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Hello - sorry about the title of this thread. I had a manipulating ex who would cheat on me. Made me drink a lot dealing with that. We drank a lot together too which didn’t help. It took me awhile but i finally got my confidence back thanks to some friends, left him & bought my own house & my friends gave me the best puppy to be my big black body guard (black lab). He’s been the best thing- he’s 14 now & it’s hard watching him get old, but he still loves his fetch & walks-they aren’t very fast or long, but he still wants to 
But he was the best thing for me to grow myself at that time.
I hope you’re situation is going better - but seeing you are on day one again makes it uncertain. Glad to hear you are doing day one again. That number will grow! Keep checking in and staying strong! Keep asking for help. I’m doing that this time as opposed to my times before. It is seeming easier this time talking and sharing, making me think about my “why”.
You got this 
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Also, if you type in “AA speakers” or “sobriety” in youtube there’s lots to listen to. I’m really glad you’re back, stick around, bud.
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I just wanted to be’ a normal drinker and mostly i Am and then i Am not and its a mess. So time to put my big boy pants on and man up 
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Ah, dude. I am so sincerely sorry. Your situation is much, much, worse than mine, but my fiancé recently opened up to me about cheating and told me it’s over. Left me with our place; I don’t have money to pay for it and the idea of suddenly moving is just both insane and sounds extremely difficult. (As well as expensive)
My Great-Oma always told me that, no matter what you’re going through, good or bad, ‘This too shall pass’
Hang in there. We’ll both get through our issues and, of course, message me if you’d like.
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Yeah - i hear you! for the last 10-20 year i try over and over again to be a " normal " drinker. But always eventually ends up being a Binger-too many days of the week. It’s taking me a long time to learn I’m not normal & when I start i can’t stop 
i hate it about myself
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Thanks for the kind words
I feel such an arse. But day one
Well… two years later
The settlement is done
Our marital home has now sold
And I’ve put down a deposit on a new build
I’ve just been promoted
Yet I’ve been drinking chaotically so last night i nearly wrecked my new relationship
Time to refocus snd put the shit vehind me
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I have moved permanently to Cornwall. It’s hard as my children live so far away. But i couldn’t live wirhin 200 miles of my ex. I hqve felt so guilty and bad for moving on that its crippled my confidence
But no more
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I’m sorry man.
Its ok. It just took its toll on me then and now much more than i anticipated.
Today tho will be a good day
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Really sorry to hear that. Sometimes things become too bad to recover though. Hope you can make peace and still see your kids.
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We don’t speak, its all been through her solicitor
I’m hopeful long term 
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June 2023… and I’m back on this app trying again
I just cracked June 2020 and been socially and then chaotically drinking since
Whats worse this time is when i get drunk i can be happy or then really paranoid and go to some dark places in my mind and i think its the trauma of tje divorce
I’m in a good place work wise, living wise and with a fabulous partner who now sees i can’t be a reliable social drinker so she also ‘,gets’ why i have to stop
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Welcome back, brother. Starting over on sobriety can be hard, remember there is so much help available!
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Thank you
What i have learnt is 1) stay humble and focussed 2) drinking again was actually worse as it was on top of more trauma to trigger me off 3) and continue to connect with people who aren’t drinking
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Those are the people who showed me how to be sober and happy at the same time.
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Hey, I remember you. If each time you drink is a gamble, don’t roll the dice. What are you doing to help you quit? Just willpower didn’t work for me.
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Hi. I have therapy booked with an online counselling service as well as a risk plan in place
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