Agreed and I am not arguing against that at all. I am talking about the opportunities for discussion that are lost, conversations that are lost and most importantly members who are lost when met with derision, an unhelpful approach, lack of empathy, etc. and they chose to delete and leave the forum forever.
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I guess you right, AyBall 
I did not think of the safety aspect of it. I wonder if there is some offsite cloud storage option accessible only by Robin and whomever he chooses. I just read the post I wrote in this thread, and Iām likeā¦ I wrote that? I guess this is the only place I feel free to just be me. Not trying to go off topic, but that you for mentioning this part of it. I never would have thought of that 
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Still a great thread.
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Yep, I have been a bit reluctant to post on this site lately as itās been a tad mean spirited and thatās not what anyone wants. We should always THINK FIRST. Thanks @SassyRocks for a reminder again.
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Always a good reminder. This place needs to be a safe place.
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It is very sad that several people get reluctant!
But understandable. 
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Sadly I do understand you, I had a very long read today on many threads 
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If you see something you feel isnāt good on a thread please feel free to pm us @moderators . We donāt see everything but it is our goal to try and make this space inviting and safe for everyone.
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@SassyRocks
So, If we see something we think is rude or mean, even though it might not be, but we thought it was, can we just flag it and let you guys deal with it?
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Please only flag when you think something deserves a flag. When you think it brakes the rules that is. For other worries, messages or complaints itās preferable to send a PM to @moderators
A flag is always visible on a memberās profile, also when itās rejected by the mods.
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I implemented this quote into my mind, years ago. I love it and I wish that more people would use and live that.
For now all I can do is to be the change I want to see in society 
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Thank you.
Never thought of that.
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Waitā¦ are flags visible on the public profiles?
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As Menno said, please flag posts you believe break the rules. I think Rule #1 is the one you may be thinking ofā¦
If you are unsure, you can PM us to bring your concerns to our attention.
Part of all of our social contract with Talking Sober is we are all responsible for helping to make this place safe, welcoming and supportive.
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I can as a mod but I donāt believe others can. It has also to do with trust points earned and lost and I think flags are bad for your trust points even when they are rejected. But donāt pin me down on that as Iām no specialist in this matter. I have to go and update my knowledge, itās rather complicated. Flagging only when you believe a rule is broken is sound advice anyway.
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Yes I guess so.
So if we think someone isnāt being civil.
Donāt flag it.
PM @moderators and one of you guys will take care of making the call.
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Flag it if you think it breaks a rule. If you really arenāt sure, PM us.
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May I step into the discussion as a frequent voice who calls @moderators in PM.
I am very careful to flag, I do flag rarely.
What I do is PM @moderators when I feel uncomfortable, see a post or thread that need attention (for whatever reason I explain) and also for moving āspot threadsā into an ongoing topic.
I personally keep this PM thread/post under the topic āplease have a lookā so it is a continuing PM thread where I can reach out for help, report about things I think use a look from moderators or simply ask for information and help.
I really want to give a shoutout @moderators for their engagement and input as I have learned a lot over time from this conversations.
Please do not hesitate to PM @moderators on your concerns, questions, hints and ask them for input, opinion and help!! 
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Im gonna open my heart a little hereā¦feel free to delete mods if requiredā¦this thread has bugged me since i saw itā¦because it made me feel guilty asthough id done or said something wrong so its made me re evaluate how i talk to people on here and what ive actually said to them, after alot of soul searching i feel like 14 months into my sobriety that maybe at times ive partly forgotten just how hard things are in the very early days of sobriety, that i wasnt logical in my thinking yet and that what i needed at the time was simple compassion from another human being because it was that that carried me through until i became more logical, i need to remember this and i will, i apologise to anyone who i might not have given that to.
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