@Briella, I’m so happy that you’re feeling good. I think staying off of social media is a good idea. When I decided I was serious about getting sober this time, I deleted all of my social media: Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. I figured it would be easier not to see all the pictures and updates from my “friends” at parties, etc. I figured I’d give it 30 days and see where I landed. Well, it turns out I have hours more a day to do what I’d like, and I don’t feel so negative, so they remain deleted. I hope you have a lovely Sunday!
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About point 1-2. Sadly this is totally normal. You cope differently with feelings, which means your brain has to adapt. Changing your ways for sobriety means a lot of great things will come out of this change. But at first, change equal difference, which equal strangeness, which means discomfort in your life experience. I can’t tell you how long it will last because true thing is that it depends of a lot of things. I encourage you to go to sometime go to the bottom of the feeling to see what is your need under it; and sometime to just deal with it with new coping skills that you should have a list of (when sad I can do… to change my mind or make me feel better). As for the suicidal thought I would approach it the same way feelings hit you, being all ear to the need expressed by this thought. Of course if you have any plan of concrete action in this direction I would recommend to reach for help at this moment.
Maybe try to approach those feelings as a new experience ? See how you can deal with them differently that you used to deal with.
Fuck alcohol. So much trouble it has bring in our life.
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Day 177 clean and sober today. Not sure which way things are going to go today as far as my relationship. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers today it’s a very painful subject for me to deal with thank you guys. 
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Day 71. Woke up to a rainy, gray day, so it looks like it will be a day of baking!
@Truckinmonster21congratulations on 400 days!
@Drave welcome, and we’ll done on 1 week! Keep going!
@M-be-free49, I so relate to what you wrote! The cravings will come and go. Maybe they always will. But you’re choosing to work through them and keep going! You’re really inspiring to me!
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I’m definitely praying for you. I hope that things work out in the best way for you and that you can have a peaceful Sunday.
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@TSan thank you so much ! Seeing my neighbor nodding off heroin is not a pretty sight this morning but a fresh sober reminder to never return to my DOC . 
have a beautiful day.
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Please don’t stop sharing your experience, this is for you. Don’t worry about what others think, that’s their problem not yours. Keep taking care of you, it really does help all of us as well. I know it’s been really difficult for you, but you’re doing this and kicking ass. Progress not perfection. 
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Alright guys. Because of your encouragement and support, I told my wife. She responded so well. She said, “I knew you stopped drinking but I didn’t know why.” I just spilled it all to her. Such a weight off of my shoulders now. Big sigh of relief. 15 days and going strong.
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Glad to read this!
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Checking in I am two months and 7 days clean it’s getting more difficult fore me this sobriety it’s not about using but my head is like a minefield maby my expectations are to hy and have to accept my situation how it is but I am glad to be clean and have to take it day by day and I have to concentrate on my recovery it’s good to have a app like this to share thing’s that are on my mind
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173 days. Had a great sleep the past two nights thanks to my man being there. I told him I will never again take his presence for granted. My sobriety doesn’t depend on him nor am I sober for him but his presence in my life is something I’m extremely grateful for. Like others have posted recently I have questioned our relationship on so many levels. Slowly realizing that the components of our relationship that I’ve been questioning are really my insecurities surfacing. As I deal with them, the fight or flight response is frequently present in me. Although I’m struggling I am making an honest effort to do neither and sit in the discomfort. Only sitting long enough to ascertain what I’m truly feeling. The other night I “ran” from a situation between my partner and I. Went outside for a smoke and realized it was misperceived rejection. I finished my smoke, returned to my partner and told him I was returning with my tail between my legs. He surprised me when he basically said he’s used to it. Initially this hurt but turned to appreciation for his patience and understanding. I appreciate my relationship and his support and am feeling more at ease each day.
Not sure what’s on the agenda for today but I’m going to smile all the way through it. Hope everyone has a great 24.
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Happy Independence Day to my Findland friends @Olivia, @Milele and @Mephistopheles. Hope you all enjoyed your day.
I’m adding @Jennajen even though you’re in Sweden at the moment.
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@TSan congrats on 70 days 
it really is that time of the year for me too.
@cwak congrats on 2 weeks try to have the conversation, a phrase that has always stuck with me on my journey so far is ‘secrets keep you sick’. edit - well done for telling her, so pleased she was supportive.
@Misokatsu omg my heart broke reading that, praying he comes home, is he an indoor cat usually? My 2 are too.
@anon51903143 welcome and congrats on your progress so far
@residentevil glad you’re back here trying again.
@Charlie_C congrats on 3 weeks
@Truckinmonster21 congrats on 400
@Drave congrats on your week
@Maria well I like what you have to say, I’m a silent observer too and have never found my voice.
@Harold congrats on 8 months
86 days.
I’ve stayed in all weekend, and feel really good about it. My foot is thanking me too. I feel really content and relaxed and it’s such a welcomed feeling for a change. I’ve binged on crisps and been smoking cigs again today, but I’m planning to reset tonight and stay strong again.
I’ve been catching up on 13 Reasons Why, and it has made me cry so many times today, I can relate to so much of it and when triggered my feelings feel as raw as they ever did, but I rarely can cry since starting T in early 2014, so at the same time it has felt healing and cathartic to have that release, as prior to starting T I cried on and off all day every day since my Mum died when I was 8 years old, and I wish I still could get that release when needed. I’ve still got all of season 4 to watch next week too. I haven’t enjoyed a program as much in a very long time, so it’s been nice this weekend.
Here’s to another sober week 
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Checking in at 90 days sober! I wrote a little bit about it here: Rosa at 90, and Anne at 99
My buddy Chucho is doing better and hasn’t collapsed in the last two days. We are still taking it a day at a time and enjoying his kisses and cuddles and puppy-like moments. Physically I’m okay, managing. Going to look into a telemedicine opportunity this week. Finally got the Christmas stuff out of the basement and will start getting some holiday cheer on!
Love out to the TS family today! I am grateful for you!
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90 days! Fantastic! Good for you!!!
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Working on my second day #10. Making cookies, knitting presents and decorating. Pretty cozy. May you all enjoy a safe and sober Sunday
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Looks extremely cozy Figgy! Enjoy your sober Sunday.
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