Sober Selfies #2

[Muffin1226]

I got tacos!!!

[Meggers]

But, why at 230 am?

[NateRC]

12 hours of smoking. Eating at 230ish.

[Butterflymoonwoman]

Thanks so much!!

[TMAC]

Day 630.
New cactus day. After going to my garden center for “just a peek…”
Right. Like that’s ever been true!

[Dolse71]

not bad but I used to smoke joints 24/7

[mleclaire]

My one year is on wednesday. Lots of mixed emotions. I guess I wish I could tell people who only have a few months that it does get easier but I just thought I’d be farther along than I am. It’s frustrating and I’m hard on myself and the reality is no you will never be ok or comfortable in a room full of people who’s end goal is to get fucked up from alcohol. Society has it all backwards and becoming sober truly makes you see that. Sorry being a downer just stating how I feel.

[mleclaire]

Ok drooling

[Matt]

Looking good Chris Looks like you guys had fun!

[Matt]

I understand the feeling - I feel that way myself sometimes I think it’s ok for us to feel that way. If most people are spinning madly around, being the only one standing steady feels lonely. But I think there are a lot of people here on TS who would understand what you’re going through - you’re not alone.

Take care & enjoy your day!

[anon60334405]

this smile is actually starting to feel real

[Lionfish]

I was in the same place at my one year. I couldn’t believe how far from “ok” I felt. It was really weird like I never thought I would find balance. I felt everyone had a better understanding of Sobriety/life and I was still searching. It’s happening now though, it’s been a slow journey…I think your message applies to what you’re saying with where you’re at, it will get better.

[mleclaire]

What a relief! I have watched you through your journey the year I have been here on and I can say I relate a lot to what you say. It’s good to know these feelings are normal…I just am so over the drinking scene yet it’s what every one does. My boyfriend said to me yesterday “it’s not my fault you can’t drink” when I was conflicted about going to our friends house who just get obliterated. It’s an age difference thing too I’m sure it’s just frustrating at times. I appreciate your kind words and hope you’re doing well!

[Lionfish]

Oh definitely understand! It took letting go of the very last thing I was had used to control/put my addictive behavior into that really helped me feel I could break the chains that were holding me back. Not sure if I’m just repeating myself but I’m happy we can relate to each other

[Matt]

I don’t want to be intrusive but if it’s ok with you I would like to share that I have been very grateful in these relatively early days of my sobriety for the times my wife has taken time to come straight up to me and say, “I need you to know/see _____, and it is important to me that you support ____ by doing ____.”

It usually happens after the fact. But it’s funny, often I hadn’t seen or thought of the experience at all in the terms she had (and emotion often clouded it), and when she took time to have me stop whatever I was doing and say, “Listen - you need to listen here” - I have found it’s made me a better partner. It is taking time but more and more I am incorporating little changes of words and behaviour, to better honour her, and to honour our partnership, make us equals. Follow-through is important too. When there’s a stumble, a tension, sometimes it’s only seen by one person and it’s a great kindness to bring that confidently to the attention of the other.

I’ve been doing some of the same thing at times when I have thought her words or behaviour were creating unhelpful tension. I’ve found this back-and-forth between us has deepens and strengthened our relationship. Maybe it’s just the sobriety, maybe it’s more; I don’t know. Either way I think that reciprocity between us makes us healthier and more vibrant (and we discover new ways to be the people we are, new areas of feeling and enjoyment).

This is my experience, just one man - and as I said, I don’t want to be intrusive & maybe there isn’t any significant overlap with your experience. But if there is, for what it’s worth I think he may be deeply (if belatedly) grateful to you for your courage and conviction.

Wishing you peace and stability today

[Englishd]

Baby Man!

[Forged]

Feeling like a champion!!!

[Englishd]

She thinks I can’t see her if she closes her eyes

[Dolse71]

you don’t look like I imagined but you’ve got your whole life ahead of you and my only advice would be don’t run until you have learnt to walk.

[Dolse71]

you’ve got a new tooth. proud man!!!