Hey dude, what a story. That’s bad. I read the entire post man. You had me hooked like a movie. I empathized with you the entire way my bro.
I am practically losing my misses n kids to an old mate right now. And I’ve been drinking a lot too. Like shit faced hungover every day, but still end up drinking after work till I pass out.
I met a new chick, she saw me drunk twice and said nah, you can’t drink with me or at my house.
Now it’s back on me…
I am drinking because I dont really want to lose the kids altogether, but I don’t ever see it working if she chooses him over me, and if she knew about this new chicky that’s exactly what would happen anyway.
I hate my life atm and am so confused. Currently on day 3 no alcohol and like 5 weeks no meth. I haven’t been able to stop weed.
Hey there…so glad to see you back I’m happy that you are moving on and rebuilding life. Even more importantly, I’m glad you’re back on this app and we can work towards another sober day together:blue_heart:
Honestly, I don’t think you should see anyone right now. You need to work on yourself and your sobriety. Get strong. Your kids need you to have your shit together, so get sober for you, and them.
I don’t know if your ex is actually in a relationship with your old friend or not, but maybe something can be salvaged in time. She probably needs to see you’re getting clean and are committed to it.
You’re doing well on alcohol and meth though, well done to you. Keep it up
Not to sound harsh but you need a solid game plan else you’ll be checking in next year with even worse drinking situation. You have come to the end, the booze and drugs stop working after years of it and you just keep going to avoid getting sick.
Sounds like you’re not over your ex and you might have the new partner to fill the void? Who knows, not a therapist, but i do know you should try getting into the rooms and working some steps to work on yourself like a lot of us had to do, including myself.
This is the insanity that is alcoholism. I know things are really rough for you, but please reread the above and make adjustments. You are absolutely powerless after the first drink. Nothing changes if nothing changes.
@RobZombie Mick, your addiction will never improve your life. It will only push people away. Getting into new relationships is widely believed to be a bad decision early on in recovery (it’s like a scapegoat for dealing with your problems, along with other issues). A solid program might be the best thing for you.
I relocated completely from the midlands to Cornwall. Changed jobs, got promoted, bought an apartment, met a new woman, drank too much, came back on here and now i am feeling completely on track again !
Alcoholism or whatever u call it is progressive, thats the bit i didn’t realise. My three year sobriety was irrelevant .when i started drinking again it quickly caught up, and got worse
@Timetochange … I’ve been a member since Nov. '20. I remember you. How old are your children? Unfortunately, since the ex is spending more time with them it is her side they are hearing. I’m sorry for that and do hope that improves. I’m glad you’re back.
26 , 23 and 18. All live up north. There was a stage where i had tried to buy a house up north but my ex (which they didn’t see) just couldn’t behave and was bombarding me with messages constantly and then it started to impact on my work
A little.bit of serendipity kicked in and Cornwall became home
I’m happy that you are moving on and rebuilding life. Even more importantly, I’m glad you’re back on this app and we can work towards another sober day together:blue_heart: