Action for Happiness has a calendar with something to do each day to work on happiness. May is all about meaning and being part of something bigger.
“People who have meaning and purpose in their lives are happier, feel more in control and get more out of what they do… But where do we find ‘meaning and purpose’? It might be our religious faith, being a parent or doing a job that makes a difference. The answers vary for each of us but they all involve being connected to something bigger than ourselves.”
I’ve done a couple of the A4H calendars and have found them good, and logging them on here has helped me stick to them. Join me every day or dip in whenever!
I’d like to try this…but the trick is…what is meaningful?? How can I know that what I did was meaningful to that person? I suppose I could flat out ask “what can I do for you today”, but I’d like to try and do something that they don’t expect too.
I think that counts as meaningful. Just because we should listen doesn’t mean we always do and I notice a difference when I really consciously listen to someone.
@VSue personally I would say if you’re thinking about what would be meaningful to the person you have in mind, that’s the main thing (?). So what I ended up doing, we had a long day today and my bf usually cooks dinner. On the way home I asked if he’d like to get a curry as it’s his favourite and it gives him a break. He didn’t thank me or anything but I know it is something that helps him out and he enjoys it, so I’m taking that to be meaningful!
I was thinking about doing the kitchen clean up tonight…no complaints. Usually I do it but that is because I had expected him to do it and he didn’t so I start doing it with a little extra “noise”. LOL Maybe tonight I’ll just do it without any discussion.
In some ways I don’t know if it would be “meaningful” to him. It would to me!! But then I’m thinking the just doing it without discussion and without bickering might be the part that is meaningful. So yep. Gonna do that. LOL
Had a lovely chat with a colleague at lunch today. She is so kind and always says really nice things to me. She gave me this plant as a gift on my last day as a trustee to remind me that although it was hard I have lots to be proud of. It also reminds me that I’m lucky to have her to support me.
I didn’t end up seeing anyone else, apart from my bf. But had a good chat with my Nan and found out a bit more about her. I really admire her, she’s 88 and her husband died 12 years ago. She’s super independent and still in pretty good shape. I’m so grateful that she’s around and that I’m able to spend time with her.
Get outside. Look at the sky and feel connected to the natural world.
Got a busy day today with a belly dance event I’m organising this afternoon/evening so it will be good to do this and have a bit of time to just be. Bit of sunshine forecast this morning too, not particularly warm but will find a spot to sit and do some looking up!
Yep I will be performing on my own and with a troupe. As it’s May 4th I have choreographed a dance for our troupe to a song from star wars The event is called a hafla, there will be belly dancers from across the area and we will all perform. It’s in a community centre so people bring their own food and drinks. We do it as a charity thing so after the cost of the hall ticket price goes to the fundraising pot, plus a raffle, cake sale etc. Should be good!
Thought I would get out now while the sun is shining as I don’t expect it will last long here either. Not a cloud in the sky
How did the Hafla go @siand and I’m intrigue at the performance to a Star Wars song . I took some time to notice the world around me with my dogs yesterday and truly experienced some connection with the natural world. This often elides us I think when we are wracked with guilt and self loathing while in the grips of our addiction. It divorces you from yourself and the world around you doesn’t it. It’s good to take time to appreciate this change, thank you.
Choose one of your life goals and take a step towards it.
Hmmm I don’t have life goals I find this kind of thing quite difficult and it can put me in a weird place when I focus on it, I have no idea what I want to do with my life. So I will think on this some more, there are some resources on the A4H website which I will look into at some point
Got a few family things planned today so at least that is meaningful, in the absence of having any firm goals in place!