Keep at it man, and don’t ever forget how sneaky and insidious this addiction is. I’ve underestimated it many times to my regret.
If you’re a reader I recommend The Slight Edge, or Breaking the Cycle by George Collins. They have helped me.
I’ve been trying to fight porn addiction for 4 years. Lots of ups and downs along the way! Even though I’ve known it’s bad for me I’ve still used. It takes more than willpower to beat it. Don’t go it alone, especially if you’ve got S.A. meetings nearby. Create a recovery plan, identify triggers and how to deal with them, who will you turn to when you need help? Remember, the addict is clever and will justify using in any way possible but ultimately you make the choice to use. Regardless of the number of triggers, porn is always a choice. Make the wise choice.
Welcome. Seems you’ve settled in here nicely. I do hope the best for you in this recovery journey.
@Rosey my dear,I just learned we have more in common than I knew 
I’ll be praying for you too. If you wanna talk to another female about it, I’m here.
I don’t have SA in S.A (South Africa) but I have you guys and would like to keep this support group going. Thanks for your good reply @Mtrav0040
I will never surrender, even if I fall a million times! I will rise every single time!
Pray for me guys. If u need prayer let me know. I’m here in the war zone!
Victorious! I like the name you chose! We will be victorious over this thing!
Thanks for posting - shout out to you! Glad there are some real women on this group too - and feel free to start your own group for women and also encourage the women out there who are caught in this addiction! It’s not just a guy issue it seems and more and more young women are in bondage to it. The porn industry is a sick perverse hateful deceptive and dark industry! Nothing good can ever come out of it no matter how much money they give those poor women! Most of them are abused, poor, depressed and addicted to drugs! I have read a book called “Searching for Intimacy” by Lyndon Bowring and it says exactly that - it is just an illusion (fake) all fake!!! It’s a big lie and a deception! I hate it and am going to keep myself pure for my future wife (if a wife is Gods will for me) if not I will remain a pure single man until I die! I hate porn! It warps the mind and makes a person miserable and enslaves people and I will fight against it in my own life as long as I live and no matter how many small battles I lose I will win the war!
We can’t shut it down! But I can personally SHUT IT DOWN in my OWN life!!
Keep fighting soldiers!
From a fellow warrior on Day 02.
How can I overcome sexual temptation?
Click on the link below to read an article about someone who has been through the battle and is continuing to battle:
How can I overcome sexual temptation?
Or read the full article here:
How can I overcome sexual temptation?
“I really had a longing to be free from my youthful lusts but the way to do this was never clear.”
Written by Brian Janz with Garret Kellas
Garret grew up as a Christian and was often told to keep himself pure and not give in to youthful lusts but the way to do this was never clear. Here he talks about how to get complete victory over all impure thoughts and become free from sexual immorality and all impurity.
“Growing up, I was told to keep myself from fooling around or having sex before marriage. I knew that entertaining impure thoughts was sin and I really had a longing to be free from my youthful lusts, but the way to do this was never clear for me. I was looking for a way out but ended up falling a lot and getting trapped in a horrible cycle where I would try to fight but always came back to my sin in the end. I had no help to become free.
“But finally the way was revealed to me. I got faith that God wanted to give me victory over my sins so I took up a battle against these impure thoughts and by God’s help I began to overcome here. I’m not saying I’m not tempted any more but I’m not controlled by my lusts. I’m not controlled anymore by what a girl wears and how a girl acts or every little thought that comes into my head.
“Victory over these sins is not just an easy 5-minute solution. If you want to win the battle against your lusts you have to be dedicated. The battle actually starts in your everyday life, before you are even tempted by impure thoughts.
A pure thought life
“I think the most important thing for keeping yourself pure is to consciously work in your thought life in the daily situations, before you even come into the trials. As it says in Colossians, ‘Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth.’ (Colossians 3:2) My thought life needs to be based on praying for the others, seeking God, praying for my own life and filling myself with God’s Word. Not only will this keep me from a lot of unnecessary trials but also, when I come into trials and temptations, I’m already ready to battle those temptations.
“As natural people we are so incredibly weak that it was even a battle just to get faith that God could help me. I very quickly figured out how powerless and weak I was against these thoughts and realized that I had to be completely decided that I was going to be done with these sins.
“If I’m even a bit undecided when I come into the trials then I’m for sure going to fall. Because I’m way too weak. I need God’s help to get the victory and then I need to be determined and setting my mind on things above.
“And when I ‘set my mind on things above’ I am actually growing in love for God. And the only thing that can preserve me in my trials is how much I love God. When I’m obedient then that proves that I love God more than myself, more than my own lusts and desires. I’m not just fighting because I want to be free but also because I love God and He hates sin, and so therefore I will obey Him and fight against my sin. And then He gives me the power to overcome.
“When I am faithful to obey God and trust His leading and do whatever He tells me, then He sends me the Holy Spirit, who gives me strength to get victory in temptation. But without that I’m powerless to suffer in the flesh, as it’s written there.
Suffering in the flesh
“‘Therefore, since Christ suffered for us in the flesh, arm yourselves also with the same mind, for he who has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin.’ 1 Peter 4:1.
“To suffer in the flesh, for me, means that when I am tempted to look at a girl and lust after her, if I say ‘no’ to my flesh I’m starving my flesh from that desire and my flesh is suffering. It’s not being allowed to eat what it wants in a sense and it’s actually dying.
“When I’m armed with this mind then I’m willing to suffer in the flesh. It’s because I have a real hatred for sin. Then I’m going to be finished with that sin. If I’ve decided: ‘I will suffer in the flesh. I will not seek my own,’ then I won’t give in to that sin! God will give me strength then!
“And that’s where the fight is. Yeah, the thoughts come but I don’t have to agree with the thoughts. And in that way I take up a battle there and I actually get victory over sin – it’s dying.
A life of peace, joy and victory
“At first there is a suffering there but it’s nothing compared to the suffering that I’ve experienced because of what I had sown to the flesh. And at first you may not have very much peace and you don’t feel very much joy but you get a little bit of victory, and that taste of victory makes you want more and more! And this life is so much better than being a slave to your lusts. I can’t even compare it.
“I mean, in one sense it’s exciting when you think about all these warriors in the Old Testament that fought all these battles outward. But if I think about in the inner man – I’m becoming a warrior in the inner man. Yeah, maybe it’s not outward and something great and heroic but inside it’s pretty heroic to be a warrior. Anybody can give in to their youthful lusts. That takes nothing. How many people can get victory over it?
“Yes it costs something to become a warrior but this life is full of hope and full of joy. With God’s help it is completely possible for anybody who really wants to, for anyone who really desires to be free from his or her lusts. And I think that’s pretty exciting!”
I have had a lot of alone time today, hours of opportunity to act out. But I didn’t I’m headed to a movie with my wife this evening and I’m so looking forward to it.
Today as I was feeling this urge to look at porn, I reminded myself that I don’t want to go back down that road. And then the thought hit me, I actually don’t want to look at porn and masterbate. I still, even as I write this, feel compelled to do it, but I also don’t want to. I want to be sober. I deserve to be sober.
I support you totally. I have the same struggle. Only 5 days sober
Day 0 I relapsed yesterday😢
Sorry. Get back up. Don’t give up.
I am grateful for everyone here and their honesty. I am almost at day 84 (30 minutes from now). Keep connected and bring the body.
Thank you!!! Please pray for me. I want to be free
Hi guys, I am having the same porn and masturbation addiction. This has affected me for more than 10 years. I am trying to get rid of it for more than 4 years without success. Today is my 4th day, I am feeling happier with each day pass by! I wish everyone here to have strong will power to destroy the evils inside. See you all on my 5th day!
Hi All,
I too have been suffering from porn and masturbation addiction. It’s been a struggle for 5 years now, and I’m ready to put an end to it! I relapsed today, but I’m going to get right back up and keep fighting! I’ll keep you all in my prayers and I ask that you do the same for me. Stay strong!
“Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings. And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.” 1 Peter 5:8-10
Hey Everyone,
I had a horrible relapse last night after 4.65 days of being sober.
I believe what led me to relapse was staying up too late - going past my boundaries (10:00pm) is when I need to go to sleep and if I go past that time, I don’t feel sober anymore and am not “alert” then I am prone to viewing porn. It’s a decision I have to make before I am not sober - to pack away the laptop / cell phone. Boomerang protects me on my cell phone, so it shuts off all the apps I can access porn with at 21:30pm.
I am going to fight against sin and be awake so as not to fall back into it again. Please pray for me everyone! I have now been sober for 20hours37minutes.
How are you guys and girls doing?
Anyone else here face extreme rejection in their life, hurt and isolation?
Hey man, sorry to hear you relapsed. Good that you’re identifying trigger times and have put a restraint on your phone.
I have experienced all the things you described. I was an awkward kid and that led to much isolation. Because my peers recognized that I was isolated, it was hard to make friends because they didn’t want to be isolated too, enter rejection. This led to hurt for me. This would play out further and more graphically in my adolescent years. Even sometimes as an adult I feel isolated. I sit in a cube farm with 11 other guys and they rarely interact with me, even if I say good morning. I hear them make plans after work together, it is rare that they invite me.
Reading through some of your old posts… You’re in a tough situation my friend, with no meetings in your area. SA does have phone meetings though, something to consider. If you don’t have access to SA literature, if be happy to mail you some if you’re comfortable PMing me your address. And, looking at your profile, I’m guessing you don’t visit many of the other threads on this forum. I recommend trying them. The “substance” we are addicted to may differ, but our struggles are very much the same. Feelings of defeat, hopelessness, and isolation are common among us.
Have you every heard the acronym for HALT. It very much decribes one of the things to be careful when recovering from an addiction. Hungry (for some type of lust) Angry, Lonely and Tired.
I believe victory over sin is possible - just watch this video!
Victory over porn addiction is totally possible!
Hello all, I just joined this app. Almost 2 weeks sober right now, and I’ll pray for all of you. Part of this specific addiction is the real isolation that comes with it, you feel shame and you don’t want your friends and family to know about it or think differently of you because if it. Because of that you keep it all to yourself and bottle up your struggle on it. Being able to have a platform where you feel free to talk to others and not feel worried about how they will think about you, about this really sensitive thing, is really important. I’m a 25 year old female, and live in the US. I picked up this addiction in middle school, and haven’t been able to fully shake it since.
It’s really is a slippery one. I don’t want to just be rid of the addiction, I want the triggers for it to not BE triggers anymore. I want to feel like I can still navigate the internet or draw with my friend and not have to avoid certain things in order to stay away from the addiction. So far, I really haven’t been avoiding the triggers. I let myself navigate sites like I normally would, and notice a trigger, but then I take breathes and do deep breathing exercises. I don’t know how long this will work all by itself but so far reminding myself to take deep breathes really helps and makes me refocus. Then I can remind myself to keep moving along and not let it derail me into something I’ll regret.