I have yet to figure out the ‘look under the tab for my long winded reply’ like Chiron has. I am hopeful they will clue me in.
Chiron made many good points. One point that really stuck was the effect our words have. The very real consequences of them. Our words are to real people, struggling people, people in pain. Our words have impact.
Unless someone is breaking rules, it is not for me to judge who deserves to be here or not. We all deserve the opportunity to work on our selves, healing and sobriety. That is why the forum exists. To support others and our selves in sobriety. To create and sustain a sober community.
No matter who you are, what you have done, where you are at in life or sobriety, you deserve a seat at the table at TS. That is what I believe. Obviously not everyone agrees. Also okay.
This isn’t just about the last person who left or the one before them or the one before that. This is about how we are as a community. Are we welcoming to struggling newcomers? Even those we may find off, strange, annoying, creepy, sanctimonious, condescending, etc. Are we compassionate with eachother? Even those we disagree with? Can we support people where they are at?
We don’t all have to agree, have the same approach or be friends. But we do need to follow the guidelines of civility, respect, not dogpiling, name calling, etc.
We are all deserving of being in community and finding support here. You don’t have to offer support to people you don’t want to. That is your choice. But you don’t need to cause harm with your words either.
If someone breaks rules, flag it or bring it to the moderators attention and we will deal with it. If you believe someone needs an eye on them, bring it to our attention.
I hope this community will continue to grow and offer support and healing and a safe place for people in need.
Civility, kindness, compassion…we need more of this. Not less.
Lisa’s original post was…
THINK before posting and ask yourself is my response going to be received as:
Thoughtful
Helpful
Inspirational
Necessary
Kind
A few newcomers have been chased away by negative interactions. Everyone is welcome here and deserves respect and positivity, even those that are restless, irritable and discontent in early recovery. We were all new at one point and it’s easy to forget where we came from. Remember, not every post requires a response and if it’s against the guidelines, flag rather than condemn. If you disagree and feel the need to respond, please do so in a positive manner.