Today I decided to actually do something about my drinking. I keep making excuses and saying I’m fine but I’m not. I lost both of my parents to alcohol and now here I am struggling. I keep looking at my wife and son ashamed at myself for staying up all night drinking. I’m ready for change and I am ready to admit I need help.
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Welcome to our awesome community! I can tell you, it’s not going to be easy but it will be worth it. What’s your plan for staying sober? I found myself spending a lot of time reading on here in the early days. Also, checking in daily was a great form of accountability. Here’s the link: Checking in daily to maintain focus #21
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Welcome to TS! Good for you for deciding it’s time for a change for yourself and your family. This is a great place for support.
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I don’t exactly have a plan at the moment. I’m just looking for support and advice. Hobbies that can replace drinking maybe.
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Welcome Brady. This is a great place to get support. I could never do it alone. And it sounds like you got a great couple of reasons, your wife and son, to give up the drink and enjoy the benefits of sobriety. They deserve a sober Dad/Husband and you’re worth a sober life. One day at a time man. It scared me to death at first. But just for today, I’m not drinking!
Stick around.
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Welcome to TS! We are glad you’re here. My son was my driving force in my sobriety as well. I had a slip before he was born but currently have 448 days sober. You CAN do this! As far as hobbies, I have started a podcast and write as well as collect vinyl. I wish you continued luck on your journey.
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Welcome. You’re making a really great decision for yourself and for your family. You can do this.
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Welcome Brady. I totally relate to where you are coming from. My wife and I relapsed together and are currently in sober living. Because of our relapse we temporarily lost custody of our 3 daughters. It has been very tough being separated from them. But I know it’s only temporary. Today we’re working on ourselves to get better for them. Take it one day at a time, talk to other people in recovery. It will be okay.
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Dive into the forums man. I couldnt just replace drinking with a hobby. I was way more addicted than I realized despite that I knew I was bad.
If you have any specific questions were here to help! It was the best thing I ever did in my life and I have a hunch it will be the best thing you ever do.
Youre on your way!
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One of my biggest reasons for being sober is knowing that likely I will be helping one, if not, both of my sons with addiction. My dad died at 46 from it, my grandad was known as 1/5 a day Taylor… I was shitty Smitty, but we don’t have to be shitty anymore. Welcome brother.
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That’s great 
what a wonderful decision! Your son and wife will see the benefits of this, just as much as you will.
Welcome!
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Hi Brady and a warm welcome!
My daughter said to me: “mom, I liked you more sober”. That was the last push I needed.
More then 2 years sober now.
Live is better sober! It’s not easy, but definitely worth it!
What has helped me? Be here every day! I’ve read a lot! So I’ve learned a lot about my addiction and how to beat it. I’ve made myself a sober plan and sticked to it (I still do).
This app is a great place, but it will only work if you use it properly. So give it all you can! 
It’s worth the work!
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Hey Brady thanks for your post. This will be my first post as well because I relate to what you said. I have two kids and a happy marriage out side of me drinking. I thought I could manage my drinking but each day would be worse than the next. I would promise myself I would stop but I kept drinking. Its hard to admit that I have a problem and It was hard to admit to my wife and slowly my addiction had more a hold on my life each day. Then on my worst day I admitted that I have a problem I was hiding my addiction thinking I could manage it and lied about it when I couldnt. Today Im one month 10 days sober. It was hard starting off but it gets better each day and now I feel amazing. I have tons of energy for my life and my family yes drinking still pops in my head and If I had one more drink I would relapse pretty hard and thats scares me. For me the best thing to do is to give up and ask for help from your family do your best keep moving and be as busy doing something for your self… something positive whatever it is maybe a hobby or excercise or spending time with your family in meaningful way.
Good luck with everything and thanks for sharing.
Huge first step.
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Welcome! This is a great first step. Asking for help is the hardest thing I did. We are all here to help!
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How you doing @Brady? Hopefully you’re feeling much better now that you’ve got a week under your belt.