Hi all, I’m new here. I’ve been wanting to gain a healthier relationship with alcohol for a while now, and I guess today’s hangover led me to this app.
I am 28 and started drinking when I was about 15. I’ve drank alcohol every day for the past ten years, with an occasional “Dry January” or a week here and a day or two there. The problem is that it’s not just one or two, it’s significantly more than that.
I’ve told myself I drink because I want to and because it’s fun for me, and not that I actually need it. However, once I get home from work that “habit” kicks in and that bottle of wine starts looking real appetizing.
I think it’s been easy for me to avoid confronting because I go to my 8-5 job, I carry myself well, I eat well and I workout, so I am able to hide behind the front I put up. However, I’m hungover almost every day, I’m gaining weight, I’m tired all the time, and just feel terrible.
I’ve reached my point of being OVER IT, but have had a hard time staying true to my sobriety…. Which leads me here.
Can anyone relate? Have you found that using this app has helped you?
Just started using the app so I hope so. I know I need a community if I want this long turn but hope to start hitting the meetings and finding more in person sober activities. I know I feel a billion times better when I stick to it.
If you are drinking everyday you will likely need more than an app. Id consider counselling and rehab, maybe a move? What do you think you need to make this stick?
Welcome Savannah!
Glad ur here with us To be completely honest, i wouldnt be where i am today without this app. I was a chronic relapser for years and it was only until i joined this app that i was able to get some substantial sobriety. I have been clean and sober for over 3 years bcuz of this app and my HP (higher power). The support here is amazing and i can access it anytime of day/night. There is always someone on. Hope u find this app as helpful as it has been for me
Willpower… lots and lots of willpower. One problem I run into is that I will go a week without drinking and feel like I did really well then reward myself with drink at dinner, then the next day I’ll have two or three, then it spirals again. I need to be able to just tell myself no…
I just got married and April and my husband and I just moved as well. Being the wife to such an amazing man definitely pushes me to want to want to stop drinking. He doesn’t struggle with it the way I do.
I can totally relate to your story, mine is very similar. I downloaded this app in early 2018 and while I put together some strings of sobriety, it wasn’t until later 2018 that I decided enough was enough and started doing the things those with longer sobriety was telling me to do. Been sober ever since, six years, nine months and two days.
Sounds familiar! Welcome to TS . This place has been a HUGE part of my recovery. Sobriety podcasts, books, and this place have led to 5.5 years of sobriety. For a little extra motivation just remember that 1 night of drinking throws away an entire week of gym progress. Best wishes to you.
I got sober in 2004 with the help of AA. Willpower has very little to do with getting sober!
You need a recovery program an a group of sober people to talk to.
The only person that understands an alcoholic is another alcoholic, everyone else has no idea what it’s like.
We need empathy not sympathy.
I found meetings a must, but that’s up to you.
This app has been a god send and it’s kept me going when I’ve not been able to make F2F meetings.
There’s meetings on line check out the links below;
The bottom line is you can’t do this by yourself you need help.
You’ll find help in abundance here, we’re all fighting our own demons and helping others to fight theirs.
Stay strong stay sober and remember that we all arrived in different ships, but we’re all in the same boat now &
I got the same problem but with coke. Joined this app last week, on Day 5 right now. Last night I posted “Talk me down” and someone recommended going to bed early and that worked. I use because of a stressful life. I am right about to post another talk me down post if I can’t cool off right now.
That’s really amazing that you were able to reach out on a platform where someone could help because they understand the struggle. I have been on the app for a few hours and am already seeing that there is great support here. 5 days is a great starting run!! Wishing you the best of luck on your sobriety journey!
I had my job, would workout, eat semi-well… but the drinking every day and partying on the weekends caught up to me. And it caught up to me fast. I felt like literal garbage, gained weight, and was tired all the time. Like you, I also got to the point where I was over it because I was just tired of feeling exhausted. I also had an aging father that I was helping to take care of so I had to make changes for him.
The kindness from everyone on this app helped get me through and just the various topics on here to distract your mind. I also did a lot of the daily journal prompts. It helped me settle in and write out my feelings.
Find a positive hobby as well that takes a little investing of your time. The more you keep busy with something you enjoy, the easier it is to distract yourself.
I started my dry january with this app years ago and have flourished into my best self with quiting drugs and alcohol, going to aa, getting a sponsor, and engaging with this fabulous sober community. Theres alot of love and experience in these threads. Read around lots.
What kickstarted my journey was the 30 day experiment by annie grace
Welcome Savannah. There are lots and lots of “functional” alcoholics everywhere. They can make it decades of time thinking that someday they will mature, and the drinking will fade away. I was one of them. Sure, I could stop, but it was like waiting at the train station. My life wasn’t that much better, in fact it felt kinda worse. I needed a whole rewiring of my thoughts and perspectives. Not about alcohol, but about my place in the world. That for sure requires us to look for the answers outside of ourselves. My first recommendation is to commit to checking in here on the daily, it will keep your spark for getting your life on a smooth track alive. You can/will do this when you decide it is the absolute best thing that has happened to many other people.
I’d rather go through life sober believing I’m an alcoholic, than go through life drunk trying to convince myself that I’m not – Anonymous
Welcome and yes this app has been very helpful. You are not alone and it sounds like you are ready to change your life. I can relate I started drinking around 13 years old and will be sober for two years in August. Take my advice and do not want to change your life. I am in my early 50’s and truly the only person I fooled was myself. I have been a drinker most of my life, bing drinker in high school and college, social drinker in my late 20’s and 30’s.But In my late 40’s around covid I become a daily drinker. I woke up every morning , drank through out the day and every night before bed. I drank on good days and bad days, until I became very ill. All those years of drinking caught up with me and I learned my liver was in bad shape. If I drink there is no turning back, I will die. Admitting I am a drunk and that I have no power over myself was the first step. Time has passed and I am still working on my issues and will continue the work on them daily. I joined AA and it has changed my life. This journey is not an easy one but I promise you being sober is so worth it.
I was so bored of myself by the end; the listless numb hamster wheel of repeating the same mistakes. I promise you there’s a better life sober, whatever it looks like. Recommit to yourself every day. It also gets easier, honestly. Use every single resource and support you can.
Will power didnt help me i went to AA in 1986 got sober ,came here i was 30 years sober next year il be 40 years sober , maybe come here and meetings might help wish you well
This app has helped me a ton over the years. It made all the difference for me to have that connection with others who also were over it and struggling to get sober.
You are wise to make this positive change!! What a gift to yourself.
Along with This Naked Mind by Annie Grace that was mentioned (and was VERY mind opening for me), I also recommend reading Quit Like A Woman by Holly Whitaker and We Are The Luckiest by Laura McKowen…maybe not all of it applies, but all of them have really helpful morsels in them.
Do lean on the folks here on this app. Lots of experience and sobriety and people in the same situation. Together we can help eachother when needed. The light is always on.
Joined this app in 2018 when I had about 100 days sober. With this app, a huge dose of AA, therapy, sober living and other actions I am still sober today
To be completely honest, i wouldnt be where i am today without this app. I was a chronic relapser for years and it was only until i joined this app that i was able to get some substantial sobriety. I have been clean and sober for over 3 years bcuz of this app and my HP (higher power). The support here is amazing and i can access it anytime of day/night. There is always someone on. Hope u find this app as helpful as it has been for me 
. This place has been a HUGE part of my recovery. Sobriety podcasts, books, and this place have led to 5.5 years of sobriety. For a little extra motivation just remember that 1 night of drinking throws away an entire week of gym progress. Best wishes to you.
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