Of course you can!! One day at a time is the way to do it in the beginning if not the whole time…try to work on the reasons for your drinking…the real root causes…actually write them down and start working on them…have u read allen carrs easy way to quit drinking? That changed my mindset on drinking forever…i listened to it instead of reading it, also i found the Stutz documentary on Netflix helpful too…im really glad you made a post because i really believe that a big part of recovery is asking for help and allowing yourself to be helped so please never feel silly for doing so its a big and very necessary step imo
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Welcome back @Jimmy99. You know, you don’t need luck really. Or that much willpower either. You need a Plan. @Tragicfarinelli already posted about that for you.
The absolute no.1 thing for me is to not go it alone. Going it alone is what made me a miserable addict in the first place. We need each other. To learn from each other, to remind each other of what and where we were, to NOT go it alone. We’re in this together and I’m glad you’re here.
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Thank you for being so sweet to me. I ain’t sure I deserve it! Haha. Either way, nope, not a clue Allen Carr’s book but I’ll start listening today too. (I assume it’s not the camp comedian Allen carr, as I don’t think I could take it seriously!). And I’ll look up the netflix show too. I think I saw the trailer when it came out and never got round to watching it.
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no not that Allen Carr but i think thatd be brilliant if it was…its a little repetitive but stay with it because so much of it will ring true for you i think…it literally changed my life. Of course im going to be sweet to you why wouldnt i…your a fellow addict worthy of a better life my friend…thinking we dont deserve kindness is part of the addiction mindset not the recovery one so less of it lol 
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Not a ramble at all James…I asked anyway didn’t I? These seem like really good resources and really good places to start. I know the Nigel Jones book, and I’ll look the others up definitely. There is a journal function on Sober Time isn’t there? I sort of half heartedly did it last time I sobered up, so I’ll be sure to make a more concerted effort this time around.
I’m based in the leafy hills outside of Manchester, England. I’m sure there’ll be meetings around here but I’m not convinced I’m ever likely to go to one if I am absolutely honest. Maybe I’ll change my mind in time.
Also, stopping going to the pub is a big one for me. I go 3/4 times a week and tell myself it’s purely for the social aspect. That element of talking about our days together, and unloading what’s been going on has undoubtedly been therapy for me over the past few years. Last time I sobered up I just stopped the booze aspect of it, but still went the pub, albeit less often. I think I’ll have to stop completely with that too for now. I had no issue telling everyone in there I’d stopped drinking.
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Hi from Scotland weather not bad here im a keen gardener grow everything from seed good for the old mental health , yea try to get to a meeting will make things easier wish you well
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Glad you are setting it out there and looking for new ways to make it stick. I will add my positive experience with quit lit to the others as well. Allen Carr’s book and Annie Grace’s, This Naked Mind were both really helpful for me. So were Caroline Knapp’s, Drinking A Love Story and Nancy Carr’s, Last Call. Reading was healing for me. As was gardening, nothing like losing yourself in digging in the dirt. 
Also as others have said, keeping the focus on the day at hand really helps me stay grounded and stay right here, right now. I know I can be sober right this minute, and that helps keep my mind from spinning out.
You might also look for some meetings, they help a lot of people immensely.
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Hey Jimmy that’s exactly me. I just can’t get a running start with my sobriety . Again I’m starting over but with a morning post- pledging to stay clean just for today . God bless, my friend. We are not alone in this battle.
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Spring is a beautiful time to start a new sober life, as everything else around is showing new buds and flowers. This type of change is wonderful.
I used the spring rebirth and plenty of outside support to get me going right and keep me on track in early sobriety.
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That’s really cool Ray! I’ve sewn a few things today, but the gardening today was mostly the unglamorous stuff that just NEEDS doing. Jetwashing patios, repainting raised bed etc etc. but yes I try to grown as much from seed and bulb as is possible. Where in Scotland are you? I’m driving up to Alloa and Dumfries tomorrow!
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My advice? Keep yourself busy and make a plan like @Tragicfarinelli already has mentioned.
I did so myself and still use it, you find mine her:2 years sober and what helped me to get there: Sober for more then 5 years now. I still come here a lot it keeps me accountable and focussed.
There is a very active daily check in tread, feel free to join! Checking in daily to maintain focus #64 If you have any questions feel free to ask!
And welcome here ofcourse!! 
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I’d wish you luck, but the truth is, it’s no matter of luck at all. The power to become sober and to thrive is in your possession already, all it takes is a willing heart and an open mind, and I know you got that. Let’s do this!
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Good Luck! I was sober for almost a year but fell into the same patterns. I am now starting over at 5 days. I also put myself into Intensive Outpatient Therapy and am starting AA meetings. One day at a time!
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How is your sobriety going this week?
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Im in South Lanarkshire in Netherburn its out in the sticks near Hamilton , was born in Rutherglen near Glasgow
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How are u getting on Jimmy? 
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Thanks so much for asking. I’m actually kinda glad that I’ve been too busy this week…driven around 2500+ miles for my job this week so barely stopped whatsoever. But I’m keeping on! X
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Beautiful!!! I am VERY jealous. What a gorgeous part of the planet x
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Thanks very very much for asking. It’s going okay so far. Lots of temptations, but luckily I’ve had so much work on this week I’ve barely stopped!!
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Jimmy that’s great stay busy!! I found having some chocolate candy on me like M&Ms or a Snickers/Milky Wat bar helped me deal with urges. The sugar sweet in the candy fooled my brain and toned down the urge.
I was also told to be aware of H A L T - hungry angry lonely tired, and to correct any deficiencies I could identify. Keeping with sober and non using people was another big positive.
Keep on truckin !!
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