I don’t mean to be unkind in what I am saying here, but I will be direct, to get it straight out in the open: it already reflects on them.
What they are learning is that hiding in shame is more important than asking for help. This will teach them to live in shame themselves, and will make it harder for them to ask for help when they need it. The shame cycle will continue to the next generation.
What’s the worst that will happen? You’ll have to get healthy and safe. Not so bad. In fact that’s something to be proud of, not ashamed.
However if you don’t seek help you know exactly what will happen, because it’s already happening.
It’s a pretty simple choice for you: stay with the shame and the sickness of alcoholism, or get healthy and feel good about yourself.
Attend a meeting. There are online options if necessary:
Online meeting resources
There are a range of meeting types; you can try various styles:
Resources for our recovery
Attend as many meetings per day as you need. Some people do 3,4, even 5 a day.
The meetings teach you to live with yourself, sober. You’ve been running to the numbness of booze for so long, and burying yourself under it. Your relationship with yourself is suffocating. The meetings will fix that.
Take care Beccy and remember: you’re a good person who deserves a safe, sober life where you can be your full self. Search for sobriety the same way a person searches for water in the desert: you need it. It’s your top priority. And you doing what you need to do to get sober is a good thing, and it’s something to take pride in. You’re doing the right thing.