, it’s official. I’m currently on the longest clean stretch I’ve experienced since downloading this app in 2015. At 110 days, I can finally day I haven’t been this clean in years.
It’s been a long road and I’ve definitely had my set backs. I’ve relapsed so many times that I wondered why I should even keep trying. I’ve shaken my fist to the sky and promises I’d never engage again, only to slip up 8 hours later, I’ve sworn to myself and to my wife that I would be clean only to wake up from naps and search for porn while in a sleep drunk state, I’ve offered prayers of repentance over and over, and over again… Nothing took hold.
Finally at the end of September 2021, I made the choice to commit myself 100%. I confessed one last time to my wife and to my ecclesiastical leader, I downloaded Covenant Eyes, turned on the safe search for the final time, and started attending group meetings.
I’m not the man I was. I can confidently say that now. They say you will only be free from addiction when the pain of the habit finally becomes more painful than the price of true recovery, and I certainly hit that point. I couldn’t eat, sleep was my only solace, and I had multiple panic attacks a day. I called my own mother and sobbed like a little boy, begging her forgiveness. As a 34 year old man, I hugged my father and sobbed into his shoulder as he held me and told me everything would be ok. My dear sweet wife talked me through many panic attacks and has been by my side the entire time. Finally, after hundreds of dollars of therapy, and many hours spent on my knees praying for forgiveness and promising abstinence, I can finally walk tall and proud knowing I’ve beaten the darkness. Am I free? YES! Am I safe? NO… my success is not a guarantee - nothing in life is a guarantee… But I’ve formed habits that, if continued, will carry me through life sober and resilient.
Now, I’m here to help you. I’m back to gain my revenge on the darkness. I’m here to bring others - brothers and sisters alike - to the light and show them that true freedom from the cage of lust is possible. But you’ve got to want it! You’ve got to fight for it! You’ve got to make it the most important thing in your life and FIGHT for it! You can’t let it in, not even for a second. Start now! Wherever you are, don’t let those seeds of darkness into your heart and mind again!
You’ve got to stand up and FIGHT!
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Brilliant! Very proud of your recovery and witness! I’ve a long way to go but am very encouraged by your post. Thank you!
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Hello everyone.
I am addicted to porn. I am addicted to masturbation. I tried to get rid of it last year and got to 60 days porn free but now I feel like I can’t even get to two weeks.
I don’t have a girlfriend and I am busy all the time with work and gym…trying to build a better life for myself.
I’ve felt like a failure when I was a teenager and thats when I started this damned addiction. Being fat, full of pimples, with troubles in my family I’ve found a “way out” of my stress at the age of 14. Of course that way out was porn and masturbation.
Porn messed up my brain for a long time, I’ve dealt with anxiety for years without realising that my stress relieving habit was the cause of it all.
So yeah here I am with the start of a new journey.
God bless you all!
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