your doing great mate, keep your guard up bc around 30 days is a very normal place to get complacent, so many of us relapse bc we fall for the same old trick of 'I’ve gone 30 days I’m cured and can have a drink bc I now know I can quit whenever I want ". So yeah you can have a drink whenever you want but I can assure you in another 30 days you’ll be asking yourself how did it all go wrong. Congratulations BTW 
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- Feeling pretty good this morning. My friend wrote me back, something constructive and positive. Still a very long way to go in re-forging our closeness and intimacy but it sure is a start. I’m happy with that. Thanks for all the encouragement friends.
Having a quiet day at home today, a busy one though. Two big bike races on TV at the same time. I also started reading the handbook of schema therapy, the therapy I will start doing in a month time. First ten pages already gave me some nice insights, just 440 to go. And a friend is coming over for dinner.
In unrelated news, the little theatre and restaurant at my square are facing bankruptcy. I did sign an online petition for (city) financial support for the theatre but now found out the manager is a supporter of our local anti-vaxxers and conspiracy thinkers and meetings of them are being held in the theatre. Hmmm. Have a good Sunday all. Sober and clean. Love from my little square in autumn.
@apes2020 Congrats on a full half year, that’s awesome!
@Lisa07 & @Misokatsu People without addiction problems really don’t get it. We have to forge our own ways and lives and it is not easy. It’s hard even. Being here and talking about it helps.
@Seb You made it though the weekend and here you are at 30 days. Excellent work! Congrats! Keep going.
@MrsOdh Breath Sophia. You have lots of purpose. It’s showing. The only purposeless thing I see In your writing and your life is your thirst for alcohol. I know you know it too. Don’t give in friend. Hang in there. Big hugs.
@M-be-free49 I hope your Sunday is just as relaxed!
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Day 35. I spent the morning with friends, will go over to their place in the afternoon, distracting myself at full power.
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Good afternoon just a check in and to share some holidays photos day 87 clean and just shy of 4 weeks smoke free, also wanted to shout out to @Natnat I miss you here’s some pic love and respect this community so very much.
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Checking in at 60 days sober! Wow, that went by fast. My longest streak of sobriety was 80 days, so I still feel like I haven’t made any progress until I surpassed that. I know that’s not a positive mindset, but I can’t seem to get out of it. Hm.
Travling to my parents for my mothers 60th birthday tomorrow. I still haven’t talked to them about my drinking. They think I always cut back because of health or vanity reasons and keep telling me I’m being boring.
Let’s see if I will feel comfortable enough to share some. My goal is to have a good and peaceful time celebrating with them 
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Congrats @Penguin! I feel exactly the same about waiting until u beat ur pb. I know I relapsed between 4 and 5 months at my longest, so think I don’t deserve to celebrate until then. Parents can be hard to talk to because u don’t want to disappoint them. Hope u can talk to them.
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thanks Chris it’s really so hard but I’m cherishing the memories I have with them both. 
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Good for you that you’re keeping to it.
I don’t really know what it’s like to have friends, but I can imagine that they must (deliberately or not, probably) exert a degree of “peer pressure”, especially if being “drinking buddies” was something that had long been part of your history with those blokes.
Still, the idea of walking the dogs as a kind of “neutral ground” sounds like a good idea.
Remember that you aren’t being sober for them, you’re doing it for YOU.
If they can’t handle it… well, too bad for them.
That’s kind of cool, Tommo. It’s all positive forward movement in your life; I’d be very happy for you! (well, I am, 
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Happy sinday! All is good here. Got a meeting in an hour then lots of work stuff to get done.
I read something today and wanted y o pass it on. “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass…its about learning to dance with rain”.
Have a great day!
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That’s really good, Marc!
I’ve found that there’s an element of jealousy to it. Like you’re moving on, with ‘strangers’ and disrupting their norm.
Change is hard for some folks.
I have to have frequent conversations with my husband about this.
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I’ve been feeling happy lately. I’ve actually been pretty social, like going outside my apartment and everything 
Last night my sister and her husband invited my parents and me to see their new house. Usually it’s unpleasant being around my sister and dad, I won’t get into that story now. However, I ended up having a ridiculously good time. I texted my sister on the way home (voice text through my car, I’m a hood girl) to thank her and let her know what a great time I had. She texted back that they were just talking about how much fun it was and that she loves me. What??? Felt great.
Everyone was drinking, and of course my sweet momma asked if it bothered me. I told her absolutely not. I honestly don’t even notice it anymore.
Have a wonderful sober Sunday everyone!
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Your wife sounds like me Eric, well, before my AF journey. I did that all the time. Is she ok?
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Today, October 18, has always been a tough day for me and my family. My brother went missing in 1981 on this day; he was 14, nearly 15, and hitchhiking to a friends house and he was never seen again. When he was younger and we were all living together I was more like a mother to him; our parents were in very active alcoholism and my sister was mostly out of the house. I’d let him drive my car in the parking lot of the mall when it was closed, and took him to see Saturday Night Fever… when the scene came on with the back seat action I was horrified sitting beside him and covered his eyes, lol…
I was living in Key Largo, FL at the time and my mom had called me to tell me he never came home; she thought he might’ve come down to see me since that’s what he said he wanted to do. A few nights later I had a dream; it was really more than just a dream though. He came to me in the dream and he was standing under a white light with a white shirt on…he looked sad. I was (in my dream) excited to see him and I said, I knew you were all right! I hugged him, and he said; I’m ok Donna; don’t be sad.
My sister just called me; we always have a talk on this day, remembering Jimmy.
Thanks for listening; send love to my beautiful brother… 
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You’re right Cate! Now that you mention jealousy, I can totally see it. They never say anything when they have something to do themselves. You hit the nail on the head. Thank you big sis!!
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@Lisa07 Gosh, sounds tricky but you’re absolutely right! Your time, your call! And congratulations for your days!
@Milele Wow girl! Your days are stacking up! I’m glad you’re on this journey and becoming all the more determined. We can do this!
@Dazercat It makes me sad that you’re lonely. I can’t even imagine. I’m so glad tho that you’ve turned you’re life around so completely. I hope it’ll eventually light a spark in your Wifey too to long for the change. Congratulations on your days!!!
@Mno How wonderful things are moving forward with your friend. Such a pretty picture of autumn colours. We’re having our first snowfall.
@Girlinterrupted Oh Beth, I was really touched to read about your time with your dad and sis So beautiful!
@anon79808082 I’m sorry about your brother. Sending you hugs.
Final day of our weekend trip in the countryside. Writing this post I’m already home.
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Day 22. Got up early to do laundry and read for a while. Feeling pretty down this morning. I think the stress of the past week is catching up with me, as it always does. This has always been my problem: in the moment, I’m good at solving problems and getting through things. Then, once the worst of things is over, I tend to sink into a funk. It will pass. It always does. Just have to remember that these feelings will not last.
It’s good to read about everyone’s successes and struggles today. It makes me feel so much less alone.
@Gracie18 congratulations on one week! You’re doing great! Keep going!
@tommo 44 days!!! Woohoo!!! I’m sure it’s a bit nerve wracking to be going to see your friends, but I think you set yourself up for success by picking an activity that doesn’t lend itself to drinking. Your true friends will want to spend time with you, no matter what. As painful as it might be, the people who drop out of your life because of your sobriety weren’t meant to stay there anyway.
@Penguin congratulations on 60 days!
@Seb nearly at 30 days! That’s awesome! I’m so proud of you for sticking with this in spite of the stresses you’ve been experiencing!
@Tomek reading your check ins every day is one of the joys of my life these days! You inspire me to keep going, even when things seem impossible.
@anon79808082 I cannot fathom how hard it is for you without your brother. I am so sorry for your loss. The fact that you can maintain your sobriety in the face of such pain is a huge inspiration for me. Thank you for sharing your story.
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