Checking in daily to maintain focus #30

My friend. That alcohol is a bitch. You know this. It’s always calling out to us. It’s our job to quiet the noise and distract ourselves and keep busy and occupied and do something safe…whatever that looks like.

I can totally relate to you. I’ve been working from home the last 2 years and with the divorce being the same amount of time; I’ve been living alone…in my cozy 500sq ft studio. For most of my 30 years I was a 5:00 drinker. Since working from home the vodka shots started at 7am. All day. Every day. I too am alone. I don’t have any friends either. In a way I like my own space but I do miss company. It’s not easy. I never thought and always wondered how am I going to quit drinking when all the odds are against me? Isolation, no connections, no accountability, etc.

Well I’m living proof this could be done…even if I’m still early in my sobriety. But if you asked my family you’d think I’d have 20 years under my belt. You have some serious time my friend. That is truly awesome work. It’s an inspiration to me. It’s not worth giving up all that blood, sweat and tears that got you here.

Pulling and rooting for you my friend. Totally believe in you :pray:t3:

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It’s a YouTube challenge from the beginning, and also an awesome movie with Jennifer Garner. Basically it’s 24 hours where the parents have to say yes to the kids wishes, No is not allowed.

However there’s a budget ofc and some rules.
The budget is upto every family to adjust after what they can afford.
And the rules also depends a little bit. Nothing that will affect the future is allowed, so that means that you can’t go and buy a pet for example. Or travel abroad since the yes day is only for 24 hours. (Technically we could go back and forth to Denmark for example or somewhere else in Europe like France because it’s a short distance, but everything is Covid-19 closed so we’re staying in Sweden)

The kids also needs to plan and agree on what to do on the yes day, beforehand and show the parents a plan.

And they need to behave to deserve it. Our boys behaves all the time (except for when they are fighting with eachother, but with 1,5 years between them that’s kinda natural) they had a hard year just like all of us, so we wanted to treat them with a yes day.

However our boys doesn’t really have high demands, and wished to have cinnamon rolls and bacon for breakfast, hamburgers for lunch and pizza for dinner. And spend the day in their underwears playing games on their phone. And maybe visit the local toy store (It’s not really a toy store we’re on the countryside so they’re selling everything besides groceries, makeup, toys, home decor paint yeah you get it)

So we’re planning a surprise for them, and have booked an hotel weekend in a nearby city (Gothenburg) we’re they can get an all inclusive bracelet and have unlimited access to popcorn drinks, and Icecream during our stay. The possibility to visit a big toy store, an even bigger candy store, play at a huge playground, visit the harbor, and eat at McDonald’s. A rare treat for them because once again we’re out in the sticks with a 40 min one drive to the closest McDonald’s, and as y’all know, I’ve got no drivers license.

We haven’t yet told them about the hotel stay, because we didn’t know how things would work out. But being happy with almost nothing, and have been striving through all this mess without any complaints they totally deserve it in my opinion. :blush:
There is a chance they just want to stay at the hotel room with the all inclusive playing games, but there’s also an hotel jacuzzi available so I doubt that :joy:

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Great looking dogs. I hope Old Snarly was just fooling around. :rofl::rofl:

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Sounds like a fantastic day!! So glad you supported the birthday boy and offered a voice of reason.

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Wow that is truely motivational! Thank you :heart:
I made it through the day sober. Drank lots of water and I read a little. And spend a lot of time on here.

I did keep my 506 days in mind. Did not want to give that up at all!

Loneliness can be a bitch… i do admire you for living all by yourself during this pandemic. Plus dealing with a divorce is brutal too. Hope you are doing allright with that?
In september I had a nasty break up myself. Moved back in with my partens and (thank god) sold the house I owned with my ex girlfriend pretty fast and smooth. And somehow I managed to stay sober.
If I’d still be drinking during that period I think I’d be dead…

Thank you so much!!

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348 days. Had a great start to my day yesterday but I missed checking in here & 2 days was a lot of catch up lol. I took myself into the city yesterday morning to get new jeans. The whole process was smooth and uplifting. Tried on 3 pairs of jeans and went home with two. I have lost 4 inches on my waist and have not been this size for almost 20 years. It truly feels amazing. Today I plan for a lazy day and am returning to bed shortly for a nap. If things go right, my man and I will be having a kid less night at the drive in. Tomorrow is a day off, must say I love having a long weekend every weekend, so I will catch up on domestic duties then.

@CATMANCAM Belated congrats on 2 weeks. I’m so happy to hear about your progress. You are strong and I’m proud of you.
@Clarity A lil late Sarah but I’m just going to say enjoy your training venture.
@dalex77 Massive congratulations on your personal best. Fuck Fentanyl.
@Rockstar24777 LOVE the tattoo addition bro
@MagicILY & @Freeyourmind Congratulations on 6 months.
@RosaCanDo BOOM there it is. . .that sober spark in my hermana.
@Mephistopheles Awesome numbers and I absolutely love your BBQ brand.
@Nordique Somehow seeing your 350 gave me the chills. We’ve come so far and we’re so close. Still learning and cheering right behind you.

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There is no place more beautiful than Ireland, especially on a sunny day. Think home is calling my name :thinking::ireland:

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Thank you so much!! That means the world to me, it’s been so great going through the journey together.

It sounds like you are killin’ it yourself! I’m so glad.

Can’t wait to share 1 year of sobriety together soon!

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Wow! Never heard of it, but it sounds great! I think I would love to have a yes day myself :blush:
I wish them the best yes day they could imagine!
Thank you for explaining to me Sophie.

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Thank you.
I’ve learned a lot of new things from the kids youtube :joy: and I totally agree, maybe we should have an adult yes-day. No laundry, no cooking, no responsibilities just fun for 24 hours. Honestly I would probably eat pizza and watch cartoons, but I like the idea.

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Checking in on day 42. Tomorrow morning I return to my beloved kettlebell workout class after leaving due to drinking in fall 2019. I am so excited. I am fat and weak, but dedicated to get in shape and regain my strength and PR lifts.

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Come home @ALC227 :rofl::rofl:

:notes: In my memory I will always see the town that I have loved so well :notes::rofl::rofl:

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today I’m 90days!!! :tada::star_struck::sparkles::dancer::sparkling_heart::grin::clap::muscle:

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Great job Shieldmaiden ! You better do something nice for yourself that’s what I’ve started doing on my milestones :smile:

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Congratulations Jo. :boom::boom::boom::boom:
That is a big one. I found 30 days to be HUGE!! But when I got my 90 it was like. “We’re going to fucking do this this!! ” ODAAT.
Great job.
Keep up the awesome work.
:pray:t2::heart::boom::boom::boom:

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Just a quick check in. First time sober on our boat trip. Weather was perfect! Hubby drank just a couple of beers and didn’t get waisted. Our friend was with us and stayed sober too. Our little boy had a blast on the water. So great day. Now tired and happy to go to sleep.

Goodnight everyone!

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Congratulations :tada: on 90 days :ok_hand:

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Just checking in, again :see_no_evil:Trying to pass time and make the Day Come to end so I can sleep and hopefully feel better tomorrow. Not having the worst of withdrawls, at least not yet. Other times quit drinking I did not have really bad withdrawls that may occure, so think Im lucky that way, when I think about how bad my drinking was all those times. Do any have expiriense that the withdrawls get worse for everytime sobering up, or if they get less, the same? Im always scared that this time quitting I will get the worst withdrawls, like I will die of it

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Thank :blush::pray: you, and yes I have been doing the same it’s something I have always done wen putting everything down. Showing myself all lovely :heart_eyes: things in life :sparkles::relieved:

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