How do you guys block porn on your browser on your computer?
Google’s safe search is way too easy to turn off.
Please give me some better options. I’m even willing to change my browsers from google chrome, and safari to something else.
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I’ve been using Covenant Eyes for years.
I don’t use the filtering part, but CE has a good filter.
And you can even set up one or more of your accountability partners to be your filter guardian so that you can’t turn them off without their consent
Hello everyone I am tempted to watch porn after 13 days. What should I do?
Don’t fucking do it.
It’s just urges. You are better than them. Don’t let them rule your life. You can make the decision.
If you’re really struggling, distract yourself, go for a walk, do 100 press ups, some people swear by a cold shower.
Think how good it’ll feel to make it to 2 weeks sober, and then keep going beyond that. Just keep going, one day at a time.
You got this!
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Find something better to do, seriously. You can’t suffer for no reason, it’s too easy to cave when that’s the case.
“Why the fuck am I doing this again…?”
“No reason”
“Oh I guess I can do it then”
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I had a setback today.
It’s never just that moment.
It’s dropping my safeguards.
Started with a bad dream.
- meditating on a bad adulterous thought. Couldn’t get it out of my head.
- skipped scenes in a inappropriate movie
- full relaose when i got home.
Ive had a guilty conscience gore 25 straight years. I’ve confessed, come forward and number of times.
I’m an addict. Im not progressive. Im a hyprocrite. One day I’ll be free. Maybe.
This is really tough when you are unemployed. If work was your something better to do…
Watch “The Matrix”, pay attention to the “there is no spoon” scene and pursue the realization that pornography is that spoon. That is when you break free, but you still have a choice of whether to stay or leave. I recommend leaving, although it’s not exactly sunshine and roses outside the matrix, just as Moses leads the Exodus - it’s out of the tyranny and into the desert. One day, maybe, the promised land. I’m in a good place since then, I seriously don’t want to go back although there is temptation from time to time. The fight never ends.
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I’m absolutely not saying it’s easy.
Tomorrow I’ll be 60 days free from porn. I’m still getting urges, I’m still getting nasty unpleasant thoughts popping into my head. What I’ve found really helpful when the nasty thoughts/urges come up, is recognising them, thinking about why I’m having them (am I bored, am I stressed, am I anxious .etc.), realising that it’s just my addict brain trying to chase cheap unhealthy dopamine, refusing to give it the satisfaction.
As porn addicts we’ve been brainwashed into thinking that we need porn, that it’s a crutch, it helps calm us down, nah. For me it got to the point where even during watching porn I’d feel like shit, shame, guilt, all the stuff that usually would flood in after I finished.
Porn does absolutely nothing for us. It’s a monumental waste of time looking at a small rectangle in isolation. Fucking up the way you look at people in the real world. (As well as a bunch of other negative effects)
Recognise that porn is shit. Why would you want to watch it? It doesn’t help anything. It makes things worse.
You aren’t giving anything up by quitting, you’re giving yourself the freedom to live your life.
(Woah I really got onto a rant with that one!) 
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The biggest lie is really that you’ll change the state you’re in, like “If only I could do it, then these feelings/motivations would go away” but that’s just not how it works because if it was… Then you wouldn’t have to do it again! You guarantee that you will perpetually return to that state of desire by caving, 100%
Literally, wait for a craving to come around where you start to think that way. Then pretend you already did it, and imagine you’re in this craving state despite having done it - that’s exactly where you would if you did decide to do it anyway, so you might as well not do it and find something better to do.
If I did it a week ago, I’m pretty much in the same spot, but timers reset, cravings are highly motivated, and now I can’t undo all the violations that just took place in my marriage by having given into the temptation. And certainly there’s no comfort in “Well at least you go to do it again” because that just doesn’t hold any weight on that side of the scales considering what’s on the other side.
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100% it’s just feeding the addiction.
The urges/feelings/motivations to watch porn are caused by the porn, not relieved by it.
For me, when I read easypeasy and realised this, it was like a lightbulb moment!
It’s still shit getting the intrusive thoughts, urges, whatever you wanna call them, but at least now I feel better placed to understand them and say no. Rather than just relying on willpower and forcing it.
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hey yall, i’m still figuring out how to use this platform so i hope i’m doing this right lol. but i’m admitting for the first time that i have a porn addiction, and it feels right to do so here with all of ya. i’ve struggled with this for over a decade now, and i feel ashamed of myself for just now trying to change and hold myself accountable when i got so dark with the things i’d watch. tbh, i don’t watch much anymore, but that’s just bc i have it playing in my head almost every waking moment. i create porn in my mind as a tool to distract and numb myself from my feelings and struggles. i wanna be free, my friends, i really do. thank you for readin and i wish everyone the best on your healing journey!!
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Is there a free software?
I have heard of covenant eyes but I think you have to pay for it.
I’ve done a couple of things so far to help.
I turned on google safe search.
Also on apple iPhone there is a feature where you can restrict adult content when on internet. I’ve done that too.
Also on Reddit I’ve blocked adult content.
These things are easily able to be bypassed if I go in and change the settings.
My brain knows it.
Is there something easier.
I don’t want to have to pay for covenant eyes.
I used to feel the same. I looked for free options for years. Nope. And by choosing to purchase CE, I feel more invested and committed in my journey to change.
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This will probably be controversial but I don’t think the softwares that hide explicit material are really worth it.
What would it mean if you were locked in a prison cell with no access to porn or substitutive material? You’re going to find your imagination is pretty much endless, especially since your memory for drug pursuit behavior has been rewarded probably more than anything else besides eating, drinking, sleeping and so on.
You can obviously do whatever works for you so you can get back to living a more balanced life in society but seriously, put in the effort to replace the porn or you will have nothing but the key standing between you and lock. It’s not as fast a solution as the software but it definitely lasts if it’s actually better; and that’s better by your own definition, and in ways you would actually choose over the porn. If you’re the same person except imprisoned in a cell then you will not realize what needs to change to and live a balanced life. And I think this goes for the other addictions too.
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@Buntz You have good points here. Only restricting access to porn is white knuckling and usually ends in a relapse. There’s so much more that needs to be done!
Dealing with an addiction is like battle with two fronts: you fight the symptoms and dig deep for root causes for the addiction. If you turn away from one front, relapse is ready to pounce.
My addiction did not cost me money but it did cost me truck loads of time away from people and myself. I did not pay for software because after a while I deemed it not necessary - I held myself accountable on TS and that worked as an antidote. It’s not enough for everyone, though.
The fight against addiction is serious. You are fighting for your life. Addiction is an all consuming fatal disease and should be treated as such. If one can spare the cost of a software or a recovery programme or whatever, why not go for it? Isn’t your health worth it?
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Yep. I agree with you and @Olivia on that part.
It didn’t matter how much I cleaned up my outside, my behavior.
Until I started working on my inside, which included lust and fantasy, I wasn’t really free.
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This partially explains why you were able to celebrate a year of sobriety recently, and why I chronically relapsed for most of my adult life.
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I’ve found adult content blockers can be a useful tool, but very much are not the solution.
I’ve used them to help me avoid triggers (adult content popping up unexpectedly, doomscrolling on Facebook/Instagram reels), while putting effort into understanding why I had been struggling with a porn/sex addiction, trying to understand my feelings and emotions, and giving myself more appropriate responses to those emotions rather than just hitting the porn button at any and every opportunity.
At the end of the day, if you want to you can disable or bypass a porn blocker. I’ve had more success by fully committing to getting better, not just installing some software and thinking that’ll do all the heavy lifting.
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Feeling the urges pretty badly today. I’m around 4 days clean from looking at porn.
I feel like i keep lying to myself about sexual media though.
I fantasized about porn in my head this morning and went to the app store and looked at sexual media there.
Looking at women with skimpy clothes on (sexual media) i think still keeps me in this addiction.
I need to change how i view sexual media. It should be treated as badly as porn.
I keep thinking i can swear off internet porn, but i’ll just get a playboy in the future…but that is still continuing the addiction (it just might not be as bad as internet porn for you)
I think of it like this;
Would my future wife want me to secretly by myself to jerk it to other women in a magazine or online instead of having sex with her when i am horny?
No
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