@siand I am glad to see this thread. I saw it last night and decided to get back in with my daily Sangha. A lot has changed with RD’s online presence since I threw my tizzy fit a few months back. What I shared this morning is I had a nice long “Suffercation” and I am over it. So, back to Day 2. It felt great to be missed, to be loved, to be feel balanced after a great mediation.
The shares today all hit home and it was a powerful meeting. I am so glad to be back. I am looking forward to the Women’s meeting tomorrow night. So, my daily is Non-dukka at 8am CST, Then a Sunday women’s book meeting, and the Tuesday night Women’s meeting. Back to cultivating my path @anon28001181
this is awesome, @siand. i struggle with RD meetings bc of the meditation but love the material and discussions that happen before/after the meditation. i dont struggle to meditate in general but theres something about the stuffiness of the rooms that doesnt calm my mind to meditate.
our neroulogical system is built to detect danger and the negative to survive. Only the nervous system does not know the difference between a tiger attacking or food that is poisonous and the input we get on a daily basis in modern life. cognitively we develop way way way slower than the world. so when not training the mind to calm the nervous system and thereby the body down, or by (as few of us did) poisoning the nervous system we are almost always ‘on the run’ and looking out for danger.
They are usually an hour for the formal meeting, but then they move to the “parking lot.” There is no requirement to speak or even introduce yourself. You can stay camera and mic off the entire time, if you wish. There is also no identifying yourself by your addiction, or clean time.
They invite people to share milestones IF THEY WISH. Introduce yourself IF YOU WISH. Share IF YOU WISH. We have a lot of people that stay on for months and never read, never say hi, never share. They just absorb the community.
Thanks a lot for all this information. I am really looking for something outside AA which are almost the only online source here in Germany. And I am more on the side of an open mind. So thanks a lot
there is a vipassana centre a few hours away from me. there is a shambhala centre in my neighborhood but its closed due to COVID. i love to meditate there.
My local one (Liverpool) meets Tuesday and Saturday evenings, plus a meditation class Sunday mornings. I go to the Sunday morning one. Can send you the details if you like.
From the online national/ international list, I was looking at the Daily Non-Dukkha ones at 1pm but not managed to get to one yet. Obviously depends on your work situation too!
Yes I think it’s easy to forget that chasing pleasure can be just as harmful as escaping pain. I was told that when you can stop being distorted by the extremes, the natural path is the middle path… Balance comes from awareness
Glad to see you back! I’ve only been to my local group online meetings, but would like to try and get to a DND one. Just need to get organised. Let me know if there’s a particularly good day or subject to look out for!
Tuesdays are speaker meetings. The rest are relatively standard. We get about 50-60 people per meeting, mostly U.S., but there are international participants every day, too.
I’m going to try the Daily Non-Dukkha one tomorrow. That might have been the one I was late for today? I also found a good list at www.buddhistrecovery.org
I’m on holiday this week so looking to try as much as I can. I’m sure i’ll find one I like and then I can just work around it.
Definitely. I’ve only been involved in the RD and AA programs, but it seems like the core values are the same. Acceptance, honesty, and community are common threads through both. Maybe each program has some different wording or it’s packaged a little differently, but the basics are the same. Must be something to it, huh?
I think that was the case for me. I’d spent the last couple days dealing with a situation that I didn’t necessarily want to deal with. Frustrated at a certain outcome. Frustrated because I’m doing well and don’t really want to face consequences from the past. A bit of the “It’s not fair” mentality.
I may not have totally slipped back into that mindset, but I was teetering. I always feel like if I show up, I’ll usually hear what I need to hear. There’s a reason 10 different people took 10 different things from one person’s share. We look for how it relates to our situation. It’s probably why all these programs preach community. If I’m stuck in my own feedback loop I’m going to keep repeating behaviors. I need a fresh voice and insight to break me out of that loop.
Did my first online meeting last night. My first ever recovery meeting in fact. It was good, I only spoke to introduce myself, little steps. I want meetings to make up part of this for me, but maybe just once a week or so. We’ll see. The reading last night Wise Intention. I’m going to reread today.
Meditation is going well, i’ve stuck to my plan without feeling any pressure, morning and night and then more throughout the day if I feel like it (which I have). Using many of the resources posted here. I’m gettin good results lying flat on the ground, for the longer meditations anyway. And it’s good for my back. And also by focusing less on being perfectly still and letting my self move and stretch as I meditate. A good stretch helps me refocus.
Ah cool, nice! I find being part of a group once a week is enough to keep me motivated so far. I am working through the inquiry with a mentor, we stay on the zoom call a bit after the meeting to chat through.
