I’m currently in a rehab facility so I didn’t have a choice
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Welcome @gate glad you found us. you may not have alot of choices about the rules but you have choices. Try to learn as much as you can about your addiction and your thinking as you can
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Excuse me but what’s TS?
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To stay sober I just wrote to my diary. I often way more write to my diary than talk to people… 
That’s when you’re introverted ass heh.
Also maybe brownies from milka made me feel I don’t want to relapse. They were so yummy, I need to buy them again!
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TS is short name for this site Talking Sober 
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Standing my ground and even that I don’t have clear positive feelings about a decision made I feel relieved that there is a decision. This wouldn’t have happened like this 4.5 years ago. Never ever.
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This is great to hear Franzi 
Might not be exactly like your situation, but I know during the height of my drinking I wouldn’t challenge anybody on anything. I just wanted an easy life, no confrontation.
I’ve a complicated history with my sister, she’s about a year and a half younger, but she’s a bully and a money hungry person. Over the years, I allowed her to dictate situations, she had the upper hand in our relationship always. She saw herself as better than me. When my father died, she tried to do some despicable things. I wasn’t letting her away with what she wanted to do, and stood up to her. I have no relationship at all with her now. My brain tells me to forgive her for what she has done, but you can’t forgive anyone that doesn’t want it, or believe they were ever in the wrong.
I noticed the less our DoC is in our lives, the more ‘me’ we get back, if that makes sense. You start to be able to handle people and their BS.
You should be proud of yourself for standing your ground Franzi 
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Two things that came up in my mind 
they just arise. It’s so important to set boundaries for us. And it helps others to respect them and to respect us as human being. That’s so hard to do and to live with the unpleasant feelings that might come up afterwards.
The second thought was about forgiving. I attended a workshop about it. It was so interesting. And there is so much to learn for me there. It’s not for them, forgiving but for us. To let go. It won’t undo the things that happened not will it say: it’s fine how you treated me back then. And it’s a huge step to say: at the moment I cannot not forgive you. To allow you and acknowledge that atm you cannot forgive. Thank you for reminding me of this workshop
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Before: our custom painted front door from the original build 15+ yrs ago
After: new front door and screen door installed. I also custom painted this new front door too, it was stock white when it was installed.
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No problem, I’m glad you’re getting some use and connecting some dots from your workshop 
It’s interesting. I haven’t been to a workshop about it, but it was actually life experiences and actually connecting with Himself upstairs (don’t worry I won’t preach 
) that made me learn about forgiveness.
It’s important to me that anyone I may have wronged can find it in themselves to forgive me. But it isn’t always a two way street. In order for a person to accept forgiveness, they have to feel like they have wronged you in some way. It’s not really the way the world works, a lot of people will always believe they are in the right, and will never see how freeing it is to accept that we have wronged another person.
My ex husband is one of these people. My drinking career started with him, as it happens. He is a mentally and physically abusive alcoholic, that put me through hell with my eldest two sons. I know that if I met him or wrote to him saying I forgive him for what he did to me and our children, he would spit venom (and probably attack me). He’d love nothing more for me than to die a painful death, because I dared to leave him and the abusive situation. How I’ve balanced this in my head is that I do forgive him, but I can’t make him accept it. I can’t live in a state of constant hate or bitterness. You have to let go of hurt and pain, or you will never know a days peace. For that reason, I pity him.
You’re absolutely right about setting your boundaries. That goes for any relationship, whether it’s family, friends or a life partner. Setting boundaries for yourself coincides with self love and self respect. if you have these things in check, you’re far less likely to fall foul to people looking to take advantage of your good nature
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Cannot like it more than once 
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Nice work all around…looks great.
I love the color!
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Took a nap with the doggies. They’re good sleep buddies.
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Went to therapy. Cried. Napped. Ate cookies.
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That sounds like some great self-care 
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Came on here to try and be connected
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Daily gratitude, mindfulness, reflection, a dharma recovery meeting, checking in here with my favorite group of misfits 
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This is what I did to stay sober too! 
Hope you are resting now after such an exhausting day 
I spent my long weekend paying with my youngest daughter. Now i am looking forward to a days work tomorrow as i have yet to find full-time employment. Sooooo…I get to help a friend out and make some cash…a great sober day that ends with a feeling of accomplishment and sense of being.
I will only sleep 4 hours now tho, too much excitment to get the job started 
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Played a game. Checked in here. Watched a couple movies. Ate some miso soup with kimchi and vermicelli rice noodles. 3 east Asian countries in one bowl sounded like a good idea and it was.
Plan on being productive today.
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